Does anyone else not send their children to grandparents for sleepovers?

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My child is 3 years old and he has never had a sleepover. Both sets of grandparents have asked about it and I just don’t see any need for it. We co-sleep, he still breastfeeds to sleep most nights and I don’t want him to sleep anywhere else/away from us and I see no reason why he should 🤷‍♀️ Surely I’m not the only one? 😂 I imagine he will be asking for sleepovers in a few years time but right now I just see any need for it?

Same here. They had sleep overs at both sets of grandparents regularly from a few months old. They also stayed with one or other of the grandparents for a week and several weekends each year so my husband and I could go away together. My children are now 30 and 27 and have amazing bonds with their grandparents.
My eldest is now a father of one with another on the way and I have had my 2 year old grandson overnight numerous times and am looking forward to doing the same for the new baby too.

Yes 2 not 3 or 4 or even god forbid as PP said 5! 😂

Flashback to me going out of the house for a few hours leaving my parents with my three kids... I came back and all three children were upset.. I never got to the bottom of what happened... never left them again..

Mine don't and never have on a regular basis because it's not practical due to the distance but they've had overnight stays at ours with grandparents whilst we are away for the weekend.

I stayed over at my grandparents on my mum's side loads and it was great whilst I was young, as I got older they used to annoy me!

Not so much on my dad's side due to the distance but my parents would often go out for dinner whilst we were staying with her leaving her to babysit and me to sneak down after they had left and sit eating crisps. Some lovely memories of the time we spent together.

Unless there are safety concerns I think it's a shame that some parents don't allow it because there is no need. It's always useful to know that someone can have your kids overnight if you ever want to do stuff without them or in an emergency or something and it's great for the grandparents and children relationships.

Mine have had sleepovers with Grandparents since 6 weeks old but they were formula fed and happily slept in baskets/cots.

Mine LOVED sleepovers at grandparents. Probably started about 3 and happened every month or so until they outgrew it. Mine are 17, 15, 13 and haven't slept over anywhere for several years. They like being at home and don't want to sleep somewhere else. I'm glad the grandparents got lots of that lovely bonding time before it was over. If we needed to go somewhere now, our eldest would stay and be in charge, so I don't anticipate another grandparent/child sleepover... Until we get to be the grandparents!

Definitely done sleepovers with GC. Twice or three times a week at times, despite finding it exhausting.

They love it. So do I. It fosters a lovely closeness.

Breastfeed at 3 here too!

We do it because we still get broken nights and early morning and need a break!
We also get to go out for a meal and the kids love it. Win win.

Tell me you don't know what "at least" means without saying it...

@nosleepoverss Mine don't either. Dps mum is physically unable and v far away - I do not trust my own parents (who live a boat ride away so not accessible if the kids have an emergency) to keep them physically safe (lots of violence for me as a child).

Both of mine also co sleep still, eldest for health reasons, youngest is still breastfeeding (heavily...) like yours at 3. And to pp, yes I'd rather she have stopped by now, I am not doing it for me, but because she finds immense comfort in it after full time nursery/frequent hospital stays with her big brother/work trips. It's the first and last thing she wants each day, and I can't imagine she'll go to school asking for it, like I can't imagine ds will still be asking to co sleep at university.

Biology says otherwise. Natural term weaning is generally up to about 7ish. Its not forced it's totally DD's choice. In many countries not breastfeeding to natural term is unusual.

WHO recomend breastfeeding until 2 years and beyond. It continues to have benefit.

But you do you, i'll do me.

My DS 12 months sleeps over at MILs every couple of weeks. MIL loves it, he gets spoilt and we get a break. I usually spend the free evening cleaning and catching up on washing!

This. It is scary.

Mine started at 5, she absolutely begged to and loves going there for a night in the holidays. I miss her terribly, but it's good for her and she enjoys it.

7 x 2, nearly 6 and 4.

never had a sleepover anywhere. grandparents contributed to my exhaustion and delusions but gave no practical help.

interestingly we have close friends sleep here, and they have offered same, and mine are not interested.

first two bottle fed, second two breast fed to around two years, baby three along with baby four. First two adopted before anyone questions that. Everyone cosleeps in some crazy massive bed.

absolutely see no benefit in breastfeeding a four or five year old

What frightens you about it?

You do understand WHO deals with countries where water is so unsafe, infant mortality is through the roof and there is no food for both children and adults so for the children not to die of starvation, WHO issues this guidance, so you must understand why they issue this guidance, surely you do?

Abnormality scares me in every respect.

Yes mine have stayed out since about 8 months old. It’s an absolute treat, can have a slow morning, a nice coffee in bed etc. They’ve had weekends away at the sea side with cousins and loved it. I highly recommend it to anyone, the guilt and anxiety over leaving them soon fades when you have a full nights kip.

Again totally depends on so many factors, mine had a few when they were older and they came back strange, different, colder somehow reserved then it took a while to get them back to normal so we said no

I would have no issue with my parents and my Mum looked after DC1 at ours whilst we had a night away and I suspect they would have had them on holiday if they were still alive. I don’t trust my in-laws - heavy sleepers and they don’t have much of a relationship with them. They’ve stayed with my sister and I’ve had my nieces in return - they like a cousin sleepover!

DS didn’t go for a sleepover with grandparents until he was nearly 5. I waited until he asked to. I certainly wouldn’t have considered it while still breastfeeding. I never coslept but I can imagine that would be a barrier as well. Don’t do it until you and your child are ready. I will say though that now when he goes, it’s like a little holiday for him and he has so much fun there. He’s creating precious memories and a lovely bond with grandparents.

Why are you concerned what other people do where it has literally nothing to do with you? Are you worried you'll be offered boob milk in your tea when you call by?

Mine sleep at inlaws without us maybe 3 times a year, when we need the childcare. This only started when youngest was about 5. I also breastfed youngest until he was 3.5.

People make such a big deal about the "importance" of sleepovers - if you know it's not going to work for your child then just hold your ground. Or maybe you could stay over with him, and they can cook you both breakfast in the morning?!