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Labour say transwomen should use the men’s toilet

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Kindersurprising · 22/04/2025 12:15

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/politics/article/trans-women-men-toilets-b8gt6l22c?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0BMQABHlJe7BiT-kgvjfusJpz2eq_AUSGDRI9eAMe5VNA0iX6U2qOUk-U0wPhPI98-_aem_Vfuvll1ZYKrZUa-vjh4QSA#Echobox=1745317525

Squeak squeak burrow burrow. Is that a ferret reversing?

Use men’s or women’s toilets based on biological sex, minister says

Supreme Court ruling must be applied ‘right across the board’, Bridget Phillipson stresses as Sir Keir Starmer hails judgment as a ‘welcome step forward’

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/politics/article/trans-women-men-toilets-b8gt6l22c?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0BMQABHlJe7BiT-kgvjfusJpz2eq_AUSGDRI9eAMe5VNA0iX6U2qOUk-U0wPhPI98-_aem_Vfuvll1ZYKrZUa-vjh4QSA#Echobox=1745317525

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Mumble12 · 22/04/2025 21:51

FlakyCritic · 22/04/2025 21:49

Then that makes transwomen bigots as they fail to acknowledge women and girls discomfort in pursuit of their own desires for validation, that they will retraumatise a rape or dv survivor in female only spaces because their want for validation is more important than the needs and rights of females. That is pure selfishness and Male Entitlement right there.

It might make some trans women bigots. But what you really need to stop doing is assuming one person represents everyone.

Annascaul · 22/04/2025 21:51

Tessiebear2023 · 22/04/2025 21:49

Medical professionals don't generally go around sticking their fingers inside women when they present unconscious in A&E.

What I am saying is that trans women would turn up in A&E and because their external appearance was so convincingly female, they were getting the wrong treatment/drug doses. Mostly it doesn't matter if someone is male or female but in some rare situations it does affect how you respond to treatment. They were being trained to spot those cases. And yes, it could be very hard to tell some trans women apart from biological women.

So what exactly was the surgery that was so stunningly realistic?

FlakyCritic · 22/04/2025 21:51

Thegreyhound · 22/04/2025 21:47

It’s completely possible to be a woman, a survivor of sexual assault and to also understand that trans women are not the problem.

As transwomen are MALE, and evidence proves they sexually offend at 5 times higher than so-called 'c1s' males, transwomen absolutely ARE the problem. Any male in a female space, regardless of how they 'identify', any male, is absolutely the problem.

MummytoE · 22/04/2025 21:51

Mumble12 · 22/04/2025 21:49

I’ve been using a family changing room at the gym for the last 18 years. Managed to coexist there without incident. Of course there’ll be incidences where men take advantage. They often do. But all trans women are not men waiting to rape someone. In the same way not all male police officers are murderers like Wayne Couzens.

Oh well. If you've been ok then we all will
. All this fuss for nothing eh

miraxxx · 22/04/2025 21:52

Thegreyhound · 22/04/2025 21:48

That will be news to anyone who lives in a house full of men

Through informed consent. A house is not a public toilet, hospital ward or prison cell.

LobeliaBaggins · 22/04/2025 21:52

Mumble12 · 22/04/2025 21:44

I’m happy for everyone to coexist peacefully, keeping my nose out of other peoples business (and their genitals). I don’t think my rights take precedence over anyone else’s. That requires compromise.

Listening to people when they say “this makes me feel worthless” and saying “I don’t care, that’s your problem, I’m looking out for me” isn’t behaviour i want to emulate, so you can think you’re fighting for women, but you don’t stand for me.

I used to think this. Then Lia Thomas and others took away the medals of women athletes who had worked for years.
Course he's not a rapist so it must be ok.

FlakyCritic · 22/04/2025 21:52

Thegreyhound · 22/04/2025 21:48

That will be news to anyone who lives in a house full of men

You know very well I am talking about female only spaces and facilities.

lifeturnsonadime · 22/04/2025 21:53

Mumble12 · 22/04/2025 21:51

It might make some trans women bigots. But what you really need to stop doing is assuming one person represents everyone.

All trans women are Men.

That's a fact.

No matter how sorry you feel for these men women exist and have different needs from them.

Women should not have to step aside because you feel sorry for these men.

I am not sure why this is so hard for you to understand.

This is not a bigoted position, it is a protected belief and women's single sex spaces are protected by Equality laws.

miraxxx · 22/04/2025 21:53

We are at the Not all Men level. Scraping the bottom of the TRA barrel?

Thegreyhound · 22/04/2025 21:53

FlakyCritic · 22/04/2025 21:51

As transwomen are MALE, and evidence proves they sexually offend at 5 times higher than so-called 'c1s' males, transwomen absolutely ARE the problem. Any male in a female space, regardless of how they 'identify', any male, is absolutely the problem.

Don’t be so daft! How many trans women have you actually met?

Mumble12 · 22/04/2025 21:54

CantStopMoving · 22/04/2025 21:50

So basically Schrodingers trans person. They either exist or don’t exist but you can’t provide any proof because you can’t evidence it

.

Obviously not. You could clearly evidence it if you were shown 1000 photographs of a mix of men women and trans people. Or as I said before, in the case of my daughter where she lived next door to a trans woman for 2 years before getting to know them and finding out they’d transitioned.

what you cannot do is show someone who is determined to be right a photo of a trans woman and say “this person Is trans, can you tell”

LobeliaBaggins · 22/04/2025 21:54

So @Mumble12 thinks a 'few incidents' where men take advantage in a common changing room is ok but a mythical scenario where a 6 ft tall woman is barred from the ladies is deeply disturbing!

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 22/04/2025 21:54

Mumble12 · 22/04/2025 21:47

I’m calling people bigots for failing to acknowledge other people’s discomfort in the pursuit of their own desires.

Being a woman or a rape survivor isn’t a universal experience. We don’t all feel the same way as each other and it’s ridiculous to assume we do.

Isn't failing to acknowledge women's discomfort in the pursuit of their own desires exactly what trans women are doing when they use women's spaces?

lifeturnsonadime · 22/04/2025 21:55

This just all boils down to trying to plead to female socialisation.

We're bigots for not putting men first.

No. Thank. You.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 22/04/2025 21:55

FlakyCritic · 22/04/2025 21:45

Says the one who calls women and rape survivors 'bigots' for defending our safe single sex spaces. Where is your empathy for the female sex? You lot are so malevolent and filled with hate and no compassion or empathy for females, only for males who trespass womens spaces and boundaries. How proud you must be, defending male supremacy.

You really are the bad guys, but you genuinely don't realise it.

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This.

FlakyCritic · 22/04/2025 21:55

Roxietrees · 22/04/2025 21:49

”debunked” what are you on about? I know of 3 or 4 real life cases of children who have expressed suicidal thoughts because they felt their body didn’t match their brain. Over years and years of consistently trying to convince their parents that they were in the wrong body. This is the definition of transphobia - denying that it exists. It exists, it’s real and in 20 years time it will be normal and you’ll look like the dinosaur that still can’t get onboard with the modern world.

What would you do if it was your kid? If, over 8 years they consistently, constantly told you they wanted to transition? If they tried to cut their genitals off and told you they’d rather die than stay in the body they have? You’d let them continue feeling that way rather than allowing them to go through the only process that would make them feel normal? I’d call that abuse

Firstly, it is adults who plant the idea of suicide in childrens heads. They don't know about that.

Secondly, as poll after poll after poll worldwide shows, the longer this goes on, the less support trans ideology has. Even in American the majority of Democrat voters are against transwomen being in female only spaces, per a professional poll done. Each year, YouGov has seen support for trans ideology drop. Year per year. In 20 years time, even now as trans ideology is in it's death throes, Sociologists will look back at how people were so brainwashed by a dangerous misogynistic ideology.

Roxietrees · 22/04/2025 21:56

miraxxx · 22/04/2025 21:37

I cannot take anyone who writes such nonsense seriously. Born in the wrong body and child suicide claptrap.

Maybe educate yourself

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 22/04/2025 21:57

Thegreyhound · 22/04/2025 21:53

Don’t be so daft! How many trans women have you actually met?

How is this relevant?

Laws are made on the basis of objective evidence, not anecdotes about how nice your trans friends are.

Annascaul · 22/04/2025 21:57

Roxietrees · 22/04/2025 21:56

Maybe educate yourself

We have. All of us.
Don’t even try that one.

Mumble12 · 22/04/2025 21:57

lifeturnsonadime · 22/04/2025 21:53

All trans women are Men.

That's a fact.

No matter how sorry you feel for these men women exist and have different needs from them.

Women should not have to step aside because you feel sorry for these men.

I am not sure why this is so hard for you to understand.

This is not a bigoted position, it is a protected belief and women's single sex spaces are protected by Equality laws.

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And I’m not sure why it’s so hard for you to understand that people have feelings and you repeatedly referring to them like they aren’t real is dehumanising and gross.

having an opinion is one thing, we could disagree on whether we think women are losing out by sharing toilets with people that have transitioned. Referring to those people as “easy to spot like fake handbags” and purposely misgendering to make yourself feel vindicated is beyond me.

Menopausalmum43 · 22/04/2025 21:58

If toilets were like at my workplace just a long corridor with full floor ceiling rooms each with its own toilet and sink, it wouldn't matter.

ArabellaScott · 22/04/2025 21:58

Annascaul · 22/04/2025 21:57

We have. All of us.
Don’t even try that one.

They told us ten years ago to educate ourselves.

So we did.

juldan · 22/04/2025 21:58

Mumble12 · 22/04/2025 21:44

I’m happy for everyone to coexist peacefully, keeping my nose out of other peoples business (and their genitals). I don’t think my rights take precedence over anyone else’s. That requires compromise.

Listening to people when they say “this makes me feel worthless” and saying “I don’t care, that’s your problem, I’m looking out for me” isn’t behaviour i want to emulate, so you can think you’re fighting for women, but you don’t stand for me.

@Mumble12
Women want to coexist peacefully, but it doesn’t mean they should give up their rights to single sex spaces. We can treat trans people with respect, use their preferred pronouns but it does not mean we should put their wants above our needs.
Nobody feels worthless because they cannot use their chosen toilet. If they genuinely feel worthless, they should try to get to the bottom of what is making them feel so bad, because the toilet issue is just masking a deeper problem.
On the other hand, if it is just emotional manipulation’ I can’t use your toilet so I am feeling worthless, sob,sob!”Then they can jog off.

FlakyCritic · 22/04/2025 21:58

Thegreyhound · 22/04/2025 21:53

Don’t be so daft! How many trans women have you actually met?

What sort of answer to my two points is that? I keep up with statistics and data, and I know transwomen are male.

Why do I need to have met a male to know how dangerous the male sex can be?

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