Giving lifts after work

[ChubbyForensics]

Bit of background I’m 50 years old not sleeping enough due to waking in the night as a symptom of perimenopause

I work full time and leave the house at 7.10 am to drive to work it’s a 45 minute drive.

I struggle with fatigue so when I get home at 4.45 I have a nap until 6.30, this is enough to keep me going and able to hold down full time job.

Now for the AIBU part.

A colleague asked me for a lift somewhere she goes on a Friday. It’s a slightly longer route for me and I have to pull off the main road to park so it adds on 20 minutes to half an hour. When it was once a week I didn’t mind it was a good chance to catch up.

now this has turned into everyday Monday to Friday It’s adding extra time and miles and we sometimes argue / debate strongly so it’s not very relaxing I can tell I get on her nerves now it’s everyday. I’m getting home later and struggling to do things after work.

The assumption is I will automatically give her a lift she waits by my car. She has started monitoring if I’m in and texts me before I finish with where are you etc as she finishes slightly earlier than me.

AIBU to tell her I can only do it on Fridays? She would need to get two buses otherwise. I depleted by this and think it’s tipping the balance and making me more fatigued.

@ChubbyForensicswell done for this!

can’t have been easy but you did the right thing.

Good for you, OP. Didn't comment before but was following and rooting for you.

And as you say, think about the time it's freeing up for you. Wishing you the joy of the additional hours you can dedicate to yourself / your family and your / their own needs and wants.

Your update has made my day, OP! We women are far to amenable and agreeable, putting ourselves last. Your thread has helped a lot of us to reassess, not just you.

You’re spot on! She’s taking the absolute peas out of you now. It always happens. Ive found myself in this situation too twice! It starts out as one thing and before you know it, you’re a full on taxi service most days. I always find people that don’t drive tend to do this, they commit to doing something but try to find ways around the journeys. Lol it’s called learn to drive yourself 🤣