Does anyone else not send their children to grandparents for sleepovers?

[nosleepoverss]

My child is 3 years old and he has never had a sleepover. Both sets of grandparents have asked about it and I just don’t see any need for it. We co-sleep, he still breastfeeds to sleep most nights and I don’t want him to sleep anywhere else/away from us and I see no reason why he should 🤷‍♀️ Surely I’m not the only one? 😂 I imagine he will be asking for sleepovers in a few years time but right now I just see any need for it?

Have you no common sense?

This. People must live very narrow and sheltered lives if breastfeeding a 3 year old shocks them.

Breastfeeding a five year old is wrong on so many levels. Completely unnecessary.

I'd say the only real downside to extended breastfeeding is having to face judgement from others who aren't educated about the facts and/or who don't accept that everyone parents differently and according to their own situation/child.
www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/extended-breastfeeding

I'm raging yet another thread has been hijacked by what age breastfeeding should be stopped at. 🙄 wasn't the point of the thread at all!

Our DGS is 5. We'd love a sleepover, but have never even been allowed to spend any time alone with him. He too was breastfed until about 4 months before he went to school.

How is your relationship with your DGS's parents?

I only ask because we my DC have one set of GPs that they haven't had alone time with yet. From pre-birth, to now, even with multiple discussions, they've given unsolicited advice which directly contradicts our parenting, or the specialist medical advice around our DCs conditions... The lack of self-awareness from GPs, or at least the lack of acknowledgement when we've had discussions around this, is one of the many reasons which has led to them not having alone time with our children (yet).

Certainly had my horizons broadened by some the the rubbish in this thread, but that's MN for you!

Common sense seems to be sadly lacking on this thread in so many ways! Thanks for the laughs.

I've never known of a child weaning between 3 and 7! That is madness!

@JudgeJ It’s not lacking common sense, or mad, to say some children complete weaning over the age of 3 though. Very unusual to be as late as 7, but between 2 and 4 was/is typical in many traditional societies.

Yeah its hilarious not having decent Grandparents for your own DC.

Mine were selfish parents and were hardly going to change once they became GParents. I think people that are not sending them have very valid reasons. You and your children are in a very fortunate position to have the support. Bragging not much.

of course they shouldn’t go if you don’t have a good relationship with them or they aren’t capable.

It’s a shame you see boobs as purely sexual objects.

Well, the literal meaning of weaning is weaned off breastmilk (or, later on, formula). It’s synonymous with introducing solids, but that’s not the original meaning. So ‘weaned from the breast’ is unnecessary really.

Weaning can take place over several years and that is developmentally quite normal.

So my understanding of the word was correct. I'm relieved!

Nope, but nice try 😁

🤔 I have always understood weaning to mean starting solids after milk (breast or formula) only and that's what I'm sticking with. Based on that definition, weaning between 4 and 7 would mean no solids until those ages ie absurd. The way to have made the original comment clear would have been to have said 'stopping breast-feeding at 4 to 7', when it would have been obvious, if unstated, that the child was eating solids.

@IdaGlossop

This is the dictionary definition of wean though:

1. accustom (an infant or other young mammal) to food other than its mother's milk.
2. (accustom someone) to managing without something which they have become dependent on.
3. be strongly influenced by (something), especially from an early age.

Your confusion was based on misunderstanding or not completely understanding what the word means.

Plenty. However, I appear not to understand tge meaning of the word 'wean'.

We don’t, but that’s because neither set of grandparents live nearby. We also have the issue of both sets of grandparents finding it too much due to health reasons. We’ve never had any help in this way, and never will.

I had 4 grand children all a year apart from each other, the 5th was 5 years later.

I would have them over for week ends sometimes 2 at a time but usuarly all together from early ages. Wa like a mad house sometimes (All adults now)

I am now a Great GM to a 6yr old girl and 2 year old boy, ive also had them stay over since babies, they stay mostly week ends as they have school / nursery not very local to me.
I am fit and able to meet their needs enjoy seeing them usually once a month or so if mum is working, or wants to out etc.

Forgot to say i personally did not B/F for years but it's an individual choice.

You sound like an incredibly supportive grandma and great grand ma!!

@pistachio83
Yes it is a bit more tiring now I'm older but its just 2 young GGC now so all good but once they go I clean and then relax the next day 😀

To me, it’s a bit weird to flat out refuse for no good reason.
Just occasionally, it’s absolutely fine and the child would probably love it.
I do wonder at the motivation of those parents who say no. Is it that they feel threatened by another loved one ‘muscling in’ on their relationship, or is it that they’re really so dull they can’t live without their child for one night? 😁
Like, who is the ‘no’ really for? Some of my best childhood memories stem from sleepovers with my grandparents.