To find this bizarre? Friend and soap

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A friend came around earlier as I had a half day. Before she left, she said she was just popping to the loo. I then heard her call a minute later, “Splodge? There’s no soap”.

I have a dispenser, so I assumed it had run out and called back that there was some on the side of the bath. There was a pause and she called back, “No, not here”. I knew it was there so replied, “Just against the wall, behind the shower screen”. Again, a pause before a bewildered “No…”

I was completely confused now, as I knew very well it was there. I went through to the hall and she was standing in the doorway looking baffled. I went in, looked behind the screen and sure enough, there it was. I handed it to her and said, “Here, see?”

She burst out laughing and said, “Ohhhhh!! It’s shower gel!!” I was a bit confused and replied, “Well yes; soap, shower gel… whatever”. She was smiling at me a bit like I was a child who’d made a comical mistake. She said, “You said soap. This is shower gel. Show-er gel.” With the last bit really slowly, like she wasn’t sure English was my first language.

I was really taken aback. Who is this bizarrely literal? Surely it’s all pretty much the same thing? I thought maybe she was looking for a bar of soap and this was what had confused her somehow, but surely when you couldn’t see it you’d think “it must be the stuff in the bottle”? And even if you didn’t, wouldn’t you just have used the shower gel anyway?

I’ve never noticed her take things so literally before. Is it me or is this just really odd?!

Well I’m amazed by the poll results op, YANBU! 😆

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I would prefer soap over shower gel tbh, but shower gel is better than nothing I suppose.

Me too 😄 Obviously people are a lot more literal than I realised!

Tell me your bored without telling me?!

whi gives a fuck if it’s on the sink or on the bath? Just wash your damn hands and leave.. surely if you went into a house and they had no soap or anything on the sink you’d just get it from the bath?! Or would you leave without washing your hands????? Why yous all making it sound so hard to pick up some soap from the bath?!

They really are!

It's one of the reasons marketing works so well.

That and people really don't want to accept it works on them.

This. Soap is a bar or dispenser by the sink. I would use SG if no soap if you asked me to but I'd never use it otherwise!

Yes, however...

Then you get in the shower and realise you've left shower gel by the sink.
The sink is next to the shower but one could potentially overreach, grab hold of shower curtain. They could then spin round, pulling the shower curtain down possibly falling out of the bath, hitting their ribs on sink taps, bashing their back on the toilet and finally falling to the floor where their head has hit the door, creating a hole in the bottom of it where some of their hair still resides.

They'd then lay naked on the bathroom floor wondering what bones were broken. Realising none were, they'd still carefully get up and dry off. Unclean and in shock.
They'd have to head downstairs for a quick vodka.

True story and very outing to the one person on here that knows that was me 😭

It was quite terrifying. The bruises!

I honestly can't believe I didn't break anything apart from the door.

Keep those dispensers topped up folks!

I might use my own shower gel as hand soap, but I wouldn’t use someone else’s without being explicitly told to. And I’d find it so bizarre if someone went into my shower and used my shower gel (unless they were having a shower).

But the point is the method of delivery and, mostly, the inconvenience of having to keep moving the same bottle between them.

Just like, if you have two toilets in your home, the toilet paper that you use in one of them is identical to the paper that you use in the other one; but most people would keep different rolls in both toilets and not just keep running between them with the same toilet roll!

Although they are detergent based, it wouldn’t even occur to me to use shower gel as soap so I think it’s unusual
I do have shower cream and handwash in separate dispensers, but one is clearly marked “ shower gel”

I have used shower gel if the handwash dispenser has run out but honestly the biggest difference is how it comes out. Shower gel wodges out in big gloops, far too much for handwashing. So on that basis, it's not fit for purpose.

you’re out of line for this

why you getting personal with someone over fucking soap?!

really this is bugging me more then it’s probs bugging OP cuz you ain’t a true friend if your gunna give me shit over the fact that the soap dispenser was empty and you had to just shower gel oh no 3rd world problems 😂😂

some of y’all need to get a life

Even when I’d specified it was on the edge of the bath?

If someone says soap I assume they mean a bar of soap, not hand wash or shower gel. However, I hope none of the very sensitive people here will get really wound up if I point out that most of the shower gel I buy is called 'hand and body wash'... Should I put it by the sink or should I not? Should I have two bottles, one in the shower and one by the sink? It's clearly a very complicated subject.

It might well be the same thing, but people purchase them for different reasons and usually use them for different things. She was looking for soap not shower gel - you should have told her that you decide not to differentiate. Bizarre to think otherwise tbh.

This is shower gel. Show-er gel.

This was rude of her, but her bafflement is understandable

Well yes but if I asked where the soap was and I could only see shower gel I'd say I can't see any soap, just shower gel as it wouldn't occur to me that a friend would call them the same name and I wouldn't want to look stupid by using the wrong thing

If someone said soap I would think a bar of soap. I always have a bar of soap and hand wash so people can choose and if the hand wash runs out like yours there is still some soap.

If you said there was soap on the edge of the bath I would be looking for hand soap not shower gel. You should have specified shower gel.

Gosh what a lyrical and dramatic conversation you had

So somebody starts a thread about a mundane subject and I'm wrong for giving a mundane response?! You're on the thread too, so if I'm bored, presumably you are too.

I would be fine with using shower gel, but I wouldn't have understood that that is what you were suggesting without you saying, "use the shower gel". I'd have been looking for more hand soap.

I think you have discovered your inner weirdness OP.

I would and have used shower gel if I didn’t have soap, but I wouldn’t immediately fish around behind a shower door if you said there was soap, I’d be looking for a soap dispenser or bar not in the shower.

Some shower gels don’t contain all that much soap (which is why if you have a BO problem it’s usually recommended you use actual soap) so it’s probably not ideal for regular post loo use.

I don’t think most people are trying to upset or argue with OP, I don’t think the friend was either?

I spoke to my friend in a mocking/sarcastic tone when I was looking for soap and she was getting frustrated assuming I’d just use fairy liquid. When I finally realised what she meant I told her that no one calls washing up liquid soap in a joking condescending way, we are friends we knew it wasn’t serious and just one of those little surprises in life that some people do things differently.

Lots of people call tv remote controls different things, don’t get me started on bread buns, baps, rolls etc. There are often disagreements and discussions over these trivial matters but it’s not personal or intended to be nasty, it really isn’t that deep 😂.