AIBU? Babysitters

[YourPinkBeaker]

I'll preface this by saying I don't think IABU.

Why do so many people trot out the 'hire a babysitter' line whenever people complain about parental burnout? Are people really doing this?

My child attends nursery and that feels difficult enough in terms of trusting strangers with my children - and that is with multiple trained professionals and widespread CCTV. Are people really finding strangers on the Internet and letting them into their homes to mind their children?!

I feel like our kids are young for such a short period of time and we can survive without an evening out together for a few years.

We have 0 childcare options outside of nursery, and until my kid is old enough to stay over with family (school aged/when they can consent and ask for sleepovers) my thinking is that we just don't get to go out and socialise together at night. That's the compromise I feel like we have to make. I just can't imagine farming my kid out to someone from a bloody website and given the judgemental takes on this site from people about daycare, I can't believe others are too. The only exception I couldnimagine is if your childminder offered babysitting services - outside of that rare option, are people really doing this?

Absolutely! And from reading her original post and subsequent responses on here, I suspect that obnoxious is the OP’s only setting.

Pull yourself together for heavens sake. It was hardly an attack. It was a perception, a very likely accurate one, despite their proclamation that I was way off. They are entitled and rude and disrespectful and everything that is wrong with western society.

You are unlikely to be able to have some self awareness so there’s nothing more to say. I have to laugh at MN. People post questions and ask for responses. The vast majority of the time they are entrenched in their view about how they are spot on and everyone else is wrong. They then receive comments in response (to the questions they themselves posed) and will then defend themselves to the hilt. Why bother posting? Why bother asking others their views? Surely it’s helpful in life to get an outsider’s opinion and then ACTUALLY consider it. You can tell the coachable people on here and you can very much tell the ones who will coast through life under the assumption that they are correct and everyone else is wrong. 20 years from now your child will be posting on some agony aunt page about how their mother is a nightmare because she can never see anyone else’s viewpoints and they’re ending the relationship with her. You’ll be cut out of the relationship with your grandchild that you find out you have because (to quote the other poster that I apparently attacked) you offer nothing positive in your child’s life and you’re not entitled to have a relationship with them simply because they’re family. But it will be your child’s fault for sure. Yep, definitely 👌

But you’re a new parent though, right? (I’m guessing by your commentary). So you don’t have much in the way of experience as a parent, right? So, by association, so don’t have much experience of people using babysitters, right? Very common, I can assure you.

Thats such a weird leap to make that the poster has no friends

Obviously not in ops small bubble