Date last night - he’s only just left!!

[Tiredsaturday]

I don’t know why I’m writing this really except that I’m wired and don’t know what else to do having texted a couple of my friends!

Had a date last night. Lovely man who I’d been chatting to for a few weeks by text and phone. Had a coffee with him earlier in the week. This was ‘out out’.

He’s only just left!!! Hehe! What a night! I am happy, excited, very tired indeed (!) and ever so slightly not really but a bit comically ashamed.

Dunno what the AIBU is apart from maybe ‘AIBU to suggest to the kids later that we all go to bed at 6?’

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@Tiredsaturday a blowjob you say? Dear god woman, you’ll be saying you didn’t just lie back dutifully and think of england next!

I bet you even ENJOYED it, you brazen hussy you. Shocked and appalled, that’s me 😁

To echo this, my this is not supposed to be serious, who I had sex with on the first night (at his place) 7 years later is now my husband, and we have a baby! Hope all goes well op

Thank you for admitting that there is no reason for this to be in AIBU.
I don't understand why so much ends up here that might be better in another forum.

I wish you well, bit risky, life is full of the unexpected!
Hope he’s a long term gem x

I didn’t want to lower the mood or excitement, but this thought came to mind quite soon in to reading the post.
Not something i would do despite a date etc, as at that point it was a night of sex. That man then knows where you live, and more importantly it’s yours kids home too.

I think you should probably be prepared that there likely won’t be any further dates. Not of the romantic kind anyway. Sounds like just sex. You’ve built up a false sense of intimacy by all the talking and texting before the date.

This thread is so refreshing to hear about a good date and good sex for a change! It's bringing back memories of my youth, I've not had a night like that in a while 😂. I hope it works out OP, even if it is just a bit of fun. Enjoy!

All right, Patsy Puritan, calm down.

If she sees him again - great. If she doesn’t, she had a night of amazing sex - also great. There’s nothing to regret.

Agreed but only if the op doesn't turn into an emotional wreck if there is no further contact especially if she is in care of children

This is Mumsnet, where no good news goes unpunished.

I thoroughly disapprove of having sex with a virtual stranger. It really isn't anything to be proud of.

No one is asking you to have sex with a virtual stranger, and I'm sure the OP doesn't need your approval.

Saying that though - I approve of your good time OP! Crossing my fingers for a repeat for you.

I’m 7 months into a new relationship which started v similarly - we met at a work conference, messaged for a weekend, met up the following week and spent the night together. We’re having a wonderful time together.

I’m estimating your kids are not super young as you described yourself as over two decades older than the age of consent? My dd is 20 and met my dp several months ago. They get on great.

Good luck!

You slut!

I’m sooo envious.

Oh that’s right - you’re free now that the Pope’s funeral is over but the Conclave hasn’t begun.
There’s some free time for you to be judgmental of others.
Judge away sweetie and ignore the Bible. It’s what ALL good Christians do.

Yep. That particular phrase from Onions really did give her game away.

We're yourkids in the house with this man you have only just met?

Ah just checked and they weren't, I think you should have said that in your OP

I thought she did

Nope, definitely didn't

Love this. This site needs some balance and a reminder that men and women can be excellent for each other.

OP sounds quite capable of coping with whatever comes next.

Brought back memories of a wonderful night I had. I still think of him whenever I hear ‘Oh what a night’. That one was a gem. Had a lot of fun for a couple of years and still friends now.

Bloody hell! So many miserable Maureens on this thread.
this may be a shock to you but some women actually enjoy sex and and blow jobs!!!!!!!!!!!!!

💥Lovely OP! When that spark is there sometimes you have to scratch that itch, 100% passion driven.

My own sister met her now husband at a friend’s wedding. They were both checking in at an hotel at the same time and she bedded him before their friend’s wedding service, within hours of meeting. She’s been married for years and jokes he was easy!

Those who wait miss the impulse!

Oh come on, does OP seriously sound like the type to become an emotional wreck? You’re just projecting your own insecurities.

Honestly, it’s so refreshing to read about someone just having a great night with a date and NOT being angsty about it.