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Photo on sideboard

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Darknessorlighy · 14/04/2025 20:57

Have three photos on my daughter graduation on sideboard , tonight my partner said ‘ he puts up with those photos ‘ I said I am really hurt by that and he said it was a throw away comment . Aibu to think he was so rude ?

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FitAt50 · 16/04/2025 21:56

Moveoverdarlin · 14/04/2025 20:59

I assume she’s not his daughter? I assume it’s not his house? I assume he’s an utter cock?

I assume you smell of Bisto? I assume you look like a tortoise ? I assume you are a cat worrier?

Wtafdidido · 16/04/2025 22:10

They remind him of what a total and utterly shite parent and shite relationship he has with his own kids and the fact that your have turned out happy and successful and. In a good relationship with you makes him cross because he has failed his kids! Put up a few more !

EdgyGreyUser · 16/04/2025 22:50

GettingMySpringOn · 14/04/2025 22:14

Well he's a catch isn't he ? If someone said that to me I'd be inclined to add more . !

Lol.

DeedsNotDiddums · 16/04/2025 23:20

Unless these are "nursery graduation" and "primary school graduation" type photos, YANBU and he's being a prat! Or is he obsessed with interior decor (eg do the colours clash with the room).

EdgyGreyUser · 17/04/2025 06:38

DeedsNotDiddums · 16/04/2025 23:20

Unless these are "nursery graduation" and "primary school graduation" type photos, YANBU and he's being a prat! Or is he obsessed with interior decor (eg do the colours clash with the room).

The OP had said that her daughter has three degrees.

Bernadinetta · 17/04/2025 07:09

DeedsNotDiddums · 16/04/2025 23:20

Unless these are "nursery graduation" and "primary school graduation" type photos, YANBU and he's being a prat! Or is he obsessed with interior decor (eg do the colours clash with the room).

Even if they were nursery or primary school graduation photos, so what? Why would that make it a problem? If they’re nice photos of the OP’s DC that bring back a happy memory then why is there some sort of rule as to whether an occasion is deemed appropriate to display a photo? And if it was a nursery graduation photo, in what way does the OP’s parter need to “put up” with the photos being displayed?

FeetLikeFlippers · 17/04/2025 14:13

Moveoverdarlin · 14/04/2025 20:59

I assume she’s not his daughter? I assume it’s not his house? I assume he’s an utter cock?

You just made me spit my coffee out in public!

FeetLikeFlippers · 17/04/2025 14:16

Darknessorlighy · 15/04/2025 05:51

It is 3 photos of two daughters and one has two degrees . He has a strained relationship with his children one doesn’t speak to him for months at a time and there is always drama . Never drama with mine and I think I put up with all these dramas and he has to put up with some photos which I am so proud of .

It sounds like he is jealous of your relationship with your daughters which is a bit of a red flag. If somebody can’t be happy for other people’s success or happiness in life and instead gets eaten up by jealousy, they are generally not a nice person to be around.

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 17/04/2025 16:40

TennesseeStella · 14/04/2025 22:15

To be fair to him, three different graduation photos is excessive. If she'd had three wedding ceremonies I doubt you would have photos from each of them up in the house!

Probably would!

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 17/04/2025 16:42

Ruse and uncalled for and unless he was 'joking!'*, I'd be dumping his arse.
He's jealous.

*Clearly a shit joke

Lavender14 · 17/04/2025 16:42

Is your ex partner in the pictures or are they just of your dds? If your ex is in the pictures I can kind of see his point even if it's childish but if it's just of your DDs then tbh I think I'd struggle to stay with a man who has an issue with seeing my children's faces.

CommonAsMucklowe · 18/04/2025 10:17

My mother's now deceased partner (👏🏻) didn't allow any photos of me either.
He was an absolute c**t. Get shot now!
Ps: How does anyone afford to do three degrees if only the first is funded? Genuine question.

thepariscrimefiles · 18/04/2025 10:30

CommonAsMucklowe · 18/04/2025 10:17

One daughter has two degrees and the other daughter has one.

There is SLC funding for Postgraduate Taught degrees. PhD studies are often funded by Research Councils for Home students.

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