Karma has finally happened

[stupidstupidstupidgirl]

Have name changed for this as don’t want it connected with my current name.

Roughly 7/8 years ago I finally found the courage to leave a very abusive relationship. I had to get a restraining order and move house to get rid of him. He was always threatening to kill himself if I left and would send me pictures of pill packets etc.

Anyway, fast forward, to the other day and I find out on the grapevine that he’s not only having tests for cancer but he’s also fucked his insides and will be on medication for life.

AIBU that karma has finally happened to offset the hurt/drama and general chaos he caused including DV.

I’ve not thought of him for years and this bought back quite a lot of horrible memories. I never sought revenge and have lived my best life since leaving him.

I think it's bad karma for you to be glad he's having a shit time, although it really does sound like the fucker deserved it. Makes a change from the stories about women being fucked over and the man going off living best life with younger, more wealthy woman with no kids leaving ex wife with all childcare responsibilities and fuck all to show for the years she gave him.

thats not how karma works you dont get it flipped back round on you when it hits the other person

eye for an eye simple as that

OP i hope you feel somewhat vindcated, i am patiently waiting for karma to hit someone for me, i will happily wait and watch

I agree with a pp that maybe karma doesn't work that way tbh, but I'm not sure I can wish cancer on anyone.

I'm pleased you are in a good place outside of that relationship though. Perhaps focus on that, good luck op

Well I’m glad he’s having a shit time and I don’t even know you.
Yes I know I should try and be a better person but sometimes it’s nice when nasty people get what they deserve.

I don’t condone the schadenfreude either, but…your post implies that animal cruelty is worse than cruelty to the OP. Which is weird

I don't agree with an eye for an eye. I just think it's an uncivilized way of going about life. It's usually ignorant people that come out with those sort of phrases. Schadenfreude is not an attractive trait.

My ex husband left me and our four young children overnight some years ago and left me penniless.
Our lives were very tough for some time but never once did I wish cancer on him, sorry OP but I actually find that rather wicked.

Corny as it sounds I think the best revenge is a life well lived. Being pleased that someone has got cancer/health issues is pretty sick, and while what he did to you also sounds deplorable I would like to think I could be the better person. I’m not saying I’d be crushed by the news but I certainly wouldn’t be celebrating it either. Indifference would be the best reaction.

I don’t believe in karma. Good and bad things happen to good and bad people. You feel how you feel. I’m not going to shame you for it and don’t think anyone should expect you to feel sorry for him.
Optimal healing would be not caring what his life is like. Focus on building a brilliant life for yourself, regardless of what’s going on for him.

i Wish you well op, I know how hard it is to leave and stay safe. But hate is a cancer in itself. Dont let it consume you.

Deplorable is a bit much, why is animal cruelty worse than beating a woman up? Why do you get to decide?

Wow OP. There will be people reading your words who are battling Cancer themselves right now. 😞

I'm a cancer survivor. Are you suggesting I somehow deserved it?

Fuck me. That’s enough internet for today

So it’s ok for him to have abused OP but if he’d done it to an animal, karma would be justified….

You haven't caused his problems and I can't and won't judge you for thinking he got what he deserved. Your thoughts won't make his health better or worse.

I hope you can quickly work through the feelings this has bought up and banish him from your mind again so that you can get back to living your best life.

I have been in an abusive relationship. But I realised pretty quickly on that holding on to that anger, hate and bitterness was only damaging me. So I let it go.

The fact that you are reacting this way to this news shows that you are not close to healed, even this many years later. Yes, it's sometimes impossible to heal fully, but holding on to it so tightly that you get this visceral reaction a decade later to news of him is so damaging for you.

I don't believe there's any such thing as Karma really. Bad things happen to good people and vice versa all the time.

That said, if you are seeing bad things happening to a bad person who has wronged you in the past, you don't need anyone else's permission to enjoy the feeling that maybe justice does happen occasionally and to enjoy every second of it 🙂

Nah, don’t feel bad. None of the people on here being appalled at you lived your life with this individual. They don’t know what he’s done. Nor do they know how you might have been affected in the longer term.

I’ve never been abused but c someone very close to me was, and if I found out the person who done it was dead or dying, I’d be happy to hear it. Not one apology offered to anyone for feeling like that.

How have you possibly got that from what she wrote? 🙄

Because she's saying that he got cancer because he did something wrong in the past. That's what karma supposedly is. How can you possibly NOT get that?

100% this. My ex who used to frequently beat the shit out of me went on to become a drug addict and died of an overdose. Definitely a happy moment when I heard