Friends husband running the marathon tomorrow but she’s not going to watch him

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Just wondering - friends husband is running in the Marathon tomorrow but she’s not attending to watch him as she’s busy at home & even if she does go chances are she won’t be able to see him from the crowds she said. Is this a mean thing to do or AIBU to think that

It could not be less of your business

in her position I'd go but you don't know the full situation

you don't know her reasons not to go

Do they have children? If she would have to bring them, then fair enough, it’ll be so busy and fairly unpleasant day with little ones!

Ha! Give Over!

She has 2 adult children early twenties

Aw I’d be there with a bottle of cold water and some jelly babies as it’s a hard task.

I wouldn’t go either. Great for him, boring as hell and a complete waste of my day for me.

We went to support DH run a city marathon not London though and it’s quite boring & hard work looking after younger kids for 4hrs+ but it was lovely to see him finish. He was exhausted and mainly needed me to drive him home because he was so tired. It’s a shame he won’t have a friendly face at the end though.

It’s so hard and boring watching someone do the marathon you can stand around for hours in the cold or heat and they scoot past in a second and can miss you jumping up and down screaming
if she has to drag kids along even more so (£5 for a single scoop of ice cream in tub )
I have done it twice but would not do it again in a hurry
having said that huge inspiration very emotional but a grind

she doesn’t sound like a good partner. Running a marathon is a huge deal, it’s a massive achievement - if my partner wasn’t supportive of me with it I.e coming to see me pass the finish line I’d genuinely be reconsidering my relationship.

Watching other people run is like watching paint dry. I do triathlon and ultras, when DH and I were first together he said he really wanted to come and watch - I warned him how boring it would be, but he insisted. Afterwards he said I was absolutely correct, and he's not come to a race since

Your friend has the right attitude. Long races are super boring for spectators, often you don't see who's around anyway as there are so many people. She'll be able to keep track of him online far better than at the event itself.

Is he a regular runner or is this his first marathon?
Friends of mine run multiple marathons a year all over the world. They do not expect their families to traipse all over after them. For a first one, I would probably go along as the atmosphere at London is amazing.

And if he has trained for it, she has probably suffered months of him boring on about his training, fuelling, kit etc. I say that as a runner who has done all this to my family in the past.

It really isn't a huge deal. It's just a long run.

Are you sure you’re friends? You don’t sound like a friend of hers.

When you said they have adult children something in me says the husband is on some midlife crisis with the marathon thing and he’s been too annoying on the lead up 🤣🤣🤣 but like you we don’t know haha her reasons are valid too

Why are you concernening yourself with other people's business. My partner has run loads of marathons and I have gone, it can be boring.

Do you think he won't get enough of a feeling of achievement by completing it, and having thousands of people cherring him on, that he would need his wife there to tell him he's great?

I ran London. And not a single family member watched me. DH and the kids didn’t even bother looking on the tracker to see whether I was getting round ok! I was mildly disappointed they didn’t do that but but didn’t expect them to travel to London and stand around all day to be fair.

This has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with you, so mind your own business.

I didn't go see mine run the Brighton. Not sure it's any of your business.

What makes you say that

DH runs all kinds of races. I started out going too but got cold, bored, and rained on. The final straw was having to sit in the car with an unshowered man, still wearing sweaty running kit.
We follow him on the live tracking instead now.

She wouldn't see much but, ultimately, it's her choice and absolutely nothing to do with you, OP.

She'll get a much better view on TV, and be able to track his chip as he runs. London on marathon day is bedlam, and your chances of actually seeing the person you've come to see aren't great. I wouldn't watch if DH was doing it.

Commenting on her behaviour and asking a question about it on the internet. You frame it in a way that’s ‘innocent’ but it’s dripping in judgement - and not only is it none of your business, it’s none of any strangers’ concern either. I’d be upset if a so called friend of mine did that, we wouldn’t be friends any longer.