Is this weird parenting?

[JillAndJenTheFlowerpotMen]

I have one dd who is a young teenager and who hasn’t yet hit puberty. I have been thinking that when she starts her period, I might buy her a small piece of jewellery to give her, to mark her transition to womanhood. And take her mind off the fact that she’ll have hormonal shit going on for the next forty years or so.

something like this: https://www.johnlewis.com/auree-hampton-gold-vermeil-pendant-necklace/gold-ruby/p111668104

Am I being weird? Or is this a nice thing to do?

Personally I think it’s very bizarre.

Yep weird.

Very odd indeed!

my parents took me out for a meal to cheer me up & distract me from the discomfort. I felt sick all day & hungry and couldn't work out why!

I'd love a menstrual necklace!

Said no teenager ever.

You'd be better off getting her a pamper set of some sort and some snacks surely?

Very weird.

I think it’s nice 🙂

I don't think it's weird if that's what you want to do. I just bought mine some chocolate and a hot water bottle!

Don't forget the wet dream wristband!!!

tbh if someone likes jewellery I don't see why they would care what the reason for buying it was.

Remember different generations are going to have very different views & many MNs users are likely older than you. Some probably will have barely discussed it with their parents!

Weird definitely

It's weird.

Could you imagine.

"Love your necklace, where did you get it"

"Oh my Mum bought it when I started my period to mark my transition into womanhood"

Or

"What will go nicely with this dress, oh yeah, my period necklace".

I bought mine chocolate and a hot water bottle.

I wouldn't want anything to remind me of that

It's quite odd to get something to mark the event, but it wouldn't be odd to up the TLC. I get that your intentions are good though.

https://www.toppleandburn.com/product-page/fuck-youterus

Only if it's this one.
Otherwise, it's fucking weird.

I never gave anything, though kind of wish I did as poor child ended up with a blood transfusion as her first period didn’t stop! But no, I don’t think it’s the done thing

I think it’s nice. I’ve been reading The Anxious Generation and one of the interesting points that it makes is that in western culture we’ve lost all of the traditional markers of reaching milestone moments for our kids. More traditional cultures still do this so children know and are treated differently when they hit these milestones. For instance, Amazonian tribes take their boys away from the home for a ceremony for a few days, which might involve competiting a physical challenge, and when they return they are a man.

I’m sure I’m not explaining it well, but I think it’s a great idea OP.

I don't think you need buy her anything to mark her first period. I think it would bf making too much of it. It's just a normal stage of development like first steps, potty training etc. She will still be a child when she has her first period not a woman. Also if you had a son would you do similar then he enters into puberty?

I think it’s a lovely idea - it’s a nice marker of having a good, positive relationship towards her period and being a woman.

Some people believe in wearing red around their period :)

I don't see anything wrong with doing this OP. It is better imo, doing something like that, rather than buying her chocolate, and snacks.

Very weird.

Weirdest thing I’ve read on here today - and that’s saying something.. Buy her it if you never want her to wear it, lol…

I'd have found it a mortifying if my mother had bought me a period memento to wear. I was quite self conscious and she made a big deal of it.

@crowncoats yes lovely point. Alain de Botton argues similar in Atheism 2.0 - that even if we’ve chucked out religion, humans still need anchors and rituals. Jews have a bar/bar mitzvah to mark transition from childhood to puberty.