Friend not talking to me because I shared a photo from her Wedding

[ByTidyHare]

I attended my best friends wedding a few weeks ago. The day after, I posted some photos to Instagram which were mainly of me and my DP, with one of them of myself and my friend.

This was posted in the morning and on the same afternoon, my friend messaged me to ask I took it down as she didn’t want any photos posted from the day. I said of course and removed it. Before the ceremony, there was an announcement not to upload anything to social media which I assumed related solely to the ceremony and as we were quite near the back, I didn’t take any photos of this anyway. The photo of my friend and I was taken later that evening.

My friend went on her honeymoon soon after. I learnt from another friend whilst she was away that she was really upset with me for uploading the photo and that it ruined her reveal of the day/dress with professional photos as people would have seen it on my page for the few hours it was uploaded.

I didn’t want to message my friend whilst she was still away so I waited until she returned. I apologised, said I was horrified and that I’d mis-understood the instructions thinking they only related to the ceremony.

She replied to say she was still really upset and that I took away the reveal which she’d only have one chance to do in her life and she can’t believe I ignored her wishes. I again apologised but she hasn’t spoke to me since and I’ve learnt from another friend that she doesn’t think she will forgive me.

AIBU to think my friend is now over reacting or is her reaction proportionate?

She is being ott (I mean how many followers do you have), but if there’s a big overlap I would be pretty angry too. She specifically asked no sharing and then you went and did it. Of course she meant the whole thing - who takes photos during the ceremony?

Where did this rule come from?? I’ve never heard of it!!!

I really must be getting old!

It is outrageous trying to control what others post.

And, does she really think that people she hasn’t cared to invite to her wedding are waiting with bated breath for the grand reveal of yet another boring wedding dress?!

She sounds like a massive pain in the arse. I couldn't be friends with someone whose that precious (and egotistical).

For the love of all that is holy. Just when I think I have seen it all with bridal preciousness, something else pops up. You made a mistake. Your corrected it as soon as you knew it was a mistake. She needs to get over herself.

Unless she is a celebrity WTF is she talking about. Surely anyone important to her would have been at the wedding and no one else cares about someone’s wedding photos.

Tbh while I think she's being a bit dramatic - no one is bothered about her "reveal" and above who would be surely attended the wedding and saw her dress anyway? - I do think it was really bad form of you to upload a photo of the bride before she had done so herself. I think that's common knowledge nowadays that you don't do that.

The bride should have explained fully why she didn't want photos going on social media, so it could be argued that as her instructions weren't detailed enough she should forgive her friend for a genuine, honest mistake. And grow up.

I've also never heard of this rule.

The big reveal to her public, who didn't attend the wedding??? As someone married over 30 years ago, this kind of thinking is incomprehensible. "The younger generation" etc..

Hopefully the madness will wear off and she will see how very unimportant this is compared to your friendship op. Hopefully.

Send her this thread.

You’re better off without her in your life, she sounds flaky fake and up herself. A lucky escape for you I think

Assuming you’ve had a good relationship up to now, her to end a friendship over a mistake like this is insanity. Okay she wanted to do a grand reveal and in her eyes that was spoiled but she needs to get over it. If she doesn’t forgive you then it’s her loss and not yours.

Precious princess, who needs friends like that, move on and ignore xx

I’ve learnt today from another friend that some of her older family members/relatives posted photos on Facebook which she was in (the day after) and that she didn’t take issue with this because she isn’t on Facebook herself.

My ‘fault’ was that the photo was put on Instagram..

You made a genuine mistake, apologised, and removed the photo quickly. If she wanted a strict reveal, she could’ve been clearer or even asked guests to sign an NDA. Hopefully, with time, she’ll come around.

Surely anyone that might actually give a toss what she looked like on the day....were actually THERE ON THE DAY??!! block, delete and move on.

She’s being a dick.
But you were asked not to share it.

Sorry I’m not usually on the side of bridezillas but its the unwritten rule, everyone waits until the bride and groom share photos, same goes for baby arrival announcements

If she had a million pound contract with a magazine, and your photo voided the contract, I could understand. If not she is being unreasonable 🙄

How can people think they’re so important that their wedding photos require a big social media reveal. Anyone who would want to see her was likely at the wedding and anyone who wasn’t at the wedding couldn’t give much of a fuck.

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable and I’d probably not want to be friends with someone who did this to me anyway.

My friend requested the same at her wedding recently. She’s honestly one of the least precious and attention seeking people I know. Very natural and down to earth and not uptight at all, she just wanted to be the first to post pictures of their wedding day.

I first heard this request years ago, it’s not unusual at all.

And to counter all the snippy comments about no-one caring about her wedding/photos, not everything thinks like this, thankfully!

This reminds me of when a friend of my ex and his gf were making a massive deal about not telling anyone what kind of car they were getting after making a big deal about getting a new car. Literally no one cared and it was just stupid self import behaviour.

She’s not your best friend. Full stop.