Have you ever contemplated getting pregnant and saying it was an accident?

[Junnieee]

I thought about this many times before we had DD (now 7). It was never something I would have acted upon but over the years at least three friends have said things in passing that have made me think they’ve shared such thoughts. One friend actually said she often thought about it as her DH kept putting off the time to ttc. Is this that common? Do a lot of women have these thoughts when they get that urge to be a mother?

I think it’s fine to have an “accident “ .

i completely understand women who go to any lengths to have a child

No but he could be expected to pay out thousands in child support over the next 20 years.

it’s morally wrong whichever party does it and anyone claiming otherwise is an apologist for appalling behaviour.

The utter lack of morals, character and integrity demonstrated on this thread is staggering.

Tricking someone into parenthood is worse than rape, in my book. It's a lifelong burden and a theft of their reproductive autonomy.

Spot on

That’s ridiculous

if a woman wants a baby it’s her right

What a shitty post

Well GBH and murder are both morally wrong, but one is worse than the other.

Not her right to trick someone into it though, Is it??

As long as she doesn’t expect anything from the man (and tbh a lot men are not invested in family life) I think it’s fine.

Wow

Having a child is far far more important than complying to a man’s needs

In the uk 1 in 5 children do not have a father figure in their lives

left to men the population would die out!😁

No, I have never even contemplated doing this, would never do this, and have never met anyone that has (to my knowledge) done this because it’s appalling behaviour

I know a fair few people who have done tbis

So the man either has to be a complete deadbeat and willingly ignore his child, and not be a part if their life (which makes him a shit) or he he is forced to spend the rest of his life being a parent, when he did not want to be.

No regard at all for the child here...a child deserves to be wanted by both parents.

Noone has a right to have a child. Its a human being not a goldfish

I don’t think there is much point in arguing with this person. They are either inherently selfish or lack intelligence.

Oh well what a cause for celebration those stats are?! Lets just create more fatherless children then shall we. So if men don't do what you want you're going to manipulate them to get what you want anyway? And that's fine is it? Ugh despicable, hope you're not actually serious.

Wtf?

Yeah - rapists all over the world have this same mentality.

This does not justify theft of consent.

Nobody has a “right” to a child nor do they have a right to override somebody’s consent.

Yes!