To respond this way to sister criticising my diet?

[ByOpenRubyReader]

I've been a vegetarian since 10 years old, now 35. My mum/dad have been supportive since the start but the same can not be said for my sister who constantly asks how I'm getting my protein, B12, nutrients etc and has since I've been a teenager.

She did it for the 1,000th time while we were out at a restaurant and instead of explaining for the 1,000th time I just asked her if there is any sort of nutritional/developmental deficiency why am I 6" taller than her, in far better shape than her and a multimillionaire while she regularly relies on our parents for money.

She didn't say anything for a second then raised her voice, asked what was wrong with me and stormed out. DF tried to get her to come back in but was unsuccessful and told me I shouldn't have said that but it was a long time coming.

AIBU to think this was a reasonable way to respond, keeping in mind I have told her over and over again to stop commenting on my diet?

It wasn’t justified to bring money into it - it was a bitchy comment to make from your high horse.

A bit mean but well deserved. She’ll not pipe up again. 🤭

Of course you are a multi millionnaire, and I'm Melania Trump.

I love it, really made me laugh.

There has always been a rivalry to some extent but it's not particularly severe. It's mainly just her commenting on the stuff like diet or my partner.

I've told her all this before many, many times unfortunately.

I'm with you, OP.

It would piss me off, too, if the same person kept having the same inquisitorial conversation with me every time we got together.

It sounds like the slap-down is long overdue.
I doubt she'll mention the subject again, so Job Done!

Personally, every time I bite into a nut cutlet, my bank balance doubles. #VegetarianManifesting!😀

I have a sibling that can be bitchy and judgemental, sometimes they get back a little of what they give out. It’s not always pretty.

Sure steak is expensive and the price of beer is going up but you didn't become a millionaire by avoiding it.

People who are really in great shape mentally, physically and financially aren't typically as rude or angry as you. They are calm and confident in themselves and don't over react to slight annoyances like that.

So you probably aren't as fantastic as you've posted or you have some sort of insecurity that was irked by your sister's comments.

Most people would gave just went "exact same as last time you asked" snd moved on with their life.

Well hopefully she won’t bring it up again now. 😂

I don’t eat any animal products and have one relative who is forever making negative comments about my protein, iron and b12 intake, general health, veganism etc despite me never mentioning my diet other than to order food in front of him and then I answer his ‘queries’. I’m fit and healthy and he is not, but it doesn't stop him. I just ignore it but I’m sure one day he’ll get the sharp end of my tongue.

"and was an unrelated and completely unnecessary mean dig."

This is true BUT presumably OP also felt that the first 1000 comments about her health, etc were also "completely unnecessary mean digs" so, assuming she took the high road the first 1000 times it's understandable she cracked on the 1001st!

Pretty much as the dad said really, you obviously could have handled it better but you have handled it better the first 1000 times and it didn't work, so sometimes extreme measures are the last resort - it has been 25 years of this, even a saint would crack! If it takes one harsh/unnecessary comment for her to shut up vs another quarter century of her carrying on I think it's justifiable.

In an ideal world where you were perfect in every way the score would be 1000 mean digs from her 0 mean digs from you, but if 25 years it's only 1000 from her, 1 from you, it's not bad going!

Mean but she had it coming.

Multi-millionaire means 2 mil or more, it's not another word for billionaire or 100 mil. It's obviously hard but it's not near impossible like becoming a billionaire and even people like doctors and accountants can do it without starting their own business albeit by 50 or so

People who think that people shouldn’t be rude to others who have been rude for decades - why not? After all “treat others as you expect them to treat you” she was rude , she got rude back

Height is a good population level predictor of nutrition but less meaningful on an individual level. Anecdotally, my brother ate bugger all as a child but is 6’2 now (a foot taller than me, and 4 inches taller than our dad). I’ve been a vegetarian all my adult life and it does mean I have to take iron etc. Her going on about it is irritating though, it’s not really her business!

Me too. It was an utterly twatty thing to say.

You could just have told her to put a sock in it and left things at that.

I hope you have apologised for the money comment.

I agree with this too.

Sometimes people who do the thumping need to be thumped back. They are usually also the ones who weep and cry victim when it happens.

Are you aware of how condescending you come across in all of your posts?

This, and with the smugz twattery 'dad agrees with me 😇' makes me wonder if she's bored by your frequent golden child 'I am the best and sooo successful aren't I parents!!' If she's retaliated to your frequent self congratulatory nonsense.
I'd like to think if I was a ^multimillionaire' and a sibling struggled financially, I'd see how I could help, not watch and be a total arse!

Well, you threw everything you had against her in her face, not just her diet choices.
Yabu.

Hopefully OPs sister will also apologise for being ‘twatty’ many, many times in the past too. 😉

I’ve been a vegetarian for over 35 years (unfortunately still rely on my elderly parents for handouts fwiw) and I never argue the merits of vegetarianism with meat eaters. If they start I just say “yes you’re right” and carry on eating my delicious veggie food because ultimately I’ve made my choice and don’t give a shit about their opinion on it. Why get riled? She’s obviously insecure and you went for the jugular. Not cool.

I think when someone is picking at you constantly, then there does become a time when you do snap. Hopefully now she won’t ask you again!!

You've hit the nail on the head here.