To think my friend overreacted? Air BNB situation

[userfriendly55]

The weekend before last my friend and I went to London to see a show and have a bit of a girly weekend, we do this quite often. I have an airbnb account, she doesn’t, so I usually book an airbnb (after consulting with her) and she pays me half.

I am quite fastidious with cleaning them as I don’t want to lose my rating, so we always make sure the place is spotless before we leave.

The place we stayed in was a 1 bedroom maisonette but spread over 2 floors. We agreed I would have the bedroom as I have a chronic health condition. She slept downstairs on the sofa bed. There was an upstairs bathroom and downstairs toilet. All happy with this when we booked.

We were getting ready to leave on the Sunday and we had all cleaned up. Literally about to go out the door. My friend said she needed to use the toilet before we left and went to go upstairs. I asked her why she was going upstairs, and she said the downstairs toilet wasn’t flushing properly, and she was on her period. I told her not to go upstairs because I had just checked/cleaned the bathroom upstairs and didn’t want to have to do it again. She got annoyed and we had a bit of a discussion before she conceded and used the downstairs toilet after I told her that she’d have to flush it a couple of times.

We left and all was fine but she has been a bit off with me since in our conversations. We had a good time and haven’t argued about anything else this is the only thing that there was an issue about. So it must be the toilet thing that she is cross about ?

Was I unreasonable??

I don’t think there is any need to leave an air bnb ‘spotless ‘ as they charge enough for them including a cleaning fee

YABVU. I doubt your friend will want to go away with you again.

Yabu. Why would you think you'd have to check and clean the toilet after her? That's a really offensive suggestion!

Yes. Does it matter which one she used? Both would need cleaning again

Yes you're being weird. 100% of responses indicating this means youre either massively lacking awareness or this is a reverse.

I’m going to guess this is a reverse? (Or wind up?)
but just in case, you were controlling and I wouldn’t be in a rush to go away with you again. You made her feel embarrassed and uncomfortable on her period!

You were out of line

Wtf did you think she was going to do? Wipe poo all over the walls???

As all the comments above - you were being massively unreasonable. Also, you normally pay a cleaning fee. How clean do you need to leave it?! I have an Airbnb and professional cleaners. I literally have no idea how you’ve left my place unless I happen to pop in that day or the cleaners inform me of any thing notable. They’ve literally never told me about how my guests have left a place unless they’ve accidentally left something behind.

We agreed to all this beforehand. We discussed the listing together and I asked if she would mind if I had the bedroom and she said no. She then sent me half of the money.

my point was she had no need to go upstairs at all. And of course the toilet would need cleaning before we left. I check them because it’s MY account.

No your friend wasn't overacting, who are you to police what toilet she can/cannot use? You were completely unreasonable and TBH you sound like a bit of a control freak.

Edited to add after seeing your latest comment- maybe she wanted some privacy by going upstairs to use the loo? Some people aren't comfortable using a toilet with others around.

Your poor friend. How awful and controlling of you

Good god! What did you think she was going to do, shit on the floor?

Also, really no need to 'clean' an air b&b bathroom. Unless you've shit on the floor?

Yeah that’s weird OP.

One use of a toilet does not spoil a clean.

She did need to go upstairs because the downstairs one wasn't flushing properly. Why would you need to clean the toilet again??

And why wouldn’t you have needed to reclean the downstairs one after she used it?

And once again why are you cleaning any toilet after 1 use?

YWBVU

You were incredibly weird, uptight and tactless. She clearly had reasons, potentially embarrassing/personal ones, for wanting to use the upstairs bathroom instead of the downstairs one where a) you were basically sitting there listening and b) the flush wasn’t working properly.

Can you really not see how controlling and weird that is? Over something as personal as going to the toilet? I’m amazed she didn’t laugh in your face and tell you to get lost, frankly. I would not take kindly to a friend trying to dictate where I could change my tampon, frankly.

You are not exhibiting normal behaviour!

Yes you were being unreasonable and weird. Wtf.

Yes, YABVU. I wouldn’t go away with you again if I was her.
Why didn’t you trust that she’d leave the toilet in a decent state?

my point was she had no need to go upstairs at all. And of course the toilet would need cleaning before we left. I check them because it’s MY account.

We all saw your point in your op @userfriendly55 but it's a ridiculous point.

How do you feel about the unanimous response that you have behaved outrageously? I see you're doubling down 🙄

Yes, very unreasonable!

Op I think you should post your apology so we can vet it for you.

I check them because it’s MY account.

Do you think you’re going to get blacklisted from Airbnb because your friend used a toilet, once, after it had been cleaned? What did you think she was going to do in there? Smear shit on the walls?

How do you actually imagine the property owner would determine whether or not a flushed loo had been used once after cleaning?