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Photo on sideboard

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Darknessorlighy · 14/04/2025 20:57

Have three photos on my daughter graduation on sideboard , tonight my partner said ‘ he puts up with those photos ‘ I said I am really hurt by that and he said it was a throw away comment . Aibu to think he was so rude ?

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Darknessorlighy · 14/04/2025 20:57

Daughters graduation , three different degrees .

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Moveoverdarlin · 14/04/2025 20:59

I assume she’s not his daughter? I assume it’s not his house? I assume he’s an utter cock?

Seachanger · 14/04/2025 22:10

It sounds as though he is jealous of your daughter- the photos must be reminding him she is cleverer than him!
It was a really unpleasant remark OP.

AnotherHappyCamper · 14/04/2025 22:11

That is a horrible thing to say.

Zippidydoodah · 14/04/2025 22:11

Moveoverdarlin · 14/04/2025 20:59

I assume she’s not his daughter? I assume it’s not his house? I assume he’s an utter cock?

👏

AnotherHappyCamper · 14/04/2025 22:11

He ought to have been sent packing tonight.

Ofcoursehesthefkingfarmer · 14/04/2025 22:12

Moveoverdarlin · 14/04/2025 20:59

I assume she’s not his daughter? I assume it’s not his house? I assume he’s an utter cock?

+1. You need to ditch him OP, he will try to come between you and your daughter.

GettingMySpringOn · 14/04/2025 22:14

Well he's a catch isn't he ? If someone said that to me I'd be inclined to add more . !

TennesseeStella · 14/04/2025 22:15

To be fair to him, three different graduation photos is excessive. If she'd had three wedding ceremonies I doubt you would have photos from each of them up in the house!

KatyaKat · 14/04/2025 22:17

TennesseeStella · 14/04/2025 22:15

To be fair to him, three different graduation photos is excessive. If she'd had three wedding ceremonies I doubt you would have photos from each of them up in the house!

Excessive? To be proud of your child's achievements? What a bizarre attitude

MaggieBsBoat · 14/04/2025 22:17

TennesseeStella · 14/04/2025 22:15

To be fair to him, three different graduation photos is excessive. If she'd had three wedding ceremonies I doubt you would have photos from each of them up in the house!

Three graduations is an amazing achievement. Three weddings is two mistakes followed by a triumph of hope over experience. They are not at all the same!

lovemycbf · 14/04/2025 22:17

Yeah that wouldn’t sit right me either!
sounds like he’s jealous which isn’t a great trait in a supposedly grown man.

ExitPursuedByABare · 14/04/2025 22:18

MaggieBsBoat · 14/04/2025 22:17

Three graduations is an amazing achievement. Three weddings is two mistakes followed by a triumph of hope over experience. They are not at all the same!

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Exactly.

spicemaiden · 14/04/2025 22:19

No. It’s not a throw away comment.

it was meant to undermine.

Does he do this a lot?

MasterBeth · 14/04/2025 22:19

How does he think he is "putting up" with them? How are they affecting his life?

WearyAuldWumman · 14/04/2025 22:20

AnotherHappyCamper · 14/04/2025 22:11

That is a horrible thing to say.

Agree.

My late husband and I lived in my house. I still have photographs up of both his mothers (birth and adoptive), his kids and his grandchild.

I will now be sending the photographs of the kids and the grandchild to them, since they're no longer in touch - but there's no way that I'd have removed them while DH was alive. I'll be replacing them with photographs of DH. The photographs of my mothers-in-law are staying.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 14/04/2025 22:21

What on earth prompted the comment? It sounds like an odd thing to say totally out of nowhere.

And you should be proud of her 3 degrees is amazing

SheridansPortSalut · 14/04/2025 22:21

Are there other children who have no displayed photos? Did you comment on photos or other display/decor items he wanted? How did the conversation come about?

Context is everything.

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 14/04/2025 22:21

TennesseeStella · 14/04/2025 22:15

To be fair to him, three different graduation photos is excessive. If she'd had three wedding ceremonies I doubt you would have photos from each of them up in the house!

What??

Petitchat · 14/04/2025 22:22

TennesseeStella · 14/04/2025 22:15

To be fair to him, three different graduation photos is excessive. If she'd had three wedding ceremonies I doubt you would have photos from each of them up in the house!

How in earth can you compare three weddings to graduation achievements?

Keep an eye on this guy OP. His attitude is weird.
Is he the dad or stepdad?

HeddaGarbled · 14/04/2025 22:32

The three different graduations will be Bachelors, Masters and PhD, so 3 escalating achievements, not like 3 weddings at all (unless it’s Trevor, Harry, Barack).

LivingwithHopenowandforever · 14/04/2025 22:37

Does he have children that haven’t achieved a lot hence the comment??

I would add more photos and then wait to see if he had more to say…….then I would ensure I gave him a good kicking out of my life and my house!!

Never poke Mama Bear about her children

MrsTigerface · 14/04/2025 22:45

How long have you been with this man? Assuming he lives with you?

OneFineDay13 · 14/04/2025 22:48

Moveoverdarlin · 14/04/2025 20:59

I assume she’s not his daughter? I assume it’s not his house? I assume he’s an utter cock?

😂🤣 you are spot on

outerspacepotato · 14/04/2025 22:53

He "puts up" with you having photos of your daughter's graduations being displayed?

That implies he finds you displaying photos of your daughter unpleasant and would remove them if he had his way.

Is this your home? Put him out with the trash. He resents your daughter.

Shared home? I would split, I wouldn't tolerate a man who disliked my child. He's an asshole.