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Meal Drama over £2

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Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:16

My cousin invited myself and two other women out for a 'taster meal session.' I accepted right away. Another declined and the other woman my good friend stated she would come along. Today was the day of the meal and my friend came with her 18 year old daughter. We all sat together in a group of 4. When asked by the waitress regarding still and sparkling water, my cousin stated still. The waitress came back and poured the water into all 4 glasses. At some point during the meal my cousin went to drink some water and she noticed a lipstick stain, it seems my friend had drank from her glass and her own by mistake, it didn't seem like much, it seemed like only a few sips from the glasses as the majority of water was still in the glasses. My cousin asked for a new glass and my friend started to drink out of her own personal water bottle and didn't drink again from the glasses. My friends daughter also drank the still water.

My cousin asked for more water and I drew her attention to the fact she said still at first and did she mean it, she stated no and said she had meant tap. The waitress came back with more water and started to pour it into the glasses, my friend stopped her stating she didn't drink tap water. We continued on with the meal and had a great meal, ordering drinks etc. I believe my cousin asked for the bill and then my friend and daughter said they needed to go to the bathroom. The bill came before they left to the bathroom. The waiter stood waiting and my cousin asked if he could come back later, we did also mention the two other guests were in the toilet as he thought they had left for some reason. I added my bill up and my cousin added her bill up and I asked about the water as I noticed she had attributed a quarter of it. She stated everyone drank from it. I said okay and added a quarter onto my bill. The waiter came back and asked if we were paying now, I think it had been around six minutes since he had been at our table. My cousin paid and then asked are you paying and the waiter came over to me and asked how much I was paying, so I told him my portion and paid.

My friend and her daughter came back and sat down. As she was looking at the bill I tried to explain it to her twice and she looked annoyed and said yes yes, I know. As a discount on the bill had not been clear, I had wanted to explain it. I couldn't even explain to her that the water had been split 4 ways. She called the waiter over to pay and I asked her how much she was paying and she stated £94 and I stated the balance was £96. She looked visibly upset and said why was she paying for the water and if she was it was suppose to be split 3 ways not 4. To tell you the truth I couldn't really understand this argument. So I said her daughter was 18 and should be included in any split. Anyways she paid but was not happy. About 5 minutes after she left I got a text saying she was annoyed and other things, and that annoyed me. My cousin said I will pay her the two pounds give me her account details, but I didn't as I thought that might upset her more, so I texted her saying my cousin would pay, could she pass on her details.

So who is being unreasonable? My cousin or friend? To be fair its such a stupid fight and over £2. It boggles the mind.

I think my cousin should have paid for the water, but we shouldn't have drank any if we weren't prepared to pay towards it, regardless, if the waitress poured us a glass or not.

Also my friend believes we were a bit rude to pay without her and my cousin feels she was a bit rude to go to the bathroom before settling her bill as the bill came before she left, and she wasn't bursting to use it, she was just going to have a try because she had a long journey afterwards. My cousin thinks she could have tried after the meal, as we could have all sat and discussed the bill then.

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scotstars · 25/04/2025 22:03

Anyone arguing over £2 for a meal that was over £45 per person is being ridiculous. Don't get involved

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 22:03

MoominMai · 25/04/2025 22:00

Well after having read everything, because everyone allowed the bottled water to be poured individually for them (whether ordered by them directly or not), I think it’s fair to have split the cost 4-ways for it. As far as your friend getting upset by it all, that’s on her as she didn’t want to listen to your reasoning re why everything else panned out as it did after coming back from the toilet. Yet she was able to shoot you some annoying texts afterwards to which I’d have just replied that it was all academic now since she didn’t want to engage at the appropriate time.

Yes it seems fair, to all split it, but I think cousin could have asked also if we would all pay towards it.

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Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 22:05

scotstars · 25/04/2025 22:03

Anyone arguing over £2 for a meal that was over £45 per person is being ridiculous. Don't get involved

Yeah it's a bit unbelievable. I feel so involved and I don't to be.

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EilishMcCandlish · 25/04/2025 22:09

I don't know. I lost the will to live half way through the post.

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 22:09

Friend is a very good friend but I think maybe I didn't understand her tone in text or her points. This is way more that £2 for both of them. I think they're each trying to prove their point, and unfortunately its over £2.

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Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 22:09

EilishMcCandlish · 25/04/2025 22:09

I don't know. I lost the will to live half way through the post.

haha

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Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 22:12

I just needed to vent about this £2 drama and couldn't vent to anyone I knew, as I didn't want to make my friend or cousin look bad to anyone. I think sometimes it's simple things that cause the biggest fall outs.

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MoominMai · 25/04/2025 22:13

Tbh if you really do a deep dive, it could be argued your cousin was right to have asked for a 4 way split because technically it was equally split but also wrong because no one asked for it to be doled out to them also but they’re hardly going to waste nice bottled water if they’re given it so she should have just sucked up the cost herself. And the friend was correct because it wasn’t ordered by her and it’s not her fault if the waiter misunderstood and gave her ‘free’ water but also wrong because she knows full well she did drink it though no matter how it got to her so to just suck up the minimal cost allocated to her. See this is where you’re reliant on both parties just being grown ups and letting it go! I’ve been on work dos where I don’t drink but everyone else does and they always want to share the cost between everyone meaning it always ends up costing me an average of a tenner more than I actually spent but you just suck it up! It’s hard OP I bet always having to be the sensible one!

nomas · 25/04/2025 22:13

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:30

I don't think I jumped down her neck. But I was confused as why we wouldn't case her child as an adult when she was 18. I didn't argue I just said, but she's 18, she's an adult.

You’re trying to sound as if it’s the other women being petty but listen to yourself, you’re also arguing over splitting £2 with an 18yo. You sound just as petty and I thunk it’s you who ordered the water and wanted to split cost between all.

myusernamewastakenbyme · 25/04/2025 22:14

scoopoftheday · 25/04/2025 21:43

I'm still laughing at "and she wasn't bursting to use it, she was just going to have a try because she had a long journey afterwards."

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Im laughing at the waiter 'hoovering'🤣🤣🤣

Neveranynamesleft · 25/04/2025 22:16

Thread of the day right here....

sundaymorningatwork · 25/04/2025 22:17

Don’t go to restaurants if this is what happens. And especially don’t go if you don’t tip…

Clafoutie · 25/04/2025 22:17

scoopoftheday · 25/04/2025 21:43

I'm still laughing at "and she wasn't bursting to use it, she was just going to have a try because she had a long journey afterwards."

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

She was unable to spend a penny more

AliBaliBee1234 · 25/04/2025 22:18

You say her daughter is 18 so should be included but wouldn't she pay for her own child regardless of her age? Was she expecting you'd all just split the cost?

Seems like it isn't really over £2 for water. Especially if she was annoyed you paid your share of the bill without her.

Can you share more about her text to you for context?

Clafoutie · 25/04/2025 22:20

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:51

Yes, that's why I believe the waiter was so anxious.

In case her bladder wouldn’t allow?

WhySoManySocks · 25/04/2025 22:21

Please tell me you left a tip!

The poor “hoovering” waiter must have had enough of you all by then, with the lipstick on glasses and ignoring the bill while two of you try a wee 😂

FrodoBiggins · 25/04/2025 22:21

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 22:05

Yeah it's a bit unbelievable. I feel so involved and I don't to be.

How do you think we feel? 😂

Clafoutie · 25/04/2025 22:21

Sorry OP, I am not meaning to take the piss(!) It does sound a frustrating situation for you and I think you are right not to go with them again!

JudgeJ · 25/04/2025 22:21

Hercisback1 · 25/04/2025 21:26

Who cares?

I can't believe this is even a discussion.

Splitting the bill into 4 seems fairest.

I feel sorry for the waiter having to hang about while the bill was sorted.

Hastentoadd · 25/04/2025 22:22

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:23

It's so silly I understand that, but its caused a fall out, so I'm trying to understand both sides.

Going to the toilet just after the bill arrived was (possibly) sneaky behaviour, we’re they hoping you and your cousin would pay the whole amount

Surely both mother and daughter didn’t need to go to the toilet at the same time or had they planned this and discussed it together beforehand

As the difference was so little, the bill should have been split 4 ways equally

Gazelda · 25/04/2025 22:23

FGS. Just send them both a text message/whatsapp.

“thanks for a lovely meal today. It was great to catch up. Let’s not get hung up on the £2 because it’s starting to sour the lunch. In future, let’s agree to split 4 ways or each pay for our own. By the way, did anyone leave a tip? I think we may have forgotten to, which is embarassing. Speak soon! xxx”

TwelveBlueSocks · 25/04/2025 22:23

I think it might be best to treat it like a toddler tantrum.

Maybe you could say "sorry that you feel upset. Do you maybe need a holiday or something? It seems a shame to be so upset over a tiny thing after such a lovely meal. "

Then I think it would be a really good idea to leave them for a few days to simmer down.

AlohaRose · 25/04/2025 22:24

It's the waiter I feel sorry for.

JudgeJ · 25/04/2025 22:25

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:51

I wish we did that here. I will try to start doing this. But to be honest I won't go out with the both of them together again, I'll go out with them without each other.

Some places refuse to give separate bills for a group, how can they deal with shared items like, er, water for instance?

JudgeJ · 25/04/2025 22:28

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:30

I don't think I jumped down her neck. But I was confused as why we wouldn't case her child as an adult when she was 18. I didn't argue I just said, but she's 18, she's an adult.

If a person is eating from the same menu as the rest of the party then their meal is paid for like the others, even if they're not 18. My granddaughter is 14 and she eats from the main menu, for the last 5 years God help anyone who offered her the children's menu!