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New mum friend came over, Left my house in a tip

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MyAquaGuide · 29/04/2025 21:57

Made a new mum friend 2 months ago at a baby class and we clicked. After the second baby class she invited me round for a cuppa. When I went I stayed there for an hour, had a cuppa and she offered me a few biccies. Also Brought her a box of chocolates as its the first time I went round. Upon leaving she gave me some nappies. she didn't need.

I invited her round to mine and I feel like a mug. She brought an entire cooler bag of food for her baby. Used my sons new highchair and is baby led weaning so we went in the garden and the food went everywhere. She also needed cheese for his food so I ended up helping her prepare it from my fridge because she didn't bring any. She stayed 3 hours and I gave her endless drinks and food. When she left the house was a tip. She started walking into the kitchen and making herself at home very quickly. Oh and she didn't even bring anything to my house for the first time. Isn't that just a courteous gesture? When she left she said she could come round every week because her other son is at nursery!

OP posts:
Almostwelsh · 02/05/2025 13:14

MyAquaGuide · 29/04/2025 22:00

Doesn't everyone bring something when they go round to someones house for the first time?

No

Alsonification · 02/05/2025 13:25

My mam used to tell me about a lady that did this to her when all us kids were younger. She’d arrive in the morning with her 2 kids, sit in my parents house all day wrecking the place & then go home to her own house after dinner. She’d tell my mam how clean she has her own house & it’s great not to cook etc while my mam waited on her hand & foot.
This would happen regularly. Eventually mam got rid of her but it took a while!

I had a similar situation when I moved to where I am now. My friends sister started turning up at all hours day & night. I started answering the door in my coat & telling her I was going out & just driving off but it took a few goes of that to stop her.
Op i suggest you do the same if she arrives unannounced. Fuck that. She only lives 5 mins away so it’s no hardship for her to go back home.

oh and I always bring a pack of biscuits or cakes when I’m invited somewhere for a cuppa. Every time!

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