To think my friend overreacted? Air BNB situation

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The weekend before last my friend and I went to London to see a show and have a bit of a girly weekend, we do this quite often. I have an airbnb account, she doesn’t, so I usually book an airbnb (after consulting with her) and she pays me half.

I am quite fastidious with cleaning them as I don’t want to lose my rating, so we always make sure the place is spotless before we leave.

The place we stayed in was a 1 bedroom maisonette but spread over 2 floors. We agreed I would have the bedroom as I have a chronic health condition. She slept downstairs on the sofa bed. There was an upstairs bathroom and downstairs toilet. All happy with this when we booked.

We were getting ready to leave on the Sunday and we had all cleaned up. Literally about to go out the door. My friend said she needed to use the toilet before we left and went to go upstairs. I asked her why she was going upstairs, and she said the downstairs toilet wasn’t flushing properly, and she was on her period. I told her not to go upstairs because I had just checked/cleaned the bathroom upstairs and didn’t want to have to do it again. She got annoyed and we had a bit of a discussion before she conceded and used the downstairs toilet after I told her that she’d have to flush it a couple of times.

We left and all was fine but she has been a bit off with me since in our conversations. We had a good time and haven’t argued about anything else this is the only thing that there was an issue about. So it must be the toilet thing that she is cross about ?

Was I unreasonable??

Yep

Yep you were being weird and unreasonable.

Yes you were unreasonable. You could have just asked her to make sure she left it tidy.

I think you were. It's not up to you to dictate what toilet she used. She had her reasons, and despite it being none of your business, she had to justify why she intended to use the upstairs. It comes off controlling.

If you're this uptight why don't you just stick to hotels

Yes you were being controlling and weird. I would be insulted if you assumed I’d leave the toilet messy. Telling her she will have to use the downstairs one and flush a few times…you’re not her mum??

Extremely!! Actually can’t believe you policed which toilet she could use!! You need to apologise!! 🤯

Did she agree to the sofa bed or a fait accompli?
When was bed time? Was she happy that when bed time was decided she had to set her bed up, yet you could go straight to an actual bed?
How often have you done these breaks where you get the bed, she gets a sofa?
Is it evident in the financial split of costs that you have it way better?

Yes you were being unreasonable and really weird.

You told a grown woman that you’d have to check the toilet after her?

I’d be SO pissed off if I were your friend.

Don’t be telling me where I can / cannot go to the loo and don’t be assuming I cannot clean up after myself.

Can’t tell you how much you’d have got up my nose.

YABU - weird and controlling - I would hate to go away with you.

Yes. You were making out that she could not be trusted to leave the bathroom clean.

Yep, your friend had to justify to you why they wanted/needed to use the upstairs toilet in order for you to permit them.

Your poor friend, you probably made her feel very small.

Yes you were, sorry

I would tell her you've been rethinking things and realised you were unreasonable and wanted to apologise, that should repair things

YABU and so rude. No excuse for it.

Yes!

She’s put up with a dodgy loo all weekend without complaining and you won’t even let her use the good one once. Plus you implied she’d dirty it and you’d have to check/clean it afterwards. So rude.

YABU, did you think she was going to smear shit all over it? She’s an adult and presumably knows how to use the toilet without making a mess. I’m agog that you told a grown woman, a friend, what toilet she was allowed to use like a naughty child

Totally unreasonable. You sound like a control freak, wanting to check the bathroom after she used it is weird!

To be honest with you I think I would have ignored you and used the upstairs bathroom anyway. That's a really bizarre thing to insist on. It's an Airbnb. You don't own the bathroom.

YABU

You paid the same but got the proper bedroom and am en-suite and she got a sofa bed and a faulty loo? And you wouldn’t let her use the good loo?
You seem massively entitled.

YABU
I have no idea why you would think this was ok.

Pay for cleaning and save yourself the drama.

YWVU!

You sound controlling and unpleasant. She may have just wanted a bit of privacy or, you know, to use a toilet that flushed! She could have left the toilet tidy. You sound batshit and not in a good way.

Yes YABVU