Photo on sideboard

[Darknessorlighy]

Have three photos on my daughter graduation on sideboard , tonight my partner said ‘ he puts up with those photos ‘ I said I am really hurt by that and he said it was a throw away comment . Aibu to think he was so rude ?

You may also display photos in a house that is jointly owned or rented.

I've actually forgotten what point I was trying to make 🤣, but if I remember I'll come back to it!

Or two tragically early deaths and one mistake you don’t know how to escape…

He sounds jealous of her achievements

Ok…

Is he abusive? Does he work and contribute fairly to the house? Do you feel you walk on eggshells around him? How is he with your daughters?

How long have you been together? Who owns the home; you, him or joint..?

I can relate
I put up with pictures my wife puts up not because it’s her family I don’t like pictures I don’t have any of my own family up
so the term put up with is I know it’s not all about my preferences if it was my choice (which it isn’t) I’d sooner not have them so I put up with them

It's time to live your life without him.

I wouldn’t need 3 different graduation photos of any one adult child on display 🤷🏽‍♀️

It's two for one child (who did 2 degrees so 2 graduation ceremonies) and one for her other child.

3 different graduations 3 different photos, there's nothing wrong with that even if they were all for the same child, which these weren't.

This is the sign the universe is sending you to RUN! (Metaphorically speaking if it’s your house, of course. In which case kick him out). If your daughter was a young child and he had that attitude towards her, would you stay with him?

@Riverswims I wouldn’t need 3 different graduation photos of any one adult child on display

Well, nobody NEEDS any photos on display, graduation or otherwise. However, the OP, and many other people, may WANT such photos on display. I think we are all struggling to see how that is deemed inappropriate?

It seems there is photo of child A graduating from their degree 1; a photo of child A graduating from their degree 2; a photo of child B graduating from their degree 1.

There are not 10 odd photos of one child graduating from the same degree, which may seem a bit over the top if sharing a house.

I’d take this as a red flag personally, and invite the other person to also put up photos of themselves/their children accomplishing significant milestones, or to shut up. Or, preferably just leave as something doesn’t seem right.

This one million per cent, I put up with a lot, why do you do that? Is him not saying nasty things your reward for putting up with a lot? You can have a life where a partner does not say nasty things and you don't have to put up with anything. But did he say this absolutely apropos of nothing?

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Coming from someone whose mother would happily display photos of everyone else except her daughter, I would ignore him. If he makes an issue, I would be having serious concerns as this is not right. The pictures are of your daughters at a very special time. You shouldn’t have to explain why you have them on display to anyone. X

He sounds really stupid and unhinged... not a great combo.

He sounds like an utter twatwaffle.

Three degrees is an achievement, three weddings less so.

I only have one graduation pic in a double frame with one of my husband's.

I'd be saying that you'll put his there when he gets his degree (or Masters or PhD...)

Such an unnecessary and unpleasant thing to say!! I hope this is out of character and he realises he's been totally out of order and sincerely apologises.

He sounds like a jealous man-child.. does he have children if his own that he feels he didn't do well enough by.. I wouldn't put up with that it's not a comment you come out with .. I'd be fuming.

I've just read your replies after posting a minute ago.. yes this screams of his issues with his own family .
I knew someone like this get rid of him and find someone with respect for you and your daughters.
Leave him to his dramas it won't change x

I wasn’t going to say it. Really wasn’t.

BUT….. LTFB!!!!

He sounds awful OP, you deserve better 💐 (and your daughters achievements praised)

Jealously is not a nice colour to wear. Try a different one

Tell him he’s only jealous because he’s thick…
I assume he has no children and has zero understanding of parent/child relationships. He’s crass, rude and childish.