People that shout "THANK YOU!" to those that don't say it

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Why do you do so?
Personally, if I hold a door or let someone through and they don't acknowledge and thank me, I don't let it bother me and simply get on with my day. The reason for this is I quite honestly couldn't care less how a total stranger behaves towards me, within reason of course, because they are exactly that. A stranger that means nothing to me.
Therefore, if they don't say thank you, it doesn't matter enough for me to need to react to it, but for many others, they have a different mindset. Help me understand! Why is this?
Surely someone would need to be important to you for their behaviour to affect you enough to react to it?

I genuinely can’t remember if anyone’s aimed a “you’re welcome” at me. I do know I endeavour, not always successfully, to be polite to others. I also know I judge those who correct strangers as rude. Not sure why you think the 20% are ruder than the 80%.

I think some posters got confused and thought the people who don’t admonish others for not saying thank you were saying it is quite acceptable not to say it. Which of course we weren’t saying. We were just saying it’s also rude to pull them up on it.

Wow, what a thoroughly nasty, petty, mean-spirited thing to do. How utterly pathetic. 🙄And again, the absolute irony of people saying those who don't THANK you for opening a door are the nasty ones. LMFAO! You couldn't make it up!

WTAF? 😂

Me too. I was told just say thanks at the end.

How was one person hogging 2/3 of the pavement?

Okay I get you don’t like it but note sure it’s necessary to berate me personally.

What a shiity response.

As I twice mentioned, the group were walking three abreast. One drops back = two people. 2 out of 3 = 2/3.

the point about thanking someone for doing something you didn’t actually ask them to do, is interesting.

I absolutely hate it when I’m trying to cross a quiet road and a car, with nothing behind it, slows down and waves me across. Or lets me out at a quiet junction. I don’t really know why it annoys me so much, it just does. It’s maybe the pointless do-goodery faff of it.

I still say thank you because it is engrained within my very soul to do so, but sometimes I feel a bit…reluctant?

People have many reasons other than ignorance for not saying thank you - distracted, stressed, sad, shy, social issue a. I wouldn’t automatically assume ignorance. I judge the people who feel the need to make an example of other more.

I just laughed my socks off.

Given that due to nerve damage I have no feeling in my feet, I wasn't sure, so I doubly checked.

Turns out that I didn't laugh and I wasn't wearing socks.

Still 0 out of 2 ain't bad.

I had this happen to me the other day. A row of cars sat behind a parked car waiting for me and the cars in front to drive past before they could go. I put my hand up to say thanks to the first and second car who waited, but there were about 10 cars so I didn't keep my hand up for all the drivers. About 4 cars down a man shouted 'how about thank you you silly bitch' out the window (both our windows were rolled down). I would love to know if it's normal etiquette to say thanks to everyone down the line! I wanted to turn around and give him a mouthful but of course did not!

For me it’s when someone stops on the pavement from the opposite direction of me and I am unaware that they are doing so because I have plenty of room to walk past them (can stick my arm straight out and can’t touch them with my finger tips or a person can walk between us without touching) and they say something to me about thanking them I think they’re rude.

No, because you can't measure 'German good manners' by your British standards. Most Germans would find these constant 'please's', 'thank you's' and 'sorry's' completely over the top and a waste of time.

This. Entitled people are a huge problem in society.

Ì couldn't care less if people thank me or not fir holding a door open.

Someone did this to me. I was walking down a quiet fairly narrow pavement with my buggy and a lady with another buggy was quite far ahead in a side street. It looked like she was slowly walking up and down or rocking her baby to sleep. As I crossed the road just before where she was she shouted 'you're welcome' in a really annoyed tone. I realised she must have been waiting for me, it never occurred to me due to how quiet the road was of traffic and how far away I was. Had I known I would have walked faster and said thank you.

Maybe they are not entitled, maybe they have social anxiety and cannot physically speak in certain situations.

The problem is, people assuming others are entitled when they clearly do not have the full picture. I am not saying this is the case in every scenario but some people are presumptuous and it can cause a lot of setbacks for some people.

Precisely! That is what my German relatives keep telling me!

Oh yes sorry/ I see what you mean. I was just reading through a number of posts advocating pulling people up on their manners and hit “quote “ when I got to your yours a bit unthinkingly as I was ready to reply, rather than meaning to single you out from the pack. I can see that would have felt personal . I’ve been lying down with back pain which means I hold my phone at a funny angle so sometimes am a bit hit and miss when it gets to typing. I shouldn’t really have appended your post as a quote.

Yes, it goes both ways when resorting to shouting at people who are very likely not going out of their way to be rude. There are some people that do but most are not.

It could be easily said that expecting a verbal thank you every time you choose to do something that you perceive is helpful to someone else is entitled.

I agree. Model manners but not everyone will respond in kind. Sometimes you might not have heard them or noticed a gesture of thanks, sometimes they might have social or cognitive issues and sometimes they are just too rude to bother thanking you, You’ll never really know, but it doesn’t really require more than an internal eye roll and crossing your fingers your never meet them again - which in most of these examples is probably the case.

It's basic good manners. Unless you are dagged up they should be automatic.

This last paragraph is well put.

Oh I've had this a few times too. I have a pretty quiet voice and some social anxiety, I unintentionally say thank you quietly sometimes but I absolutely always say it. Someone making a big deal of not having heard the thank you makes me regret leaving the house.