To not be happy that my new work lanyard has “she/her” on it without me asking?

[TheNavyAnt]

I’ve just started a new job and noticed that my staff lanyard/pass automatically has my name and “she/her” printed underneath it. Nobody asked if I wanted pronouns added - it was just assumed and put there by default.

I don’t have anything against people sharing pronouns if they want to, but personally, I wouldn’t have chosen to have it printed on my pass. It feels a bit forced, like I’m being made to take part in something I didn’t ask for and I’m not sure why it needs to be there at all unless I choose it.

AIBU to feel slightly uncomfortable about this? Or should I just let it go as one of those “modern workplace” things?

I've managed 57 years without people stating they are a she/her, him/he, they/them or whatever they want to be. I have a first name and it can be used by anyone without them getting in knots about titles, surname or whether I have a vagina or penis.

What the hell do they mean by that??

Is that a new gender we haven’t heard about? 😂

I would ask if it's compulsory and if it can be reprinted with no pronouns. I have seen it creeping into emails at work but no way will I be partaking.

We were told to at one point. I never did. No one ever noticed. Or if they did they didn’t say anything.

I wish I had the energy to care about something so inconsequential to how I live my every day life. Getting so caught up in pronouns that seeing your own written down makes you "uncomfortable" is just bizarre to me.

Go directly to the person who prints the pass and ask for a new one without the pronouns.

I don't understand why it's needed, surely people just call you by your name not she or her? Seems like a pointless addition when a name is enough

It’s the imposition of transgender theory by the back door. I think we do need to stand up to it.

There's plenty of evidence that women are placed at a systemic disadvantage to men when attention is called to their sex in the workplace. No one should be forced to have something on their work ID or gear that indicates their sex unless their job responsibilities make it necessary to differentiate or specify sex. The egalitarian and democratic best practice is to leave gendered pronouns and titles (Ms., Mr., Lady, Sir, etc.) off unless functionally necessary.

I wish I had the naivete to think this was inconsequential

You're describing a situation where you colluded with a lie.

If it'ß company policy then it should be mentioned on application forms and at interview.
I wouldn't even consider working for anyone that forced such nonsense upon their employees.
My pronouns are me/fucking mad at the world and its nonsense

How blind you are not to see the issue.

Fact that no one asked your preferred is an offensive double standard.

put some white tape over it.

If asked … say: no one asked me my preferred pronouns. Assumptions have been made which are deeply offensive.

You are 100% correct to say “I have no preferred pronouns”

I’m only 28 but this entire ‘woke’ young generation is weird. People should be entitled to do what THEY want to do and who THEY want to be. But forcing other people to partake in their woke bs is exhausting and unwanted.

its like their new thing is calling biological women ‘cis women’. we say we JUST want to be called women, no cis and they kick off saying it’s factual. So our wishes of how we want to be addressed is not listened to, but god forbid you mis gender or choose not to respect that ‘groups’ wishes. It’s horrible

scrape it off, cover it or use a different lanyard.

don't pander to this bullshit.

You're talking nonsense!

So because a company makes a sudden change for ideological reasons, everyone just has to suck it up? Er no, life doesn't work like that I'm afraid.

I have been at my company for nearly 20 years, so pretty confident I'm already a 'good fit', thanks. If they insisting on displaying pronouns I would push back on it. As would many others I suspect.

Well at least if he had hurt feelings, we now know he can have a good cry in the gents

This is a point you should consider if you challenge OP. There’s a phenomenon called “stereotype threat”.

https://4w.pub/identity-crisis-pronouns/amp/

But you have the energy to care enough to post on this thread?

I was recently corrected in a meeting when referring to a new colleague (whom I've never met) as "he", that "Jonathan identifies as he/him". I merely did a Paddington stare whilst tumbleweed rolled across the floor (I should add that I'm in a voluntary role but these were paid employees).

Imagine my joy at the next meeting when the woman who'd corrected me used "he" of Jonathan.

I want people to be able to determine my pronouns for themself, without this additional layer of woke protocol!
I really don’t mind my colleagues in India addressing me as “Mr Firstname” and I don’t correct them when they do (I’m female and married, so a Mrs)
I’ve used an affectionate address for my pronoun in Outlook - nobody has complained about “Darling” so far!

Sorry what?
she expected you to add in a him to each he?

You : Jonathan is looking after that he has said he will deliver the report tomorrow.

Her you should have said : Jonathan is looking after that he/him has said he/him will deliver the report tomorrow.

He is correct for a he/him. It's setting out parts of grammar (entirely unnecessarily, unless it's neopronouns, but that beside the point) and you use whichever is correct in the sentence, not both every time. 'He's leading the project, so update him when you're done.'

He/they is a different matter - then you're expected by some people to use both and alternate, and by others to use either but they don't mind which.

So the person who corrected you is completely wrong.