What I really don’t understand is when straight women go out of their way to hate on trans women - what did they do to you?
Well, I don't 'hate on' anyone.
I'm straight but I do have several lesbian friends. One has some sympathy with transmen but most have a problem with the whole movement for the same reason I do.
I've taken this from a post I put on another thread. It was early so it's probably not very clear but 🤷🏻♀️
And, as many people have said before, we've knowingly been using the loos alongside transwomen for years and most people didn't give it much thought as long as people were respectful. Its only been in the last 10 years that we've had a situation where we've had to pretend they were actually women and they have been allowed to have us kicked out of women's spaces or denied medical treatment or made criminals or sacked for recognising that they are male.
And had the language around womenhood (chestfeeding, pregnant people, cervix havers) changed. Along with the complete fetishisation of womanhood.
Alongside, the invasion of women's sports and the nonsense of people being encouraged and permitted to change their birth sex on legal documents and by the NHS which has resulted in ridiculous situations and death (TW demanding nurses perform smear tests on them despite not having a vagina or a cervix and a transman who died because she had registered as male and the hospital had treated her as such. This meant that they made the wrong diagnosis - via blood tests - and she didn't get the treatment she needed).
NHS hospitals that have changed the zebra crossings, which are black and white and easy to see for visually impaired people to rainbow striped ones, which aren't. Police dancing at Pride festivals and pretending they haven't seen male violence if it's committed by the right sort of man whilst visiting women who have used the wrong words.
People conflating LGB issues, which are about sexuality, with T+ issues which are about identify, which means that members of the LGB community have been negatively impacted by the trans demands because some people lump them all together. Or the T issues not being dealt with appropriately because, "This is just like people's attitude towards gay rights in the 80s," when it's completely different. And when the LGB Alliance was set up to prioritise the LGB without the T, the T went for them too. We've all read about the 'Cotton Ceiling' and language calling lesbians (never gay men) 'genital fetishists'. Young lesbians being coerced into having sex with transwomen with a penis for fear of being seen as 'exclusionary'.
The poor woman who was told they couldn't have been raped because she was on a women's ward and there were no men on there. When she knew she'd been raped and a year later it turned out that one of the women was a special new with a penis woman rather than be suppprted as a rape victim. Or women in courts who've had to refer to their rapist as 'she'.
Or just general basic safeguarding requirements being ignored if the person breaking them was a transwoman or if a child said they were trans. Schools that were encouraged to socially transition children and not tell their parents (for safeguarding reasons in case their parents were TERFs). Parents who only found out their daughter was now their 'son' when they received the end of year report or went to parents evening - as per the DfE guidance at the time.
The whole movement was damaging to all women. Not any one individual transwoman who just wanted to get on with their life quietly whilst wearing a dress.
And, tbh, they're just as much a victim of the 'movement' that claimed to represent them too.
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