Does anyone else not send their children to grandparents for sleepovers?

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My child is 3 years old and he has never had a sleepover. Both sets of grandparents have asked about it and I just don’t see any need for it. We co-sleep, he still breastfeeds to sleep most nights and I don’t want him to sleep anywhere else/away from us and I see no reason why he should 🤷‍♀️ Surely I’m not the only one? 😂 I imagine he will be asking for sleepovers in a few years time but right now I just see any need for it?

Breast feed at 3?????

It’s not something that we ever did, mainly because it’s just never been a thing within our family - DM did more than enough childminding during the day for my sisters and I, I’m sure she didn’t want or need the hassle of having the DC overnight as well! DD was very clingy so wouldn’t have been happy with the arrangement and I’m not one of those parents who really wanted ‘rid’ of her overnight!

She didn’t have her first sleepover until she was 9 and I was fine with that.

In your situation, obviously if your DC cannot sleep without being bf, then it’s out of the question, but maybe once DC can sleep through without a feed, then it’s nice for grandparents to have DC overnight, my 2 DC loved sleepovers with my in-laws who looked after them 2 days a week whilst I worked, my own parents never asked to have them, they only just coped for the odd hour with them. I never had a sleepover with my Nan until I was 12, I still remember it fondly, we had a lovely time and she died not long after.

I was also still breastfeeding my DC at 3 - just to give balance after the first comment on here!!

(it’s completely normal and acceptable for those who would be shocked by this)

and no, my children didn’t ever sleep at grandparents house on their own until they were school age.

I’m a grandmother - my 8 year old grandson has come regularly for sleepovers since he was about a year old. My others from my other son (5 year old boy and almost 2 year old girl) never have. Parents see no need. Their choice entirely.

Mine did at 3 months because I was delirious and very depressed. I needed a break. It was wonderful 😁

No we never have and my oldest is 5. Might do one day, I'd like to just for a lay in

At least 6-7 times per year. You'll be amazed at what a break it is!!

Not until around 6 or 7 I think and she was also still breast fed at 3 ! Do what suits your little family, they won't be so little for long.

Mine do but really only when me and DH are going out which is quite rare, my youngest is 2 and I think he’s had 2 sleepovers at his grandparents. My eldest is 11 and knows he gets spoilt there so sometimes will ask to stay over at the weekend.

Ds was about 6 before he opted to sleep out.. Ime it should be their choice...

Still breastfeeding a near 5 year old. Totally normal, beneficial and natural. Maybe educate yourself.

No sleepovers here and never intending to do them. Have no need for it so why would I. Think my MIL is trying to go that way as is decorating her spare room and hinting that its for DD. But she doesn't have a hope in hell of it happening as she smokes in the house and I wouldn't even trust her walking to the park with her. DD has a perfextly great relationship with both sets of grandparents without sleepovers.

Totally disagree with your first paragraph. It's not normal and in no way beneficial. Quite the opposite to be honest.

I wish, we don't have grandparents around to do that, if we did we would!

Mine stay with both sides regularly. They absolutely love it. I wouldn't have any reason not to send them as all parties benefit from it.

@Antsinmypantsneedtodance if your 5 year old is going to school in September please stop breastfeeding them.

I never understand what the big issue is. Why not allow young children to sleepover with grandparents - as long as you trust them? It's nice to have the odd night without the kids and most enjoy being spoilt by grandparents. We did it. Kids loved it, grandparents loved it and we got a break. No need to overthink it!

My mum has never so much as babysat my daughter. She's too old and doddery and tbh would get incredibly stressed out by my daughter who never stops talking. Each to their own but you're not alone.

You didn't know people still breastfeed at 3????? I breastfed both of mine until 4. The WHO recommends breastfeeding for at least 2 years.

I had sleepovers at both sets of grandparents since before I can remember and so did all my cousins (sometimes a combination of cousins) - it was brilliant.

My kids did the same from a really young age and loved it too.

But if it doesn’t suit your family then that’s absolutely fine and for nobody to judge.

Personal choice but I would recommend ensuring that you build a good relationship between dc and grandparents for when you would like help or in emergency

None of the dgc have stayed with me without their parent/s. Doesn’t bother me at all, I don’t feel left out and if my DDs ever needed help they know I’d be there.

I don't have any grandparents that would offer sleepovers but I certainly wouldn't have sent mine at 3. Maybe at 8 if they wanted to.

My cousin used to do it though from very young and they were ok. However, she left her 2 year old for a week with her parents and he was very upset.

I don't allow my DC to sleep at grandparents. Big no from me.

Regularly since babies and a week in France at my Mum’s place in the summer.
both now 18/15, amazing relationship with all of
them.
DH and I have been very lucky in the amount of ‘breaks’ we have had together. Definitely kept our relationship really young.