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‘Adult baby’ dumping their soiled nappies at nurseries

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Peony1897 · 15/04/2025 15:17

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14609809/Adult-baby-diaper-lover-dumping-soiled-nappies-nurseries.html?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAR4isT17l9DRFfhCfuCOID-LPbqIS-vsae81UTcA9SxXomJlcyVrfS1ZVg-lVQ_aem_ijbhBrMir7K5T02tpTJNPA#

And guess what..

Is this individual safe to be in public and around children ever again? Willing to bet this comes from the same mental place as paedophilia?! Any psychologists here who can comment? It’s one of the sickest and most bizarre things I’ve ever read!

'Adult baby diaper lover' admits dumping soiled nappies at nurseries

An 'adult diaper lover' terrorised nurseries in Newcastle by dumping soiled nappies outside the gates. Abbi Taylor, 46, also known as Martin Tarling, identities as a woman and sleeps in bins for comfort.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14609809/Adult-baby-diaper-lover-dumping-soiled-nappies-nurseries.html?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAR4isT17l9DRFfhCfuCOID-LPbqIS-vsae81UTcA9SxXomJlcyVrfS1ZVg-lVQ_aem_ijbhBrMir7K5T02tpTJNPA#

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JustSawJohnny · 15/04/2025 20:49

CrazyOldMe · 15/04/2025 20:15

I cannot believe that on a parenting website, there are posters defending a MAN who smeared feces on babies’ milk bottles.

If this is you then please stay away from children. Please.

I want to know why they already had an order to stay away from nurseries - done this before? And if so, surely it's a jailable offence?

Daleksatemyshed · 15/04/2025 20:50

@TheKeatingFive yes I know if someone says they're trans that's supposed to be enough but I don't believe that. I find a useful way to tell when it's a handy excuse is to look at how much effort they put in, man with a beard and pink hair, not really trying.

TheKeatingFive · 15/04/2025 20:50

Daleksatemyshed · 15/04/2025 20:50

@TheKeatingFive yes I know if someone says they're trans that's supposed to be enough but I don't believe that. I find a useful way to tell when it's a handy excuse is to look at how much effort they put in, man with a beard and pink hair, not really trying.

So what do you think makes someone genuinely trans?

TheKeatingFive · 15/04/2025 20:52

LOGIC!! 😂 I would LOVE someone thinks FWR is just full of trans haters to explain their workings as to why biological males should be allowed to compete in women’s sports, how humans can change sex and why they should be able to be placed in women’s prisons and attend female only rape crisis groups. Logic has been presented as why they shouldn’t, I’m waiting to hear someone explain why they should. I’ve asked often enough! I’ve yet to get any intelligent response apart from ‘you’re anti-trans’.

All of this

WilfredsPies · 15/04/2025 20:59

@DaphneduMaureen

I’m not particularly well educated, I’m peri menopausal to an alarming degree and it has been a bloody long week already, so I may have misunderstood what you mean by causation. I’ve always understood it to mean cause and effect. So if you’re a life long heavy smoker, you’re at increased risk of developing lung cancer. If it’s really hot and sunny, ice cream sales will rise.

So are you asking for examples where the erosion of boundaries (using single sex spaces, to cite one of the examples that seems to annoy you that women are pissed off about) causes men to develop disgusting fetishes? Because that certainly wasn’t what the PP was suggesting and that it has occurred to you suggests either internal transphobia on your part, or an attempt to see transphobia where none exists.

Or are you asking for examples where men with disgusting fetishes go on to erode boundaries? Because if you are, I’m wondering if you’ve become confused between causation and correlation?

Yes but that is nothing to do with this man’s depraved activities. I object to the person saying “this is what happens when you let trans people exist!” because it is a completely separate issue You’ve completely missed the point. It is sailing so far above your head that you would need a telescope to see it. Absolutely nobody on this thread has suggested that trans people have disgusting fetishes. That would be transphobic and you should report it to MN immediately so they can clamp down on it. The point is that because boundaries have been eroded, this crime has likely been reported as a woman’s crime. And now, because boundaries have been eroded, his legal team are claiming that he should not be sent to prison because of his trans status, because it will make him vulnerable. And that is far from the first time that this defence has been used. And, finally, because boundaries have been eroded, there is a risk that ‘exceptional circumstances’ could see this man in a woman’s prison, or that he could get away with it completely. Because it’s not as though the previous restrictions placed upon him had any effect, is it?

THIS is what happens when you allow men’s crimes to be reported as having been committed by a woman. THIS is what happens when you place men in women’s prisons. THIS is what happens when a section of society are judged ‘too vulnerable’ to be placed in prison at all, (but not vulnerable enough to warrant being detained in a hospital) rendering them above the law and free to smear their shit over someone else’s milk bottles. That would be causation.

Poppymeldrum · 15/04/2025 20:59

JustSawJohnny · 15/04/2025 20:46

This is why I struggle to get with the 'No kink-shaming' movement.

Where do you draw the line?

Seems like a slippery slop to acceptance of things that are genuinely unacceptable.

I firmly believe that what you get up to,in your own home and as long as all parties concent,that's where the line is drawn

Not when you drag innocent people,animals and/or children into it-that line should never be crossed

But some people will always try to cross that line and should be dealt with by the law

Unfortunately,some people will stick up for this man (it's a man) and will bend into knots trying to defend him

I don't know if they do it for the cool girl points,to appear open minded or because they are downright thick

But he's undefendable-he's got a sick brain who is hiding behind claiming its a woman (how dare he lump women with his crimes?) and 'don't yuck others yum' (the phrase turns my stomach-as i say,what you do in private is your own business)

Fucking disgusting creature

Daleksatemyshed · 15/04/2025 21:04

@TheKeatingFive I think there are some people who genuinely feel they aren't the sex they were born but they're far more rare than the modern idea of transgender. Once it took real conviction to be trans, now it seems to be an epidemic of young people who aren't happy and just want to be someone else

TheIceBear · 15/04/2025 21:14

ArabellaScott · 15/04/2025 20:15

He hasn't, as far as we know, committed a violent crime against a woman.

Therefore he may be put in the women's estate if jailed.

I really hope not. You just wouldn’t know these days, it’s disturbing that there is a good chance that could happen.

BundleBoogie · 15/04/2025 21:16

cramptramp · 15/04/2025 20:49

Bloody hell, he’d better not be in a women’s prison. I’d hope that he gets a warm welcome from the inmates of a male prison when they find out what he did.

A male paedophile with a trans identity was placed in a women’s prison with a mother and baby unit so don’t be too hopeful.

At least they (reluctantly) changed the rules so that rapists should no longer be placed on a women’s prison and given full access to women - cell sharing, open showers etc.

And no, I’m not exaggerating for the deniers on this thread.

EnfysPreseli · 15/04/2025 21:20

BlossomBlanket · 15/04/2025 19:41

Only in a society as permissive as this would they get their kicks from being named. In many societies throughout the world they'd feel the cold chills of knowing they were going to get their head kicked in. I'm definitely not suggesting I agree with violence like that, I'm just wondering.

I think in the past they would at least feel shame. It seems that we're now at a point where some feel such a sense of entitlement that they think it's those who call ther behaviour out who should feel shame.

scorpiogirly · 15/04/2025 21:31

DaphneduMaureen · 15/04/2025 17:34

Can you give an example where that is true?

This is enough. The bloke should be committed.

JustSawJohnny · 15/04/2025 22:04

...'don't yuck others yum'

@Poppymeldrum Never heard that saying before and seriously hoping to never hear it again!😖

ruethewhirl · 15/04/2025 22:40

Peony1897 · 15/04/2025 15:35

Doesn’t it make you angry on behalf of the staff at the nursery?

Yes, absolutely, it's disgusting that they should have had to deal with that. My response was a quick off-the-cuff one and wasn't particularly intended to be detailed or multifaceted.

Peony1897 · 15/04/2025 22:42

ruethewhirl · 15/04/2025 22:40

Yes, absolutely, it's disgusting that they should have had to deal with that. My response was a quick off-the-cuff one and wasn't particularly intended to be detailed or multifaceted.

Just find it interesting that small children have had their nursery defaced with shit and your first thought wasn’t for them or the staff.

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Helleofabore · 15/04/2025 22:44

DaphneduMaureen · 15/04/2025 18:37

Is this at me? Please, as I previously asked, link this horrific behaviour to a real world example of “boundaries being eroded”. Please show me what you mean. Demonstrate how “this is what happens”, I’m dying to see you prove causation

Of course, there is also the obvious example that if this person uses female toilets, their presence there normalises male people, including similarly fetishistic male people, in female single sex spaces. I understand that you find such references boring and tedious.

However, this is particularly an issue for children. Because once those boundaries are lowered in children, it takes whole lot of effort to get them strong and robust

Perhaps, you do not understand how boundaries within society get eroded. Or is it that you dismiss that it is happening? I find people with lowered boundaries don’t often recognise boundaries in society being lowered or their own almost non-existent boundaries.

ruethewhirl · 15/04/2025 23:40

Peony1897 · 15/04/2025 22:42

Just find it interesting that small children have had their nursery defaced with shit and your first thought wasn’t for them or the staff.

Well, that's obviously the primary concern ffs. 🙄 Some things go without saying, unless you're one of those people who need everything spelt out to them.

I suggest you stop digging now because you won't find anything. I didn't come on to this thread to promote a pro-trans agenda, which is what you seem to be assuming, I merely made a comment in passing, so maybe find someone else's words to twist?

Poppymeldrum · 16/04/2025 06:59

JustSawJohnny · 15/04/2025 22:04

...'don't yuck others yum'

@Poppymeldrum Never heard that saying before and seriously hoping to never hear it again!😖

I read it the other week and gagged
It turned my stomach
I'm sorry if I offended you-i swear I didn't make it up!

missdeamenor · 16/04/2025 07:30

scorpiogirly · 15/04/2025 15:22

This is what happens when society becomes accepting of everything. People push and push the boundaries until nothing becomes unacceptable.

Well said. I'm sick to death of pandering to these perverts. GB is now a lawless society with no rules or discipline.

Helleofabore · 16/04/2025 08:17

ruethewhirl · 15/04/2025 23:40

Well, that's obviously the primary concern ffs. 🙄 Some things go without saying, unless you're one of those people who need everything spelt out to them.

I suggest you stop digging now because you won't find anything. I didn't come on to this thread to promote a pro-trans agenda, which is what you seem to be assuming, I merely made a comment in passing, so maybe find someone else's words to twist?

I understood your original comment. Unfortunately, the group of people who say they are transgender does include these people as well. Of course, it does seem though that with most paraphilic driven crime and sex crime, that the connecting factor is that they are male.

Sadly, for those male people who have transgender identities who want to live their life as they are while respecting female people’s needs and just getting on with life, it is people like this person, and the intimidating and violet activists or the males in female sport, that keep making headlines.

Blankscreen · 16/04/2025 08:28

Wtf. I initially thought they were his dirty nappies but I think he likes messing around with the waste nappies at the Nursery.

Not sure where 'fucking weirdo' fits into the sentencing guidelines but no doubt he'll get a slap on the wrist and will go in and do more weird stuff and someone will end up hurt.

Then there'll be case review and 'lessons learnt.'

TheKeatingFive · 16/04/2025 08:41

Blankscreen · 16/04/2025 08:28

Wtf. I initially thought they were his dirty nappies but I think he likes messing around with the waste nappies at the Nursery.

Not sure where 'fucking weirdo' fits into the sentencing guidelines but no doubt he'll get a slap on the wrist and will go in and do more weird stuff and someone will end up hurt.

Then there'll be case review and 'lessons learnt.'

This is where society used to use shame to keep individuals like this in check.

We now seem to have decided shame is an awful thing, but in situations like this one I really understand the value of it.

Helleofabore · 16/04/2025 09:12

Talking about ‘eroding boundaries’, people with paraphilias, usually male I believe, used to not be emboldened to exhibit their paraphilia outside their private spaces. As part of the campaign to drive acceptance for one paraphilia in particular by grouping it with other people who declare transgender identities, and being told not to kink shame when people dress as dogs for ‘pup play’ and walk/crawl in public in their gear, and so on, society’s boundaries in general and on an individual level has been lowered.

After all, if this person had just been walking around as an adult baby, children and adults would have just had to accept that.

ShockedandStunnedRepeatedly · 16/04/2025 09:40

It angers me that efforts to root out genuine bullying - be kind ie don’t be an outright racist/homophobe etc - have been twisted into a shield for this kind of disgusting nonsense.

DoddlesMcDoddle · 16/04/2025 09:45

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 15/04/2025 15:46

According to the Daily Mail link he also likes snuggling down in waste bins ( clinical waste) for comfort 🙄

Putting aside the paraphilia and fetish and trans thing, this man is clearly very, very deeply ill and needs serious intensive help. I do feel for him.

DoddlesMcDoddle · 16/04/2025 09:50

FeedTheRoses · 15/04/2025 15:52

This is what secure psychiatric wards were invented for .

Asylums really, really need to be brought back. Phasing them out has caused these toxic mental illnesses to be 'normalised' and snowball into social contagions. This man, putting aside all the trans stuff; shits in nappies, leaves them at nurseries, and sleeps in clinical waste bins. To say he is seriously fucked up in the head, is an understatement. He is very seriously unwell. He needs a psychiatric ward and deep, intensive therapy and medication. People like this need to be taken out of general society. For their - and our, benefit.

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