To think a man who needs you to “build with him” has no business dating?

[WittyOchreSwan]

Build with your therapist and financial advisor, not me.

What does this mean?

I thought he was building a house. What does that mean? Never heard it before.

What does “ build with “ mean is it a new terminology?

It’s the daily post from the 20 year old who’s never had a long term relationship advising all us older women on how to do marriage right

its getting so boring

Never heard that terminology - building a future yes, but in any other usage sounds odd to my ears.

Everyday with these stupid threads

Is this true OP?

Is it?!

If so I'm VERY disappointed in you!

Stop doing it!

Was thinking the same.

It means I’m not interested in dating someone who expects me to help him get his life together. ‘Building’ should be something you do with professionals, like a therapist for emotional growth or a financial advisor for money, not with a partner you’re just starting to date.

Is this the masculine energy poster?

Three letter name with an animal- yup it’s that extra virgin female essence dingbat

ThisSereneSnail
TheRealWasp

now @WittyOchreSwan

The Tik Tok generation have found mumsnet.

Of course you build with someone
build a home
build a family
build trust
build a patio
build furniture

are you the “man pays for everything” loopy lou ?

Has MN started a femininity movement?

I don't really know what you are talking about, but being on one other's team is a fundamental part of being in a long term relationship

I don't understand, are there swathes of men using "build with me" as their opening lines?

You’re not wrong OP, I have my shit together so I’d like anyone that I date to have theirs together too.

Are we talking Lego? I think that’s fine.

Please, God NO.

”I just want to rest in my femininity….”

😂

Not quite “hi, I’m Tom, let’s struggle together” but the vibe creeps in pretty fast.

Or the AI poster as it reads like Anerican twaddle.

So are you asking whether you are being unreasonable for wanting to date someone who has established themselves in a career, is financially stable and emotionally balanced and ready for a relationship?

My answer to that would be that's fine as long as you are also in a similar position.

I've just built a new potting table for the garden. DH helped a bit when I got tired. Does this count?

Sounds like masculine energy poster is back??