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Meal Drama over £2

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Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:16

My cousin invited myself and two other women out for a 'taster meal session.' I accepted right away. Another declined and the other woman my good friend stated she would come along. Today was the day of the meal and my friend came with her 18 year old daughter. We all sat together in a group of 4. When asked by the waitress regarding still and sparkling water, my cousin stated still. The waitress came back and poured the water into all 4 glasses. At some point during the meal my cousin went to drink some water and she noticed a lipstick stain, it seems my friend had drank from her glass and her own by mistake, it didn't seem like much, it seemed like only a few sips from the glasses as the majority of water was still in the glasses. My cousin asked for a new glass and my friend started to drink out of her own personal water bottle and didn't drink again from the glasses. My friends daughter also drank the still water.

My cousin asked for more water and I drew her attention to the fact she said still at first and did she mean it, she stated no and said she had meant tap. The waitress came back with more water and started to pour it into the glasses, my friend stopped her stating she didn't drink tap water. We continued on with the meal and had a great meal, ordering drinks etc. I believe my cousin asked for the bill and then my friend and daughter said they needed to go to the bathroom. The bill came before they left to the bathroom. The waiter stood waiting and my cousin asked if he could come back later, we did also mention the two other guests were in the toilet as he thought they had left for some reason. I added my bill up and my cousin added her bill up and I asked about the water as I noticed she had attributed a quarter of it. She stated everyone drank from it. I said okay and added a quarter onto my bill. The waiter came back and asked if we were paying now, I think it had been around six minutes since he had been at our table. My cousin paid and then asked are you paying and the waiter came over to me and asked how much I was paying, so I told him my portion and paid.

My friend and her daughter came back and sat down. As she was looking at the bill I tried to explain it to her twice and she looked annoyed and said yes yes, I know. As a discount on the bill had not been clear, I had wanted to explain it. I couldn't even explain to her that the water had been split 4 ways. She called the waiter over to pay and I asked her how much she was paying and she stated £94 and I stated the balance was £96. She looked visibly upset and said why was she paying for the water and if she was it was suppose to be split 3 ways not 4. To tell you the truth I couldn't really understand this argument. So I said her daughter was 18 and should be included in any split. Anyways she paid but was not happy. About 5 minutes after she left I got a text saying she was annoyed and other things, and that annoyed me. My cousin said I will pay her the two pounds give me her account details, but I didn't as I thought that might upset her more, so I texted her saying my cousin would pay, could she pass on her details.

So who is being unreasonable? My cousin or friend? To be fair its such a stupid fight and over £2. It boggles the mind.

I think my cousin should have paid for the water, but we shouldn't have drank any if we weren't prepared to pay towards it, regardless, if the waitress poured us a glass or not.

Also my friend believes we were a bit rude to pay without her and my cousin feels she was a bit rude to go to the bathroom before settling her bill as the bill came before she left, and she wasn't bursting to use it, she was just going to have a try because she had a long journey afterwards. My cousin thinks she could have tried after the meal, as we could have all sat and discussed the bill then.

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doodleschnoodle · 25/04/2025 21:19

What a lot of fuss about nothing.

Fluffyholeysocks · 25/04/2025 21:22

I can't ever imagine quibbling over who drank water at a meal when the bill is split! Is two quid really that much to cause resentment between friends?

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:23

It's so silly I understand that, but its caused a fall out, so I'm trying to understand both sides.

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CalypsoCuthbertson · 25/04/2025 21:24

Do you think she was actually upset about a meal for 2 costing over £90, rather than the £2? I know food’s gone up lately but that seems huge.

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:24

But I'm not getting any answers I understand its silly, but should my cousin have paid or should my friend have split it.

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Hercisback1 · 25/04/2025 21:26

Who cares?

I can't believe this is even a discussion.

Splitting the bill into 4 seems fairest.

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:26

We all knew the meal would be expensive. I'm not sure if she was upset about the £2 or if we were treating her daughter as an adult.

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Neveranynamesleft · 25/04/2025 21:27

Have you nothing better to worry about.

BlondeMummyto1 · 25/04/2025 21:27

What?

BlondeMummyto1 · 25/04/2025 21:28

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:26

We all knew the meal would be expensive. I'm not sure if she was upset about the £2 or if we were treating her daughter as an adult.

It’s probably more to do with the fact you’ve jumped down her neck.

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:28

This is so silly. I'm so annoyed as I feel the text I received wasn't necessary. And if I had asked for £10 from either of them they would have given it to me, without asking why.

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Squirrelblanket · 25/04/2025 21:29

What a load of drama about nothing.

Radionowhere · 25/04/2025 21:29

What a fuss. Why would you not just split it four ways?

Hankunamatata · 25/04/2025 21:30

What were 'the other things' she was annoyed about

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:30

I don't think I jumped down her neck. But I was confused as why we wouldn't case her child as an adult when she was 18. I didn't argue I just said, but she's 18, she's an adult.

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Hoolihan · 25/04/2025 21:32

Should have been split four ways. Sounds like your friend and her daughter went to the toilet for ages at a very convenient moment- were they hoping you would cover their bill?

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:32

She was annoyed that she's paying for a drink she didn't order, we're classing her daughter as an adult, we paid our portion of the bill before her.

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HateMyselfToo · 25/04/2025 21:32

She'sprobably more annoyed about how the bill was split before they came back from the toilet and how you raised it with her than the amount.

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:34

I think there's more to it. I think cousin and friend are both strong women and I'm quiet and I think they kind of clash at times. Because this just doesn't make sense.

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SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 25/04/2025 21:34

Don't try to understand either side. It's £2.

If it were me I'd say I'm not interested in discussing or anyone falling out over £2. She either accepts the £2 'refund' or its end of the matter.

Providing a resolution means there's no longer a matter of principle angle.

Barney16 · 25/04/2025 21:34

Shouldn't the whole bill have been split four ways?. It seems a lot of fuss over nothing, or as you say OP, £2. I wouldn't worry about it anymore. If you had a lovely meal just be happy about that bit.

DeedlessIndeed · 25/04/2025 21:35

Everyone is petty AF. Can't believe your cousin insisted on splitting the cost of a bottle of water because others took a sip... I wouldn't go out with her again OP.

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:35

We paid because the waiter was just hoovering, I think he thought they left, as they took coats, bags, etc. That's why he was so keen for us to pay. To be fair she could have left her coat when she went.

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Fluffyholeysocks · 25/04/2025 21:36

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:32

She was annoyed that she's paying for a drink she didn't order, we're classing her daughter as an adult, we paid our portion of the bill before her.

Who did the adult think was going to pay for her adults meal? Or did she order from the child's menu?

LynetteScavo · 25/04/2025 21:38

Why not just split the bill 4 ways? If they were fussing over £2 I would have just paid it. What happened about the tip?

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