Was my new boyfriend disrespectful or misplaced humour - incident during sex

[Amz98]

A bit grossed out by something my BF of about 4 months did last night. We have a really jokey relationship but I think he crossed the line.

We were being intimate and he let out a really exaggerated fart then burst out laughing. He obviously meant to do it and thought I’d find it funny. I stopped what we were doing as the mood was gone and it stunk. He said sorry after but I feel like even with a jokey relationship, that’s going too far?

Revolting.

It would be game over for me. Absolutely no way to come back from that. I would never want to have sex with him again.

He did that on purpose while you were going down on him?

I don’t think I’d ever find him attractive again.

Sure it didn't happen by accident, was embarrassed due to situation and the laugh was a cover up? Accidentally, I wouldn't mind, it can happen, but farting on purpose would get extremely short shrift.

There’s a time and a place if you think farts are funny. That wasn’t the time or the place. Really bloody disrespectful. Not least because you’re doing something incredibly intimate and instead of thinking about that, he’s thinking about his bowels and how funny it will be to make you feel sick. Not exactly ideal.

I’m pretty sure that there’d be no coming back from that for me and I’m quite relaxed about accidental bodily functions. He’d have to be pretty perfect in every other way and bloody mortified that he’d done it. I definitely wouldn’t blame you for fucking him right off. Let him explain to his friends and family that you dumped him because he farted in your face and see their reactions.

Gross, and yes of course it would kill the moment.

Disgusting. LTB.

You’re lucky he didn’t follow through, I suppose. Small mercies. No, that’s gross and would put me right off him.

If it just came out, and was louder than normal (maybe due to the position?) and he just found it funny, because loud farts are funny, it's just misplaced humour. DH and I both find farts very funny and have on occasion had one slip out during sex. It happens.

If he deliberately forced one out while your face was in the vicinity then he isn't very nice.

Yes, line well and truly crossed. That would give me serious ick. How much do you like this guy? If there are any other things you're not sure about then I'd dump him. To do that to someone is utterly gross, vile, disrespectful, sick. No one would blame you for ending it with him over this.

Clearly stated in the OP: "I stopped what we were doing as the mood was gone and it stunk."

Omg no! Just no, so disgusting 🤮
Run, please OP. It’d be the end for me definitely

She said in the OP it was exaggerated. Not accidental.

So you have a jokey relationship with, he has now found out where your boundary lies.

He apologised so I would accept that this time. The test will be does he learn, respect and observe that boundary, or do the same or similar again.

The mood would be gone forever if he did that on purpose. Instead of enjoying what you were doing, he was purposefully stinking you out. That's literally gross disrespect.

Accidents happen, no big deal but deliberate? And after only 4 months? What a turnoff.

Is he a teenager? WTF.

He has apologised again today - his defence is he did it with his ex and she found it funny.

For those asking, he said he could have stopped it but did force it out on purpose thinking I’d see the funny side. Obviously things stopped immediately and I’m not sure I’ll be able to be intimate with him again as it stands..

A one off accident - fine. These things happen. We're human.

On purpose - absolutely not ok. Very poorly judged. He's apologised several times so I would forgive especially if you enjoy his company generally. Another similar stunt - dump.

During a 69. Put him in the bin..

I’m late 20’s and he’s early 30’s

Gross. He’s very immature

Well you're not his ex, and if his relationship with his ex was so great, they'd still be together. He clearly has never grown up.

He purposely farted in your face because his ex found it funny (apparently)? Honestly, dump this tosser.

I've seen your ages, if you're wanting to get married and have children, I'd suggest moving on and finding someone more dignified to procreate with.

You'll always think back to this every now and then if you stay with him, which will just give you the ICK all over again. I'm not surprised your vagina clamped shut. Honestly, I thought you were going to tell us you were both teenagers.

He's not mature enough for you, find someone better.