Engagement ring

[mulberrybeige]

I got engaged to an man 18 months ago and was lucky enough to be in reciept of a nice engagement ring. Since then I have had a several friends make continual comments about the size of the ring.

My own mother could not believe someone would consider buying it for me, ‘it must be a family ring’. She said she felt her own engagement ring was spectacular but felt deflated upon seeing mines. Another friend just bursts out laughing every time she sees it. I had another one tell me it makes me look like a drag queen. One suggested I did not wear it to work - as it could make people uncomfortable (I ran this one past a couple of friends who said my ring was no more blingy than theirs and thought it was ridiculous).

These comments are from the same people who mocked me in various ways as a thirties single cat lady career woman. I swear they all thought I was ‘on the shelf’ and my only chance for success in romance would be to panic and marry the first man who asked me. In the end I did not panic at all and eventually met a lovely, man who matches me career wise, finacially and ambition wise. I met him through friends and it was all very natural.

The ring matches what we both could easily afford and is in no way ostentacious. I am honestly starting to think their reaction is more to do with the fact I got engaged at all, rather than the ring itself. Its fucking disappointing really that I feel people cannot be happy for me. I just feel instinctively people are trying to ‘burst my bubble’.

YANBU - These people are just jealous / have their own issues
YABU - You should not wear the engagement ring in public just the plain wedding band

I have nothing to add other than I am delighted for you. The cream always rises to the top, congratulations @mulberrybeige - I wish you a long life of health, wealth and happiness!

I have a beautiful art deco ring which attracts lots of comments but all positive, "I love your ring", " that's beauiful"" I can't stop looking at it", that kind of thing. I'm sure it's not to everyone's taste but then the people I know wouldn't pass comment if that was the case.

These people, including your mum, sound pretty nasty. Just ignore these jealous vipers.
Enjoy your ring and your relationship.
As my dad always used to say "I wish you well to wear it".

I think it is beautiful. My only comment if someone showed me that would be exactly that and to remind them to get it insured and to take photos of it for the insurance (showing it on your hand not just in a box) as I lost my engagement ring. I was devastated and because engagement photos etc weren’t really a thing back then I had very few clear photos of it on my hand for insurance purposes. I was dragging out photos of me holding my baby and saying “you can kind of see it in that one!” 🤦‍♀️😂

Congratulations on your engagement and your beautiful ring! I’m sorry people around you aren’t supportive.

What a lovely elegant ring OP, and congratulations.
when I got engaged long ago, I had a small diamond solitaire. I’ve got really small hands, so anything large looks ridiculous on me. A woman at work, with hands the size of steaks and who wore massive knuckledusters said disaparagingly 'what a TINY diamond'. I was quite hurt.
Enjoy your gorgeous ring and ignore the snarkies.

To get insurance on a diamond even close to that size you need to have a professional valuation complete with photos and certification that has mapped any identifiable characteristics (a flawless 5 carat mined diamond would be beyond stratospheric in price) and, generally, a specified safe in your house.

But I'm sure the OP has taken care of that. Particularly important with those insufficient prongs!

What a stunning ring OP - and you have beautiful hands! Wishing you and your DH a lifetime of happiness 💖

What a beautiful classy ring.You have nice hands too so makes it look even better.
I think you need better friends, jealous sods !!
Enjoy it and wear it with pride 💐🥰

I haven’t read all the posts only the OPs but you hear of this a lot in the weight loss community - stretching back way further than weight loss jabs. Once someone’s successfully lost a lot of weight and is no longer the ‘fat friend’ it upsets the balance and people can be foul

Enjoy your ring. I’m more envious of your hands! Mine are like truckers hands

Your ring is beautiful on you; wear it with pride.
And congratulations btw.

I'm also disappointed it wasn't some ugly gawdy katie price type ring. Nothing wrong with your ring at all. The only thing wrong is that you're friends with jealous bitches.

She’s posted two pictures of clearly different rings

I think it’s too easy to say “oh they’re jealous”.

But you are definitely surrounded by unsupportive people.

If you were my friend, I’d be appalled that someone would spend £150k on a piece of jewellery. I’d think it looked vulgar and impractical.

But I definitely wouldn’t say anything other than congratulations (and then probably wonder whether we don’t have fundamentals in common, and start reassessing whether we had enough in common to be friends, or if your fiancé was just a flash poser etc)

Wowww! 😍 absolutely stunning! Congratulations! I hope you both have a long & happy marriage 🫶🏼

It’s beautiful OP. Ignore the bastards.

Id also think carefully about getting rid of some of these so called friends.

Trickier with your mum but I’d tell her plainly that she’s being extremely hurtful and not to mention it again.

My colleague has one like this. She doesn't wear it often because it's big and she doesn't always feel comfortable wearing it, depending on where she's going, but when she does wear it, I'm very envious - it's stunning!

I commented on it the first time I noticed it, just to admire it.

Anyone commenting something negative is just projecting their own insecurities or feelings on it. What really matters is if you love it, which you obviously do, so carry on wearing it and fuck 'em!

Perhaps have some comebacks

"It's like something a drag queen would wear" - nice response "well, I'd take that as a massive complement - have you seen how stunning they are?" - bitchy response "what, like your hair/make up/shoes?"

As for your mum - "Well, perhaps he just loves me more than you" would probably do the trick!

Love it x

That ring is bloody gorgeous. It's a beautiful solitaire with a gorgeous cut.
Do not stop wearing it but do make sure it is insured.

Your ring is lovely and i am jealous. I could never wear a ring that big as - and as my DP likes to take the piss - i have small hands, almost child size and a ring that size would be facking mahoosive on me 😂

My god, some mothers are absolute bitches and they get worse with age

They're all bloody rude!

If you love it, wear it with pride!

Congrats OP. Wear that ring with pride and panache. How lovely that you have such a lovely DP. Now time for new friends and a word with your mum . Unbelievable how rude and snidey they are.

I think your ring is very beautiful and so classic! Think your friends and family are just green with jealousy! I would love a ring like that! Just enjoy your ring and sod everyone else!

This is a gorgeous ring. They are jealous of you - including your mom - and they are sad sad people.

Ignore them. Enjoy this new chapter of your life ♥️

Omg. Just seen price. Your ring is worth more than my house!

I'm jealous! Lol

It's a stunner - they are jealous - wear with pride - congratulations