Did I ruin family day out

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DH, dc and I had just enjoyed a lovely meal and talking about future plans. We were on great terms and had a wonderful day. When we was driving home, we decided we didn’t want the day to end and would find something else to do. As we were driving DH asked for a tissue for his hands. I was distracted talking to dd and placed a handful of them gently on his knee. They fell down by his foot. He suddenly got angry saying “why would I do that? I should’ve placed them in his hand.” I apologised and said it wasn’t a big deal. He then picked them up, crumbled them together and when I looked in his direction threw them in my face hitting my eye. Even if it was meant playful (which it wasn’t due to the sheer amount of force and his tone prior to this), it really hurt my eye and I was upset about it. Dd even saw and demanded for daddy to apologise to mommy. I said instead I wanted to go home and he blamed me for ruining the day over something minor. It rubbed me wrong as he shouldn’t have thrown it at me at all, definitely not in front of kids and he shouldn’t have done it so hard. He keeps coming in the room and asking is this how I’m going to act- I say no I am no longer upset about this and if he apologises we can continue the day. He has stormed out now and refuses to help with dc. So confused and don’t see how this is my fault.

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A husband has behaved unreasonably and in a way which put his wife and child at risk of injury. She is afraid of him and he has an unpredictable temper.

Ho ho ho, what a hilarious joke! Let's ignore the danger and the anger, and argue about whether being hit in the eye hurts!

Stun a stoat sideways, some people on here astound me.

Just proves my point. You’re seriously giving “I know you are you said you are but what am I 🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪” type of pathetic energy.

As they say, ROFL 🤣 😂

Wow, this thread has got very cunty. Seeing as life is quite unpleasant generally for a lot of people, can we not just agree to disagree and get on with it?

@CalleOcho. I really appreciate your support - both of myself and the OP, but please disengage with this sad specimen. It’s not worth your energy, the rise in your blood pressure or the derail of OP’s thread - which is what they want. I’ve been a victim of DV and what OP is experiencing could well be the first step in a pattern of escalation. She has posted for support and in response people are minimising and poking fun. It’s unacceptable, and all the more disgusting when you realise that the majority participants are female.

Anyone who uses the "funny" emoji as a snide way of getting at other people's obviously neither funny nor intended to be funny posts is not worth bothering with, on the whole.

Gobsmacking isn’t it ? It’s beyond me why anyone posts for advice on MN any more. In most threads one poster will focus on a minor detail, others will follow and a derail ensues which chases most OP’s off their own thread. They then get criticised for not coming back. And what this thread shows beyond a shadow of a doubt is that there are some women who are prepared - no, happy - to accept the shittiest, lowest bar when it comes to mens’ behaviour towards women. They know who they are. You can only pity them.

Would any of you, in all honesty, ever behave like this man did behind the wheel?? Think about it.

Don’t stress it. The posters responding in favour of OP’s DH are clearly not capable of critical thinking.

I think you’re a bloke. Or someone’s teenage son out for a laugh. No woman I know would respond like this so something so serious and which affects so many women. If you are actually female, then your bar for male behaviour towards you is set so low as to be non existent.

Lol 😂😂

Ah, so it wasn’t enough to put a laughing emoji response on my post which is invisible to other posters, you just had to respond for all to see. Pathetic.

I usually research before stating things as fact unless I'm 100% sure. Give it a try. Google. Few words. 10 seconds.

Cute you didn't get the "like" at all ☺️

Lol 😂😂😂😂

What do you mean by the last sentence?

I don't need to Google, I know I'm right.

Really doubt a balled up tissue was thrown “violently” and caused you injury whilst he was also driving so presumably he didn’t one handed 🙄

Rolled them all up in a ball…
How many tissues are we feasibly talking about here?
How many would you hand over if someone asked you for a tissue?

Well you did day "usually" tbf which I didn't notice til now, which means you agreed with the info I posted. You could have just done a blue thumb react tbh.

The "like" thing......i'm rather enjoying your confusion/naivety about it. Sorry 🤣

You're in an abusive relationship. This may have been the first act of violence, but it won't be the last. Get out as soon as possible with your daughter. It's traumatic to witness your father treating your mother is way.

It wasn’t about the tissue. He was either tired and fed up that day or something during the day pissed him off. He should have apologised once he calmed down. He ought to do so before you go to bed.

Hopefully this does not become a pattern, it often does.

He hasn’t taken any new medication has he? Or be on edge about something?

A ball of tissues could stop you braking a bit, you might have a moment of panic reaching down, I would, but it’s the part after the incident about not making up that he is in the wrong about.

If my husband did that to me I'd be telling him that it's the first and last time he will get away with throwing anything in my face. I hate men like this so much.

Infantile, innit.

It’s not about the fucking tissue. FFS. It’s about the act of throwing it in anger at the OP. Is your bar so low that you can’t see this ?

Do you think throwing things at OP is acceptable whatever he is ‘stressed’ about ?