Engagement ring

[mulberrybeige]

I got engaged to an man 18 months ago and was lucky enough to be in reciept of a nice engagement ring. Since then I have had a several friends make continual comments about the size of the ring.

My own mother could not believe someone would consider buying it for me, ‘it must be a family ring’. She said she felt her own engagement ring was spectacular but felt deflated upon seeing mines. Another friend just bursts out laughing every time she sees it. I had another one tell me it makes me look like a drag queen. One suggested I did not wear it to work - as it could make people uncomfortable (I ran this one past a couple of friends who said my ring was no more blingy than theirs and thought it was ridiculous).

These comments are from the same people who mocked me in various ways as a thirties single cat lady career woman. I swear they all thought I was ‘on the shelf’ and my only chance for success in romance would be to panic and marry the first man who asked me. In the end I did not panic at all and eventually met a lovely, man who matches me career wise, finacially and ambition wise. I met him through friends and it was all very natural.

The ring matches what we both could easily afford and is in no way ostentacious. I am honestly starting to think their reaction is more to do with the fact I got engaged at all, rather than the ring itself. Its fucking disappointing really that I feel people cannot be happy for me. I just feel instinctively people are trying to ‘burst my bubble’.

YANBU - These people are just jealous / have their own issues
YABU - You should not wear the engagement ring in public just the plain wedding band

Exactly and a lot of people have pointed out that a 5c diamond would not be in a 4 claw setting

Ahem. I have a 10ct radiant cut with a 4 prong setting

Why is it always 'envy' or jealousy? That's pathetic to think that some people cannot like different things, and dislike things without being jealous

Can we see.

Exactly!

Thank goodness !
How boring life would be

Yes, but if it's a radiant, they're likely at the corners, which is much more secure. I'm also betting they're pointier or more clawed than the stubby ones on the OP's?

Thank you I thought I was seeing things I wonder if she went to the website and grabbed the first photo she saw that matched her ring without noticing the different number of claws I own a lot of rings and I have yet to find one that can make claws disappear.

This sounds like my mum, she begrudged people nice things (mostly because my dad wasn’t a generous man).

I chose my engagement ring because I liked it; when I told people it was cubic zirconias around a semi-precious stone, they were often rude simply because it wasn’t expensive. I say wear your marvellous ring, flaunt it, enjoy it, and stuff the negative Nellie’s. If you love it, that is all that matters.

That's gorgeous! What a lucky woman you are to get to wear it!
Hugest congratulations to you and your partner, wishing you a happy life filled with love and lovely friends, who you may well not have met yet!

Guarantee you they are jealous. That behaviour screams it.

It’s stunning! I would be super happy with that. Mine is similar but just has a few stones around the outside so it kinda looks like a flower. I think they’re diamonds but something like 0.1carat. I wouldn’t change mine for the world!

Don't let their snobbish, materialistic comment s get in the way of you loving your engagement ring. The sentiment it has will always out way any materialistic value anyways!

I would be tempted to go LC with these people as they’re clearly not friends. And as for your Mum, don’t be afraid to tell her that you will not condone any trash talk about something that means a lot to you, and to the man you love!!

Congratulations BTW!!

your ring is really pretty i think people are probably just jealous of you generally <3 congrats on your engagement!!

Er the point of my post was that it IS an individual thing. POW is obviously happy with her engagement ring, personally I wouldn't want that.

And that is the position the OP is in, as long as she is happy it isn't anyone else's business.

This one has 4 prongs and is 5ct

www.pragnell.co.uk/regency-508ct-brilliant-cut-diamond-ring_0111509-p

Though they are ‘clawier’ than the ones on the 1.7ct.

I’m guessing it’s a lab diamond? Lots of people are getting them now as they are cheaper than mined diamonds so people can afford bigger.

It is vey bling, and not to my personal taste. I would never look at someone with that ring and comment negatively though.

what matters is do you like it? That’s all that counts.

Yes, that was part of my point. Their 5 carat rings with 4 prongs have claw prongs. It would just be very unusual to set a diamond of that value with only 4 blunt prongs as they're much less secure. I'm not saying it can't happen, I am saying the odds of Pragnell having done that are infinitesimal.

OP could have said her original posting was of an inspiration ring or similar, but she didn't. That, along with over-egging it with the friend who 'bursts out laughing every time she sees it' and the term 'on the shelf' which I haven't heard anyone use about someone in their 30s outside of fiction, makes me dubious on this one.

@user109876543

It was the part
' and was lucky enough to be in reciept of a nice engagement ring. '
that made me wonder as it's not the usual way for someone to describe being given / gifted / presented with / chosen their engagement ring

( and one would hope that someone in receipt of such a valuable ring could actually spell receipt or had a device with spell check on it...)

Hi
First of all, congratulations to you on your engagement and aren't you lucky to have such a beautiful piece of jewellery?
I don't know why you consider some of these people to be friends.
Get rid of all the negative ones. You don't need them or their opinions in your life.
The only thing I can say about the ring is, 'Make sure it's insured.'
Enjoy your life with your partner. You don't need comments from others.
Good luck!
😊

OP this makes me so sad, please please please wear that ring with the absolute pride and happiness you deserve.

You owe it to NOONE to explain the value of the ring in money terms and how he/you/both of you afforded it.

I ave nothing but utter disgust for the people in your life that have been rude to you.

What a peculiar petty and pedantic little post this is

Yes on the corners

not overly pointy. Not sure what more clawed means but they are double pronged. So I guess almost 8 but each is one prong sort of split into two at the tip. If it were to fail the whole thing would fail. Not one part of it so that’s why I see it as 4 not 8

It’s very outing
10ct vivid yellow radiant with half moon white diamonds on sides.

OP your ring is stunning.
Mine was very similar but was a synthetic diamond so much cheaper 😂 that’s what I wanted though, and wouldn’t begrudge anyone else for having what they wanted!
Congratulations to you and ignore all the jealousy

Yes, that's a typical way to set radiants. The split protects the diamond at the corners, and helps distribute the load in the setting, basically. Additionally, if you have half moons on the side, they provide some protection for the radiant. It's not a typical way to set large round diamond.

Anyway, @mulberrybeige. Wishing you the best. I hope you got whatever it is you wanted from this thread.

🙂