Guests wasting food

[PottersMarsBars]

We have a bbq coming up and one of the guests is known for overfilling her plate and only eating a small amount of it. She does it every single time. I don’t feel comfortable saying anything as it might cause friction with the relationship dynamics but seeing an obscene amount of food going into the bin really pisses me off it’s like she’s throwing my money away. On top of that she comes over with empty hands, not that we need anything but I wouldn’t go to someone’s house and not take a bottle of wine with me specially when she drinks a lot. Would it be wrong if I served her instead of letting her serve herself? Not inviting her isn’t an option unfortunately.

I can't believe how many people here monitor what other people put on their plates and watch to see if they eat it all or not...and then let it ruin their day.

Message in advance “don’t worry about bringing any food with you, just whatever you’d like to drink”. At least that’s one issue sorted.

Small plates

Do it the Aussie way, ask them to bring a plate and also what they drink. This way she has to contribute. I would never attend anything empty handed.

Small plates is the new "cancel the cheque" 😂

I agree, I couldn’t care less if people eat all the food on their plate or one bite of it. This person may have an eating disorder / issues with food and feel uncomfortable around food, you just don’t know. As long as people have a good time at my house that’s all I care about ! 🩷✌🏽

I grew up in Africa and saw hunger and poverty all around me. I don't monitor what people eat - take as little or as much as you like, and go back for second or thirds if you like - I'm delighted when people enjoy what I cook. BUT, don't waste it! Leftovers can feed a family for several days. No point throwing away good food :( There are hungry people in the world, and there is a cost of living crisis. Food waste in the UK is phenomenal.

It doesn't ruin my day, but it is a shame for the planet and the pocket!

Don't let her bin the food. Say: "let me box that up for you", put it in a takeaway container, and insist she takes it with her.