I don’t like shy children

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Dd said this today.

She’s very outgoing, fun, friendly, kind etc

She said it’s because they don’t smile at her or want to play when she asks them and it makes her sad that they might not like her as their face and the way they act looks like that.

My Dd wasn’t trying to be unkind and I sort of see her point. It touched a nerve though as I was very shy when younger and am so pleased she’s the complete opposite as I think it will make things easier in life for her. I’ve always had friends but do sometimes find things hard socially, it did make me see things from her point of view and from more extroverted personalities…I hate the thought of people thinking I’m unfriendly and don’t like them, but I suppose some must have. I was always just thinking of it from my point of view
Sad how being shy made things so much harder

nonsense! You sound like a bit of a bully yourself

This! My husband always says to me I must go round in a world of my own as I very rarely notice other people/what they are doing 😂 , he does say it comes across sometimes as cold/not approachable but think I have just got to the point that I no longer care what strangers or people I barely know think of me anymore

Laugh at things I don’t understand…
That’s even funnier than “negative energy” 🤣

There’s so much to dissect with this post of how you seem to perceive how shy or quiet people think. Do you honestly think it’s just a matter of they are refusing to speak? Have you ever struggled with anxiety? Social anxiety? Overthinking? ( clearly not ha)

Do you think a shy person has ever felt suddenly full of stuff to say when they are reminded that they are shy and don’t talk much?

What you are saying is coming across extremely unkindly and showing no empathy. It’s a shame you have so much disdain and ridicule, hope you are more empathetic to others in the real world than you are online behind your screen

Yikes! I’m not shy but i’m not sure i’d want to speak to you either…

So ‘appropriate’ shyness is class-specific? Right.

Perhaps she is different because you have given her a confidence and security in herself ...well done!

Yes, I’d be wary to be honest. This kind of attitude and aggression is reminiscent of how school bullies would speak to me, a time I’d rather forget.

Glad she’s chatty and outgoing. Lucky her. Shame about the neurodiverse kids. Could do with some EDI training

Who could do with some EDI training?

I don’t know whether EDI training is a thing for six year olds. Sounds rather like overkill to me.

Why do you dislike children who are precocious?

I'm assuming you refer to intellectual/emotional precocity rather than physical.

Do precocious children make you feel inferior?

I was an academically precocious child and remember how it felt to be bullied, not just by other children, but by their parents too.

I was top of the class in everything, but I was never boastful. In fact, I was shy and often played down my achievements to avoid unpleasant attention.

School was a miserable place for me until I passed the entrance exam for a high-achieving grammar school. Only then - among other girls like me - did I appreciate that being academically ahead of my peers was a gift, not a curse.