Does anyone else not send their children to grandparents for sleepovers?

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My child is 3 years old and he has never had a sleepover. Both sets of grandparents have asked about it and I just don’t see any need for it. We co-sleep, he still breastfeeds to sleep most nights and I don’t want him to sleep anywhere else/away from us and I see no reason why he should 🤷‍♀️ Surely I’m not the only one? 😂 I imagine he will be asking for sleepovers in a few years time but right now I just see any need for it?

Is normal and not a concern.

Or normal people do what works for them but don't feel they have to tell judgey people what they do with their boobs in the privacy of their own home 😂
Have you tried making a 5 year old, or 3 year old for that matter so something they don't want to do recently? All these poor children being forced to carry on breastfeeding.

Well done for still breastfeeding. My little one is 18months and hasn’t had a sleepover because he wouldn’t cope without the breast in the night yet.

People saying it's not necessary, I don't get that? Loads of things aren't necessary but they're fun, enjoyable, make people happy. Such a strange thing attitude.

We also breastfed and co-slept at 3. Did't do sleepovers until 6

Oh no - my two slept at grandparents from a young age - absolutely marvellous!!

I never do it. I've got 4, 2 with additional needs. They can be a handful and they don't have the space for them all. I've never really seen the need. The younger kids have had the odd weekend away with grandparents but that's rare.

Yes, starting at about 18 months pretty regularly. But my DC sounds like the opposite of yours. Very independent, weaned themselves at a year, has always LOVED sleepovers. Used to push me out the door at age 2 at granny’s house. I miss them obviously but I love how deep a relationship ship they have with my parents.

Not the point of the thread I know, but "quite the opposite" of beneficial? Please explain how breastfeeding is detrimental. I don't think the nutritional value disappears as soon as the child hits a certain age...

FWIW, I plan on my son sleeping over with his grandparents eventually but only when I think it will be fun and enjoyable for him - that could be at 3yrs or 9yrs. I don't especially need him to be anywhere other than where I am and that's currently the only place he wants to be (18mths).

I slept over worth my mum's parents a lot but we all lived on the same property. I never slept over worth my dad's parents.

My in laws are nice people but they don't have a close enough relationship with our DD for sleepovers - they haven't offered and we wouldn't feel comfortable anyway.

I think my mum would like to but DD doesn't want to stay over on her own. She's only 5 and I don't want to leave her in a situation where she feels uncomfortable. Maybe she'll change her mind when she's a bit older.

Surely it depends on how close you are as a family. I'm not especially close to my mother and consequently we don't spend an awful lot of time together. I can see that if we were closer, then DD would also have a more familiar relationship and be happy with sleepovers.

As a young child I caught chicken pox the same week my mum went into labour with my younger sister. It was very good that I was comfortable staying at my grandparents then. It would have been tough if I’d been unused to ever sleeping away from my mum.

I breastfed at 4!

Firstly, a massive appreciation for all of those who are breastfeeding. The rates in the UK are shockingly low at even 6-8 weeks, so when you compare that to the WHO recommendations, you're doing an amazing thing.

OP, mine does not have sleepovers at grandparents, but a grandparent has stayed at our house on three occasions, in eighteen months - only when me and DH have needed to be away.

Giving DC the routine and familiarity of their own space, whilst having a grandparent care for them, has felt useful on those rare occasions where it has been an absolute need.

We absolutely have no plans to have sleepovers on a more frequent basis, or at GPs house.

Mine sleep over loads. My 1st was 4 months when she slept the 1st time the others a little older as they didn't sleep through as quickly. It was mainly for work purposes but also the odd night out/wedding/weekend away.
No regrets and also no judgement if that's not what was right for you. It was needed and worked for us. Eldest is 15 now and still sleeps at her nanas house every month.

One could argue that it's more abnormal to stop feeding to your schedule rather than the child's and to separate them from their parents overnight before they're ready, but different things work for different people.
Fortunately for both you and I, what I do with my boobs isn't your concern. You'd never know without me telling you either, ANYONE COULD BE THIS REPULSIVE AND YOU'D NEVER KNOW 😂

I've never slept over at my grand parents house! My eldest slept over at her nan's once when she was 5, and she hated it. She's never wanted to do it again! There's no need to sleep over, it's fun to spend a few hours then come home for bed.

I think it's a good thing to help them gain independence in a gentle way as they get older. They'll be sleep overs at friends houses and school residentials at some point and you want them to feel confident to be away from you overnight by then. But those things don't tend to happen untill junior school, so there's no rush!

Until they had siblings my grandson wasn't happy to sleep over. I've always waited until parents asked

My one and a half year old has slept at my in laws twice kind if without us as in they put him to bed as we were at weddings and came back after his bedtime. Due to the locations of the weddings it made more sense for us to stay there too though so we were there when he woke.
I would let him stay over with us somewhere else as well.
He was just past 1 the first time and I did still breastfeed a little then.

One of mine was breastfed at four and a half.

Mine did a few times when late primary aged. My DPs really didn’t want to when they were tiny. The DCs really enjoyed it. Sadly my MIL died, she would have loved to have them.

Also, good on you for continuing to BF. Ignore any ignorant comments. People can be utter idiots!

There is nothing wrong with extended breastfeeding.

My children don't have any grandparents, but I can understand wanting to stay with your own children overnight. I will say I think it must be lovely to have a break and let your children build a bond with grandparents that is separate from you.