DH putting his foot in it with remark about my friend

[RockingOverTheWorld]

My DH is a wonderful man but has a bit of a habit of inappropriate comments.

His latest ‘effort’ is a step too far and he has a sulk on for me pulling him up on it. So, I’d welcome the collective wisdom of MumsNet to reassure me that I’m right to say he has crossed a line…

My bestie has a new partner - she’s a lovely, caring lady but a self confessed chatter box. We all met up last night for dinner. On the way home, DH and I were discussing what we thought of her new man and both said he seemed really nice, but that he struggled to get much of a word in sat next to my friend.

DH said ‘do you know what I would do to shut her up?’, I obviously said - go on…

His reply - ‘stick my cock in her mouth’

Totally inappropriate regarding a friend IMO, and I told him as much. He has mentioned it to me this evening and thought I should have laughed it off, and is sulking because I’ve stuck to my initial stance.

Am I becoming prudish or was that a shitty comment?

Is that even allowed on MN? Having no sense of humour seems to be a pre-requisite.

Grim

Have you posted about him before? This rings a bell.

How vulgar

Wow he sounds like a pig. Why would he say that to you as a joke? How could he think you’d find it funny? Really it sounds like he’s a 13 year old boy who thinks he’s talking to another 13 year old boy. Tell your friend and see how she reacts…

You know that's oral rape, right?

He's actually joking about raping your friend to shut her up.

Please explain how you think he respects her (or you).

Yeah Einstein of course she does. Her whole post though is she finds it’s crude, gross and strange and not what she personally considers appropriate humour 🙄

Not only does he have sexual thoughts about friend, he was happy pretty much much let you know it, and be a sexist dickhead as well.

What a disgusting pig of a man.

A pp referenced the Inbetweeners - yes it's the sort of comment a daft teenage boy might make. Coming from a grow man though, grim. Of all the jokes he could have made that's where his brain went, sticking his cock in her mouth.
Just yuck.

Some people’s bar for “wonderful” is astonishingly low.

Sorry op, your husband is vile.

I swear I've seen a variation of this post several times this week.

In what way is it "obvious" that he wouldn't rape someone?

The fact it even crossed his mind is sick.

I assume there are people or beings he doesn't joke about raping - so why draw the line at them and not a woman acquaintance?

If that's what he's says when he "respects" someone how awful is he when he doesn't.

It’s a disgustingly misogynistic thing for him to say full stop. It’s not about her being a friend, it’s about the fact that he’s joking about that at all. Disgusting.

My ex said a lot of rude and offensive but funny things. It’s partly what made me love him.

so if we’d have been having a very silly drunken chat where this was in keeping with the whole vibe, then fine. But that circumstance is quite specific and very rare.

but in most circumstances this would bum me out.

Agree with the majority. What a hideous, grim, foul pig he sounds. Nasty as fuck.

I couldn't stay married to him. He's middle aged isn't he? (In his 40s or 50s?)

Tell your friend and let her decide if it's funny.

He’s not a wonderful man

Does he want your friend to suck his cock?
hes told you he’d stick his cock in your friends mouth..?

would you joke with him about shoving one of your tits in his friends mouth?

That’s absolutely fucking grim

Yep don’t you just love those rape jokes! 🙄

Which bit are you bothered about? The reference to sticking cock in mouth to shut her up or the fact he said he would stick his cock in her mouth, I.e suggesting sexual activity between him and your friend?

Did he mean it from the friend’s partner’s viewpoint? As in if he were the new bloke that’s what he’d do? Would you have minded if he’d phrased it as “you know what he should do to shut her up? Stick his cock in her mouth!” Would that have been ok?

I mean… it is weird hearing it that way and I’d probably challenge it based on why are you thinking about sticking your cock in my friends mouth? But I’m sure it would be clarified that he meant the new partner.

That's just horrible.

I love banter but its a no for me thats to far.
I cant stand the word cock either its not funny.
Instant cringe ick and divorce.