To not be happy that my new work lanyard has “she/her” on it without me asking?

[TheNavyAnt]

I’ve just started a new job and noticed that my staff lanyard/pass automatically has my name and “she/her” printed underneath it. Nobody asked if I wanted pronouns added - it was just assumed and put there by default.

I don’t have anything against people sharing pronouns if they want to, but personally, I wouldn’t have chosen to have it printed on my pass. It feels a bit forced, like I’m being made to take part in something I didn’t ask for and I’m not sure why it needs to be there at all unless I choose it.

AIBU to feel slightly uncomfortable about this? Or should I just let it go as one of those “modern workplace” things?

It’s the pronoun people and pronoun police that people are backing away from.

If you are an employee it does.

You are agreeing to be subjected to a trial process on your personal observations which could result in you loosing employment protections or even your employment.

You could be reported and that becomes a HR record which can reduce you promotion prospects and increase your chances of redundancy.

You add an additional layer of office politics which can be used against you.
There was an OP on here who was being bullied by a junior male staff member who wanted men to be centered on womens day as that was "inclusive" and that as a he/him his opinion(s) was "important".

You are accepting that a man can self ID into the pool used for the sex based pay gap who will never need pregnancy and related related leave and is much less likely to need time off work for child care provision. So he helps bump up the number closing the gap on an annual basis.

Yes some may be doing that too, as in backing away from pronouns, but anyone putting wibble at the front and end of their sentences instead would be getting swiftly backed away from too 😂
yes I know it's their idea of a joke but you just know someone might actually do that 😁

I’d be pretty sharp about this and go to whoever issued the lanyard and say something along the lines of “Why is this on here? I don’t associate with gender ideology. Why did you assume that I do?”

I wonder what they would do if you said you identify as a unicorn. They would probably still assume you use pronouns.

It’s quite hilarious that they added your pronouns without actually checking what your preferred pronouns were first ! So they just assumed presumably by your name and appearance you’d be she/her which kind of defeats the whole woke objective of doing it in the first place. It would be funny if it wasn’t so annoying!!
id probably have some fun drawing this out a bit and making a big deal to HR about why they felt they could assume my preferred pronouns and how upsetting that was to me - would be amusing to make them squirm !!

i absolutely refuse to bow to the trend of having this on my email signature or linked in profile and really roll my eyes when I see it (more and more often!)

I would absolutely refuse to wear it until the pronouns were taken off. It is absolutely a hill I would die on.

Exactly!! Oh the irony 🤣🤣🤣

Also reading comments on this thread by women who don’t see why it’s an issue and why should we care is sad and disappointing- it’s a slow insidious creep of new societal rules when people stop questioning why and for whom

the whole pronouns thing must only have been around for 5 years or so ?! Suddenly we’re all expected to state the obvious for the benefit of a tiny minority who might be offended - and the fear of getting it wrong and being “cancelled”
if you’re an individual who likes to be addressed by pronouns that differ from how you might be perciieved by the traditional means such as your appearance then by all means state your preference so everyone knows you’re special but why should it suddenly be a universal expectation to state what is probably mostly the obvious?!

but to be honest I think I would still have a really hard time if I was forced to address someone who is clearly male as “she / her” anyway and would probably then get fired for being a transphobe anyway

💯

In my last job, they tried to force the email signature on us. I was pretty new and junior so I was worried about challenging it - fortunately one of the most senior members of the department (who held a lot of power) said “no way am I doing this and I encourage others to also refuse” which led to the whole thing being shelved.

I actually think if you were my manager, as a very clearly female person and an actual woman would find it fun to make you use male pronouns to address me snd would for goddam sure make sure when it came to promotions and salaries that everyone knew I was a man and got treated accordingly

Yep!

I’ve had this happen too.

Definitely go to HR. If people expect you to buy into this shtick, all right, let’s do it properly.

Except you wouldn’t be treated better, because (as exemplified here) you are going to be treated worse based on your sex.

My question to movingonup would be “So what if it is important to them, when I am being told that what is important to me (reality) in an unacceptable Authentic Self?’’ From here it definitely looks like one rule for the Bro’s and one rule for the hoes, and that MovingOnUp is willing to be an enforcer.