Was my new boyfriend disrespectful or misplaced humour - incident during sex

[Amz98]

A bit grossed out by something my BF of about 4 months did last night. We have a really jokey relationship but I think he crossed the line.

We were being intimate and he let out a really exaggerated fart then burst out laughing. He obviously meant to do it and thought I’d find it funny. I stopped what we were doing as the mood was gone and it stunk. He said sorry after but I feel like even with a jokey relationship, that’s going too far?

His fetish is farting in your face and he couldn't be bothered to ask you if you were ok with it beforehand? And now he's blaming it on he used to do it with an ex who found it funny. Then he drinks and again is "inappropriate".

Kinks, like any other sex act, need consent. This guy is in his 30s? What a disrespectful jackass.

Dump. This is not going to get better. Look at how he's behaving now that he feels a bit comfortable🤮

Even if you had a fart fetish like he clearly does you don’t just impose your fetish on someone else without a talk first.

Id of likely puked if dh farted in my face.

And is a fart fetish not a real sign that he is turned on by disrespecting and degrading women? How could you be turned on by farting in someone’s face? And I’m so far from being a prude, I understand and have indulged in an awful lot of what some might call risqué sexual behaviour and fetishes… but farting in your face? Really? 🤮

having made it clear it’s not acceptable, however funny his ex found it, I’d give him one last chance if he’s otherwise great.
Then it’s up to him!

Seems a shame to give up a good relationship for something so silly.

I think it's more like a gateway kink... You can guarantee he's seeing if you're okay with it... And then suggesting something worse bodily fluids wise.

You really need to read the full thread… she needs to dump this sick loser

Read the updates. It's his FETISH. One that he inflicted on her without any discussion or consent. It's not something silly, it's something that degrades and disrespects the OP and she's rightfully not ok with that.

I find farts funny. But for me... in that position with a forced fart.... he'd be dumped.

Are kinks supposed to make you crack up laughing though? 🤔

Either way, there’s no going back is there, what a rotten lad.

It was disrespectful and would be over for me.

It's all in the delivery and how they act. I had a vaguely related experience but he handled it perfectly. No embarrassment on either side. No issue at all. But then we've known each other forever and we love each other.

Yours? Rubbish.

I’ve told him over the phone that we’re done, he didn’t take it very well, said I’m ‘fridgid’ and need to be more adventurous if I want to keep a man 😂

Annoying it’s not worked out but at least it’s still relatively early and plenty more fish in the sea!

Even worse that he's bringing his ex into it and treating women as if we are all the same.

Fridgid because you don’t want someone farting in your face 🤣🤣

I’m sure there are many more men who don’t want face farting either way than there are who do.

what a looser. Him not you.

OMG, you dodged a bullet, he showed his true colours in that comment he made!

Be glad you didn’t get in any deeper into that relationship

Jesus.where di you start with that. Firstly, I couldn't deal with that fetish. But most importantly, fetishistic things are not to be just included in sexual situations without the agreement of both parties. There should be discussion. I like me kink, but consent is incredibly important. I would feel violated by that tbh.

I did wonder if it was a fetish thing when you first posted, but then thought ‘Nah, if it was a fetish thing he wouldn’t have laughed’. It’s also quite unusual for that fetish to be for the man to be the one who does the farting.

What an utter pillock he must be to assume that this was something you can just casually introduce without a conversation first. I mean, any fetish/kink isn’t something you should just launch into, but particularly THAT one ffs. Surely he must know that 99.9% of the population are very much NOT aroused by flatulence?!

You’ve definitely dodged a bullet and I suspect he will end up being single for a very long time if he just randomly trumps in women’s faces and expects them to enjoy it!

Wow! You’ve dodged a bullet there! What a relief you found out sooner rather than later.

My friend pointed out (and I think I read someone else say it on here) that sort of thing probably leads to a more ‘extreme’ form over time 😷

No, no, no! I wish there was a way you could add a warning to ex’s dating profiles!

I mean, I am relatively ‘adventurous’ but being farted on is not my idea of a good time.

How did you not point out that you could have kept him if you’d wanted, and that it was you who was dumping him because he’s fucking weird, not the other way around.

I’ve not conducted a straw poll or anything, but I’m pretty sure that your average man wouldn’t take too kindly to you farting in his face and would be quite happy not to fart in yours. I think you’ll be ok.

What a disgusting creep.

With his sex technique, he'll have all the women running.

Away.

That puts a whole different context on it. so not funny in that situation,😮

I once knew a couple that were into this sort of stuff..

They played a game that they called "Dutch Ovens" which involved them taking it in turns to fart in bed. Then the other one would go under the covers and see how long they could stay there.....

I have no idea how they could each produce farts to order....🤔

Whatever floats your boat, I suppose.....