To think money given to your child should be saved for them?

[pontipinemum]

For context my children and 2 yrs and a baby. When they are older I will let them make their own choices, but will guide them.

When I receive money for them I put it into their credit union account. Some parents apparently do not do this. Money I received as a child often didn't make it to my account, and I have heard others saying the same. Then I've hear mums in groups saying they will put it towards something for the child or towards the zoo tickets etc.

AIBU to think they only thing you should do with it is save it for the child?

This is outside of extreme circumstances such as without the money the child wouldn't have a winter coat etc

We save a lot for our son. Cash gifts are used to cover things like swimming lessons, new kit etc.

We ask regular givers like grandparents of they want the money spent on savings, experiences, lessons or treats and abide by that and they all say you choose.

His great grandparents enjoy hearing about his swimming progress etc, I don't think they're bothered by it.

Unless ppl r using their kids gifted money to buy cigarettes or something like that then it’s really none of ur business what ppl do with it. I keep my kids gifted money and sometimes it’s used for a special day out or to get them a new toy/item that otherwise we might not afford.

"Anecdotal at best" 😂

I've been given money for savings and given money to do something nice or get clothes for DC. Usually the giver has specified what it's for. If it's just money for DC, I might do either with it... Going on a lovely trip that Grandma gave us the money for as an example.

We save 99% of it into their bank accounts but very occasionally we will buy something with it that we know they will enjoy, most recently a mud kitchen which they love but this is only usually perhaps once or twice a year. We are very lucky that we are comfortable financially so we are able to just buy what we want for the kids whenever we want but I know family members also enjoy seeing something that’s been bought with the money they’ve sent.

Providing the money is either being saved for the child or spent on the child I can’t see why it matters at all, very judgemental in my opinion. Some families may not have the funds to just buy toys and treats and days out for the kids and so the money gets spent on providing the children with those things and I cannot see how that is an issue at all tbh.

So what?

The point remains nobody is STEALING front eh kids when they spend the money on things for the kids...

I was just gonna add some similar. Some but not all of course, will piss it up the wall when they get it at 18 !

I think you’ve quoted me wrong, I’m the one saying it’s not stealing and of course it should be spent on days out etc

Oh, sorry!