Friends husband running the marathon tomorrow but she’s not going to watch him

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Just wondering - friends husband is running in the Marathon tomorrow but she’s not attending to watch him as she’s busy at home & even if she does go chances are she won’t be able to see him from the crowds she said. Is this a mean thing to do or AIBU to think that

Same for me. It's DH's hobby, that's fine, happy he enjoys it. He does a race about once a month and has done for years. But I have other things to do in my free time at the weekend. I have watched a few and also travelled to some, which ended up being very expensive weekends away with not much for me to do, so I stopped going a long time ago. I think the last was a soaking wet weekend in Edinburgh and I decided after that I wasn't going to any more.

DH runs marathons and ultra marathons. I’ve never gone to watch.

You couldn’t pay me to watch a marathon or pretty much any sporting event. I sat through one basketball game when my kid wanted to be a cheerleader for a while and it was utter torture for me. Nobody who loved me would expect me to put me through that.

Let’s be clear he is doing this for himself. She has been a supportive ‘wife’ by allowing him all that ‘me time’ for training. Should she have ‘rocky style’ cycled alongside him while he trained?

Boring as hell, no way. I’d massage his legs when he got home run a bath and give him a beer.

@Dogsbreath7

“allowing him me time’ lol, can you imagine if the tables were turned and it was a husband “allowing” his wife time for herself??!

Haven’t you got anything better to do than slag off other women?

And why is it any if your business?

I think it depends on whether she can just pop into London. If she has a clash and is also busy I don't think there's anything wrong with that. You really only get to see someone for about a minute on the route and then you meet them at the end. It's mostly hours of standing around though.

I'd want to go and support my DH as I've supported other family members and in case he got injured but it's also not a massive inconvenience to get into London for me.

Not really any of your business, and happily over now.

Perhaps she's just fucked off to high heaven that it's all he's talked about since Christmas and she's sick to the back teeth of the whole thing?

I've got a work colleague running it. I just had a look back through her FB. Since the 10th January she's made 22 posts? How many of them were NOT about running the marathon? ONE.

Mind your own business.

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I can think 108 million things I'd rather do than get myself into a city for a marathon and stand around for hours in hopes of catching a glimpse of someone chugging past for four seconds.

It is a bit judgemental.

I wouldn’t. Does he spectate at her hobby?

Ditto!

Iv been to a marathon to watch my dd run, it was awful, crowds of people unable to move or see anything I couldn't get near finish line. I stood in the cold for hours only to have to wait for her phone call to say when she had finished, never again.
Have you op ever gone to watch a marathon?