To respond this way to sister criticising my diet?

[ByOpenRubyReader]

I've been a vegetarian since 10 years old, now 35. My mum/dad have been supportive since the start but the same can not be said for my sister who constantly asks how I'm getting my protein, B12, nutrients etc and has since I've been a teenager.

She did it for the 1,000th time while we were out at a restaurant and instead of explaining for the 1,000th time I just asked her if there is any sort of nutritional/developmental deficiency why am I 6" taller than her, in far better shape than her and a multimillionaire while she regularly relies on our parents for money.

She didn't say anything for a second then raised her voice, asked what was wrong with me and stormed out. DF tried to get her to come back in but was unsuccessful and told me I shouldn't have said that but it was a long time coming.

AIBU to think this was a reasonable way to respond, keeping in mind I have told her over and over again to stop commenting on my diet?

I don't think you were unreasonable at all.

You seem to hate each other.

I couldn't have been that nasty- an eyeroll or "why do you keep asking" would surely have done?

yes you went overboard but by the sound of it she deserved it

That was a very nasty comment OP.

Yeah, of course you can tell her you’re tired of these comments…just not like that!

Wealth is totally irrelevant in this situation.
It does sound like you consider yourself superior to her!!!
I agree her constant criticism of your diet is out of order but I'd just ignore her if I were you and carry on as you are but there was no need to talk to her like that on front of others in a restaurant.

It sounds like it was the last straw after years of shitty comments, and you snapped and gave her a taste of her own medicine. Ok what you said wasn't nice, but I also don't blame you.
I'd have probably just told her to shut up and stop asking / commenting on your health, or fuck off.

I'm slightly older but the rest of it does sound quite similar.

Sometimes things are left long over due.

Now hopefully she's been told she won't ask again.

So you just made that comment to hurt her so?

You were nasty. It was unnecessary. I can see that her comments are irritating but you could have just said something like "Oh, not this again. I’ve told you all this loads of times before."

It seems that your sister feels inferior to you and was looking for something she could criticise. But all you’ve done is emphasise and confirm that you and others do feel she is inferior. It was a very unpleasant thing to say and I don’t suppose your sister will ever forget it.

I think she was being a knob and she asked for it. Your tether had been reached and you gave her both barrels. Good for you. Perhaps she will shut up now and find something else to bang on about.

all you’ve done is emphasise and confirm that you and others do feel she is inferior. It was a very unpleasant thing to say and I don’t suppose your sister will ever forget it.

Yeah, you’ll be a long time coming back from this.

I don't think being a vegetarian makes you taller, fitter or smarter. I also don't think it makes you a malnourished wreck or gives you brain-damage, which is her hypothesis.

Good on you

And do it again next and every time she does it again

She didn’t say more than she intended. She thinks what she said was acceptable which is why she has come here for validation, rather than saying “I went to far, caused my sister to run out of a family gathering upset, how do I put this right?”.

OP very much intended to say these things, cause hurt and thinks it was the right thing to do.

Wait, so you're saying all I have to do is give up meat and I'll be a multi millionaire? I know meat is expensive but I seriously had no idea!

Could I really give up bacon forever though... <ponders>

Well then why on EARTH use the info to shame your sister?! On the plus side, I doubt she’ll raise it with you again. On the minus, it’s difficult to see how you’ll get past this and your parents will undoubtedly be affected. You went way OTT in my opinion.

I would guess she feels inferior to you and criticising your diet is her way of levelling up. Can’t say I think it will have been your finest moment but I don’t blame you for being pissed off.

Well the moral of that story is that no-one can make you feel inferior without your permission and the way to deal with that is not to constantly pick holes and criticise other people in order to feel a little bit better about yourself. She's learned her lesson and hopefully and she'll think twice before she gives in to the urge to repeatedly lecture the OP on something that is really none of her business.

You didn’t say you were the same as her though, not malnourished and so on.

You literally said you were taller, fitter and - as indicated by earning power - smarter.

Well, she had something coming. Not sure the finances were relevant.

What does she say about your partner @ByOpenRubyReader?

This.

You both sound insufferable tbh

PP saying "I can see it's irritating but you were nasty"

why don't you feel the sister's constant criticism is nasty? Because...it is? If you criticised someone constantly in a marriage, it might be considered abuse.

Because vegetarians and vegans always have to be the ones who ignore these sorts of comments or say very little back. Yet if they are the ones criticising a meat eaters diet, they’re preachy. 🙄