Did I ruin family day out

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DH, dc and I had just enjoyed a lovely meal and talking about future plans. We were on great terms and had a wonderful day. When we was driving home, we decided we didn’t want the day to end and would find something else to do. As we were driving DH asked for a tissue for his hands. I was distracted talking to dd and placed a handful of them gently on his knee. They fell down by his foot. He suddenly got angry saying “why would I do that? I should’ve placed them in his hand.” I apologised and said it wasn’t a big deal. He then picked them up, crumbled them together and when I looked in his direction threw them in my face hitting my eye. Even if it was meant playful (which it wasn’t due to the sheer amount of force and his tone prior to this), it really hurt my eye and I was upset about it. Dd even saw and demanded for daddy to apologise to mommy. I said instead I wanted to go home and he blamed me for ruining the day over something minor. It rubbed me wrong as he shouldn’t have thrown it at me at all, definitely not in front of kids and he shouldn’t have done it so hard. He keeps coming in the room and asking is this how I’m going to act- I say no I am no longer upset about this and if he apologises we can continue the day. He has stormed out now and refuses to help with dc. So confused and don’t see how this is my fault.

Tbf anyone panicking over tissues falling off their knee needs to hand their license back and stick to getting buses.

And perhaps get a dementia test - genuine point - first signs of a family members dementia was wildly exaggerated panic over stuff like a car "cutting them up" (pulling out a junction 80metres ahead of them when they were doing 15 mph over a speed bump)

No, I’ve satisfied myself with the aid of my long suffering spouse that that is literally impossible.
He’s a good sport; dh, and he remains quite unscathed despite my best efforts to remove his eye with a floating tissue.

A few tissues on the floor of the car don’t pose anywhere near as much of a risk as an angry man retrieving them, rolling them up and then throwing them at OP. All while driving.

Missing the point quite spectacularly.

This is just ridiculous. I expect you think the anti-tourist protesters going round with water pistols are violent terrorists who are a whisker away from bombing cafes. 😆

Are you genuinely just here to stick up for an angry, abusive and argumentative pathetic man child because you think a tissue falling into a drivers footwell is more serious than they way this man behaved?

I’ve honestly never read anything more pathetic and ridiculous than your posts 😂 Thanks for the Sunday afternoon entertainment though.

Then he should have stopped the car right?
Not managed to pick the tissue up (no idea how he managed that) which, in itself was extremely dangerous. Or watched the OP to choose the time she was looking at him to throw the tissue.

Having said that, an accident is an accident. If the OP had done that on purpose, then your comment would be fairer. But it wasn’t.

Exactly. My point is everyone over reacted.

I don't believe the tissues were a substantial danger but perhaps a distraction.

Nor do I believe an eye injury was so severe it required them to abort their plans. Caused the eye to water a bit maybe but the reaction to that is 'oi be careful' and move on, isn't it?

I had that weird blood haemmorage thing from a bit of fluff landing in my eye 🤣 it actually did hurt,to the point I was expecting to see a splinter or something but no, was just wet grey dust I fished out.

Stuff like that can hurt when your eye is literally wide open not expecting anything to be thrust onto it.

Yep. It’s batshit. But it’s also doubling down in the face of being called out for so comprehensively missing the point, as have so many others whose bar for mens’ behaviour towards women is set so depressingly low.

No, she hasn’t. It’s a ridiculous extrapolation that someone capable of throwing a tissue is equally capable of throwing a brick.

I agree. It is what I have tried to explain here in my posts.

The fact that it was a bunch of tissues, not a brick, and that he is carrying on being a bully after the event - and BLAMING THE OP = DV.

No. How about ‘Oi throwing those balled up tissues at me in a rage is an indication that your anger issues are out of control’ ?

A very long stretch of the imagination to think that a rolled up tissue could be "hurled" with such velocity as to hurt someone. Come on, really.

I have done some dramatic re-enactments with my DH purely for research reasons.

Given the slow velocity of a crumpled ball of airborne tissues, it is highly unlikely he could have purposely timed it to hit OP at the exact millisecond she turned her head.

In addition, the aerodynamic properties of a ball of tissue mean it can’t be aimed with any accuracy, much less directly at a small target such as an eye in motion on a turning head.

Have you heard of the blink reflex? A wad of tissue thrown at the eye would cause it to shut.

@CalleOcho and are you genuinely minimising what the OP did . 😂 thank for the laughs on a Sunday though

It’s the fact that it happened at all that concerns me. OP updated to say she considers this an escalation of already concerning anger issues and yet people are still strangely focused on the tissues, as though that’s all that matters.

You really do have a good imagination!

No. My point does not support yours in any way.

Seems to me op aborted the plans because her DH was an aggressive little arsehole.

If you'd say a "oi be careful" to a deliberately aggressive act towards you from your DH then that's your business.

I think it is not safer to expect the driver to take one hand off the wheel at a time of your choosing, rather than putting what he has asked for somewhere you expect him to be able to reach safely at a time he knows he has attention to spare for it.

I would always put something on either the dashboard or the driver's lap rather than requiring the driver to attend to mememe and drive at the same time.

The intention was there though.

He was nasty, aggressive and argumentative to his wife.

He was probably driving erratically too due to his sudden anger. So not really a stretch.

I was referring to the ability of a tissue to hurt an eye. You seem to be doing a lot of assuming. Leave me out of it, I'm not interested in your assumptions.

Not imagination honeybun. Lived experience. Started small, ended up with hospital treatment. OP has detailed behaviour which, for those of us experiencing similar, indicates a very familiar red flag. Not really a suitable topic for poking fun.

He was probably driving erratically too due to his sudden anger. So not really a stretch.
Well, that actually is a hell of a stretch.
So angry he was probably driving erratically?? Why would you even suggest this?