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Trans protest- sharing for balance

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Tandora · 20/04/2025 11:47

There’s a thread sharing some really awful images from the protest, so I wanted to share some positive ones for the sake of some perspective/ balance.
A lot of people are really understandably incredibly angry and overwhelmed by the events of the last few days. But most people who support trans rights absolutely don’t condone fighting oppression and injustice with misogyny.

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EasternStandard · 20/04/2025 16:28

TheOtherRaven · 20/04/2025 16:24

The issue is no non consenting women in a state of undress in them.

You often see this. When some women say 'we would gladly share third spaces and take our clothes off with you' they won't do. The goal is the non consenting ones. Which would suggest that there's something about the experience of power over those non consenting women and their responses that must be particularly rewarding.

I am bothered whether or not a man in an enclosed space where I need to be in a state of undress is a predator or not. But even if he's bloody lovely I still do not want him there. I know many lovely safe men in my life: it hasn't changed my desire for privacy from them, and actually part of why they are lovely and safe is that they have respect for other people's feelings and consent.

Yes look at the response to non consenting women below.

Helleofabore · 20/04/2025 16:28

Tandora, in all seriousness, since you have stated on this thread that you have linked so much evidence on MN now, I do really recommend you start an archive thread here so that you can simply refer us to parts of that thread when we ask you to support your statements in the future.

You also need to supply all those studies that you have found to all the review teams for the different countries that have done reviews on the treatment plans, as they must have missed them in their searches.

It would surely be doing the group you support a huge favour in making sure that the national review teams had the information. Then they can change their findings to suit the studies that you have provided.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/04/2025 16:28

Minuethippo · 20/04/2025 16:24

https://www.nature.com/articles/518288a
the above directly refutes the 0.018% claim by showing it ignores subtle but biologically significant variations (e.g., XXY, CAH).

Your 0.018% figure comes from a 2002 opinion piece ignoring modern science. Either you’re ignorant of the data or deliberately cherry-picking. Which is it?

You may not be aware, but the author of the Nature article, Claire Ainsworth, has gone on the record before to make it clear the variation she was talking about (ie disorders of sex development) was within the sex binary, not outside it. She wasn’t trying to claim there were more than two sexes. Fausto Sterling did, and later said she was being “tongue in cheek”.

Waitwhat23 · 20/04/2025 16:29

Hang on, you haven't read it?

Most of us actually have. So are basing statements on what is actually in the document, not regurgitating someone else's interpretation.

A TRA on Twitter actually tried to claim that the judges had purposely made the document 88 pages because that length of document is unthinkable.

Which is just a bit 🙄

AngelicKaty · 20/04/2025 16:30

Tandora · 20/04/2025 16:25

I don’t exist to justify myself to you. I’m just here trying to offer a little balance/ interrupt the constant stream of transphobic noise on mumsnet.

But you're not offering any balance if you just insult people and refuse to provide evidence or analysis (because you've provided it before on another thread and it's too much effort for you to copy/paste it into this thread - a thread that you started to provide "balance"). Don't you see the harm you do to the trans community when you fail to argue their case coherently? You're certainly not doing them any favours.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/04/2025 16:30

Waitwhat23 · 20/04/2025 16:29

Hang on, you haven't read it?

Most of us actually have. So are basing statements on what is actually in the document, not regurgitating someone else's interpretation.

A TRA on Twitter actually tried to claim that the judges had purposely made the document 88 pages because that length of document is unthinkable.

Which is just a bit 🙄

Hahaha I hadn’t see that 😂

TheKeatingFive · 20/04/2025 16:30

You often see this. When some women say 'we would gladly share third spaces and take our clothes off with you' they won't do. The goal is the non consenting ones. Which would suggest that there's something about the experience of power over those non consenting women and their responses that must be particularly rewarding.

This is a really important observation

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/04/2025 16:30

AngelicKaty · 20/04/2025 16:30

But you're not offering any balance if you just insult people and refuse to provide evidence or analysis (because you've provided it before on another thread and it's too much effort for you to copy/paste it into this thread - a thread that you started to provide "balance"). Don't you see the harm you do to the trans community when you fail to argue their case coherently? You're certainly not doing them any favours.

It’s almost like there is no case.

KateShugakIsALegend · 20/04/2025 16:30

KateShugakIsALegend · 20/04/2025 16:27

But you did say you had repeatedly shared these links, and what was holding you back from sharing them here was our lack of interest.

Yet still you don't share them. What should we conclude?

@Tandora last chance to step up ..

FOJN · 20/04/2025 16:31

Tandora · 20/04/2025 16:26

Transphobic means hated, prejudice, fear , discrimination directed at trans people

Look when you find the material reality of biological sex transphobic we simply can't take any of you other accusations seriously.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/04/2025 16:31

TheKeatingFive · 20/04/2025 16:30

You often see this. When some women say 'we would gladly share third spaces and take our clothes off with you' they won't do. The goal is the non consenting ones. Which would suggest that there's something about the experience of power over those non consenting women and their responses that must be particularly rewarding.

This is a really important observation

Definitely.

ImConfusedDotComHelp · 20/04/2025 16:31

SeedyHotel · 20/04/2025 14:37

Sex is binary.
Trans women are men.
No lesbian accepts TW as lesbians because men cannot be lesbians.

Any and all men are predatory if they’re trying to get into women’s single sex spaces.
TW retain male patterns of behaviour, perfectly demonstrated by the attack on feminists at one of their protests.

I’m so sick of hearing that TWAW, when everything about them is male. Their vibe, their smell, the fucking awful way they treat women when women say no, the way they trample all over women, and the way they’ve groomed so many women to believe everything they say. It’s sickening and so fucking stupid of anyone to believe.

💯

ViolasandViolets · 20/04/2025 16:31

Even using disputed numbers: If trans women were hypothetically 4x more likely to offend (they're not), they'd still commit <0.1% of sex crimes given their tiny population size.

The prosecutors fallacy. The chance of being the victim of a sex crime be a trans identified man is low because the chance of being in the same space as a transidentified man is low. BUT if you are in the same space as a transidentified man identified man then the risk of being a victim is many times higher than for other men.

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 20/04/2025 16:32

The thing is stating transwomen are women can never be based on anything but a stereotype of what a woman is as it is not based on objective biology. Women have spent centuries fighting the oppressiveness predicated on such stereotypes. It is therefore, inherently, a misogynistic statement. If you disagree, what defines a woman (and please don’t insult us or yourself be a self referencing definition - those days are long gone).

No one is saying Trans people don’t have rights, the court case was very clear about that. What is being said is that they don’t have women’s rights, in the same way they don’t have race rights. Now is the time to be enforcing those rights, to create safe spaces and services for trans people. For clarification these safe spaces and services are different than the ones created under the sex based rights afforded to women (adult female human) and men (adult make human). Of course trans people also have these rights according to their biological sex. Therefore a trans woman, ie a person who is biologically male will have these rights according rights accorded to men.

People and the media are trying to confuse this, trans people still have exactly the same rights as a month ago. It’s just that people have been misinterpreting the law mainly due to the purposeful confusion caused by groups such as stonewall. Trans people have never been able to change sex. The part of the Equality Act that governs women only spaces/services is, and always has been based on sex. Sex is and always will be natal and immutable in humans.

Transwomen are men, men, as a group, pose the biggest threat to women. A 9 year old boy isn’t really a threat to women, yet gyms etc seem very ready to exclude them from women’s changing rooms.

Waitwhat23 · 20/04/2025 16:32

Oh God, we haven't really had both the Sex Redefined and the Fausto Sterling nonsense brought up.

I swear that there is a TRA cheat sheet from 2018 which hasn't been updated doing the rounds.

Minuethippo · 20/04/2025 16:32

Helleofabore · 20/04/2025 16:20

For anyone who wants to know the MOJ stats or what should be considered for evaluating risk of this sub group of males to show that they have a risk level not less than any other male in the UK of committing sex crime, have a read through the statistics for males who have transgender identities who commit sex crimes in the UK
Firstly, This was a question answered earlier this year:

https://questions-statements.parliament.uk/written-questions/detail/2024-12-16/20298.

Question from Rebecca Paul (MP Reigate): To ask the Secretary of State for Justice, with reference to the HMPPS Offender Equalities Annual Report 2023-2024, published on 28 November 2024, how many of the 50 transgender prisoners who reported their legal gender as female were convicted of a sexual offence.

Answer from Sir Richard Dakin (MP Scunthorpe): 23 December 2024
Of the 245 transgender prisoners who reported their legal gender as male (i.e. those who now identify as women, non-binary or gender-fluid) on 31 March 2024, 151 were convicted of a sexual offence. This includes both contact and non-contact sexual offences. Offence data was not available for 1 individual.

Of the 50 transgender prisoners who reported their legal gender as female on 31 March 2024, the number convicted of a sexual offence is five or fewer. We do not provide exact data for such small sample sizes as it risks identification of individuals. This approach is in line with our standards on data disclosure

To put this into perspective with what we already knew from FOI information:

Here is data from the MoJ

Here is an FOI request from 30 April 2024
https://www.whatdotheyknow.com/request/populationoftransgenderoffend/response/2641337/attach/html/7/FOI%20240322022%20Annex%20A.xlsx.html

Up to the 31st March 2023, the MoJ stated that of the 88 male transgender prisoners with one or more sexual offences.

The breakdown was
48 rapes,
0 attempted rapes,
10 Sexual assault or attempted sexual assault,
13 causing or inciting a child under 16 to engage in sexual activity,
0 indecent assault or gross indecency
6 sexual activity with a child under 16
0 other

77 listed here.... BUT there is a total of 88 in the total so there is 11 crimes not noted.

Possessing or making indecent photographs or pseudo photographs of child has not been recorded in this FOI.

However, there is are further discrepancies in the data of the following when you look at TOTAL NUMBER OF TRANSGENDER PRISONERS SENTENCED FOR A PRINCIPAL SEXUAL OFFENCE.

1 causing or inciting a child under 16 to engage in sexual activity
3 rapes
2 sexual activity with a child under 16
3 Sexual assault or attempted sexual assault,

This equals 9 additional... however the sum for TOTAL NUMBER OF TRANSGENDER PRISONERS SENTENCED FOR A PRINCIPAL SEXUAL OFFENCE is 99.

Therefore 2 more sex crimes have been hidden from this data.
There were 203 males who were declared as transgender in the prison at the time.

There were 24 NB who were not segregated into male and female. What is key here, is that THIS IS NON-GRC HOLDERS. And we all know that males holding GRCs have increased and they are excluded from this data. NO female people with transgender identities were sentenced to a principal sexual offence. There were 41 female people with transgender identities in UK prisons at that time.

As a comparison, I have stats that say as of April 2019 that the general male MoJ data for male sex offenders was just 16.8% of the male prison population.
And there were 3.3% of female people in UK prisons were sex offenders.
I will leave you to do your own sums. And that doesn't include making or possessing indecent photographs of a child remember.

By the way this exercise was done in 2021. And I checked this data myself from the data source and it was correct at the time. So, it will give some back ground to the above.

The ones that say that in the March/April 2021 data collection period, the MoJ stated that of the 97 transgender prisoners with one or more sexual offences.

The breakdown was
40 rapes,
8 attempted rapes,
31 possessing or making indecent photographs or pseudo photographs of child,
32 Sexual assault or attempted sexual assault,
20 causing or inciting a child under 16 to engage in sexual activity,
10 indecent assault or gross indecency
9 sexual activity with a child under 16
27 other

The 97 sex offender transgender prisons collected 177 sentences between them.

  1. Trans prisoners make up 0.34% of the prison population—their offense rates are negligible in context.
  2. 99% of sexual crimes in prisons are committed by cis men—your focus on trans women is a distraction.
  3. GRC holders (legally female) have near-zero convictions-proving transition reduces risk.
  4. Peer-reviewed studies show trans women post-transition offend at female-typical rates.
BreatheAndFocus · 20/04/2025 16:32

Tandora · 20/04/2025 16:26

Sure.

They are, Tandora and the Supreme Court judgement has just confirmed that - sex is biological not what anyone has got typed on a 5 quid piece of paper.
Single sex spaces are permitted and are divided by sex. The clues in the name, and the SC has confirmed what this means.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/04/2025 16:32

Tandora won’t share any links to her previous arguments because then, as now, they were easily refuted.

Helleofabore · 20/04/2025 16:32

These threads over the past few days have been amazing. I thank each and every poster who started one. Because every single time, so many new posters join in the discussion and show that they have been reading quietly in the past and taking on board all the information that has been posted.

So, despite all the usual posters entering threads and accusing feminists of being hateful, and complaining about 'another hateful thread', there have been many many eyes reading.

And now it has reached the point where women have had enough. We had the Upton and NHS Fife statements earlier this year. And now this.

Brilliant stuff. Women are saying 'no thank you'.

aylis · 20/04/2025 16:32

Tandora · 20/04/2025 16:24

So trans women / girls who use the female loos are inherently predatory?

In the rapacious sense, yes. In the sexual sense, it's clear that the number is not zero.

Tandora · 20/04/2025 16:32

KateShugakIsALegend · 20/04/2025 16:27

But you did say you had repeatedly shared these links, and what was holding you back from sharing them here was our lack of interest.

Yet still you don't share them. What should we conclude?

You will conclude what you will- I certainly have no control over yput conclisions. I’ve spent so many hours typing out carefully explained posts, researching links to papers, trying to search for old posts to link to or replicate (not easy to do without pro I think?) I don’t think a single person has really been interested. The same posters come back to the next thread and say “explain this” when you’ve explained it to them in detail just days ago. For them it’s not a genuine question, asked from a position of curiosity, it’s a “haha gotcha! You can’t even say what you mean!” It doesn’t matter when you prove them completely wrong. Because they were never open to hearing anything you had to say in the first place.

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PastIsAnotherCountry · 20/04/2025 16:32

Waitwhat23 · 20/04/2025 16:29

Hang on, you haven't read it?

Most of us actually have. So are basing statements on what is actually in the document, not regurgitating someone else's interpretation.

A TRA on Twitter actually tried to claim that the judges had purposely made the document 88 pages because that length of document is unthinkable.

Which is just a bit 🙄

Maybe they would understand if the SC panel produced an interpretive dance? Or a TikTok?
With all the union support they have you would think someone would do this for them.

Helleofabore · 20/04/2025 16:33

No thank you! No man is a woman.

Helleofabore · 20/04/2025 16:33

No men are women. The EA says so.

I don't need the last post Tandora because forever more my post will also read.

So.... about that evidence... Care to start putting the evidence out there? At last? Or will it still just be 'go google'?

Oh.. and..

And no male person can ever experience life as a woman. They can only ever experience life as a male person who believes they are a woman.

Even when they 'act' like a woman, they are acting as they believe a 'woman' should act. Which is fucking misogynistic!

Even if they are treated 'as a woman' by some people, they are being treated as a 'male who presents as a woman and believes they are a woman'. Because their every reaction is based on that. Not on them being female in any way.

Even when they have extreme body modifications, it is to be their own concept of what a female looks like to them. It is not what a female is.

How can it be?

The only way a person can experience life as a woman, is to have a female body, formed around the production of large gametes, even if it doesn't produce those and to navigate their life based on the decisions they and society makes that revolve around them having that body.

A male can conceptualise what it might be like to be a female, but that is all it ever is - their concept of being female.

They may do it because they don't feel they fit into how they conceptualise how a male person interacts with the world (ie. their own stereotypes around being male) or they do it because they want to be seen as a female (using their own stereotypes of how a female navigates life). It really doesn't matter though. Their motivation is irrelevant to the outcome. And I consider the outcome can only be described as misogyny.

Which is that they will always be just a male who believes they are something they are objectively not.

How can the material reality be any different? This is why someone's gender is only based on someone's philosophical belief. And philosophical beliefs are fine for people to hold, but not one person in the UK has to comply with another's philosophical belief.

The logic cannot be any different than that I am afraid.

Now is your chance Tandora... use your last post to start linking up evidence to educate us all.

Tandora · 20/04/2025 16:33

Someone trying to get the last post as usual. For once, I just snuck in there 😘.

Trans lives matter. Trans people are not a threat to women. The protests yesterday were overwhelmingly peaceful. Trans people just want to be recognised , accepted and valued for who they really are.

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