For thinking that you shouldn't impose your celebrations on the entire street?

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We had a letter through the door yesterday from a house on our cul-de-sac. It informed us that they will be having wedding celebrations from the 14th-21st April, and that there may be increased cars and loud music but they will try to keep disruption to a minimum. They apologised in advance for any inconvenience caused. They've left their number so people can let them know if they have any concerns.

The music and bad singing is so loud that I can hear it in every single room of the house including the back bedrooms, despite the fact that they live at the top of the cul-de-sac and I live at the bottom so our gardens face in completely different directions.

My husband is sleeping downstairs because it's the only way to somewhat escape it and he has to work. As I've typed this the music has been ramped up so high that I can hear it word for word through closed double glazing. I'm at least 5 houses away.

If it was one night I wouldn't be bothered about it, but there's another 5 nights to go, and clearly the party isn't winding down because the music keeps getting louder. I just don't think it's fair that this is being imposed on the entire street for a week.

AIBU?

1. Contact them, from your hose when you can hear the noise, by phone and tell them to turn it down
2. If they don't, call the police, and the local council environmental protection department (they will have a 24-hpur number on their website)

This is not tolerable

If I'd seen that I would have called the police

OP has already updated that she has spoken the the council, they have advised to keep a diary, and they don’t have an out of hours number. Many councils can’t afford to provide this kind of service any more.

I would be asking for an invite 😂, if you don't want to contact them there is not much you are able to do i'm afraid - personally I would contact them and ask them to turn it down at a certain time pointing out that you have to be up for work, make it nice, congratulate them etc.

There's an awful lot of virtue signalling that goes on because it's a global majority wedding.

Oh the wonderful smells, and the costumes and dancing, how fantastic. Join in!

I'd hazard a guess they'd be very unhappy if it was a working class UK wedding going on for a week with music blaring and nowhere to park. Posters would be suggesting calling the Police, not knock on OP, ask if you can join in! Stop being a fun sponge.

You would in your high hole!

It's different if the noise is between 11pm & 7am. Have a word today if it carries on ask the council what they used to record the noise, download it & record.
One night is different to that length of time!

Well, that's an easy throwaway comment to make when you're not the one being impacted 🙄

Get a payg sim and text them to be quiet don't put a name to it and take it out of your phone afterwards

100 %. The behaviour is selfish and anti- social. I would call the police.

It is a police matter in Scotland. I've called police on a couple of occasions and been, on a couple of occasions in a house where police attended. You used to get one warning- if the police came back they removed sound equipment.

So by heritage I am Indian. Yes it is true that our weddings do go on over a number of days, but there has to be some reasonableness here. There is no need for massive noise late at night (after say10.30) and the need for consideration for neighbours does not go away just because there is a wedding. It does sound like these neighbours are difficult anyway? I would text to ask them to please keep the noise down and if this does not work I would contact the council. In reality though it can take a long time to get any action.

It's an excellent idea.

YANBU OP I would report to the council or police, depending which is best in your area.

Agree, OP this family sound aggressive and violent unfortunately so this might be the best way

It's certainly worth asking - it may be less noisy after the first night - I'm sure even the party goers will get tired. If not, definitely get earplugs or noise cancelling headphones so you can get some sleep.

DH came off his meeting and said he's going to text them when he's on his lunch. Apparently before she went to her club, DD told him she struggled to fall asleep and the music also woke her up at some point and she struggled to go back to sleep.

DD has a learning disability and when she's over tired she needs more support to process and retain information. With that in mind, we've decided DH is going to ask if the neighbours can keep it down after 11pm. It's not ideal for DD because she will still likely be woken up BUT if they do turn the music down, it will mean that once she settles back down she can get another 6 hours of interrupted sleep. It also means that nobody has any grounds to claim we're unreasonable because 11pm is the time people are actually meant to quieten down.

Also for what it's worth, it's not like they're going to have to party in silence, just at a volume that is confined to their own house. Their windows were closed last night but we could still hear the party through our double glazing more than 5 doors down.

Ooh I love Asian wedding celebrations, they really do know how to party lol

I know it's inconvenient and frustrating for you guys, however, it is 5 days and other than talking to them to try to reach some compromise there's not much you can do

11pm seems like a very reasonable time for the music to be quieter, especially on a week night (or consecutive week nights)

If it's not about partying then they don't need blaring music at all times, do they? 😉

Why is 'Asian" (whatever that is supposed to mean as if Asia is a mono-culture) anti- social behaviour acceptable when any other plain old anti-social behaviour isn't?

I'm just going to add add I'm not going to involve the police, and I'm certainly not going to make false allegations about massive disturbances or drug dealing. It's not a "massive disturbance", it's (very) inconsiderate neighbours.

I'm someone who is also brown, albeit from a different culture, so I'm very conscious that the police often "over police" minorities, and that relationships with the police can be quite poor due to a lack of trust. If I over exaggerate what is actually going on then it could have real consequences. I don't want to cause a kick off, or get them arrested or have their wedding ruined just because I'm pissed off about their inconsiderate behaviour. That's not my goal.

Obviously if they are hostile and aggressive to us once DH has requested they be quieter going forward we will put our safety first and call the police if needed. But I would never do it without a real reason to

1 or 2 days I could manage but a week is abit long… I’d just be polite and contact them just airing your concerns and that you don’t wish to spoil anything but could they be more considerate

Someone’s race isn’t an excuse for antisocial behaviour, which is what this is. They should’ve chosen a private venue (not their house) if they wanted to party all week. Speak to the council today and say that there’ll be parties all week lasting to the early hours of the morning.

I think this is very fair on your part

I wonder how many other neighbours are going to complain?