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Was my new boyfriend disrespectful or misplaced humour - incident during sex

202 replies

Amz98 · 12/04/2025 10:32

A bit grossed out by something my BF of about 4 months did last night. We have a really jokey relationship but I think he crossed the line.

We were being intimate and he let out a really exaggerated fart then burst out laughing. He obviously meant to do it and thought I’d find it funny. I stopped what we were doing as the mood was gone and it stunk. He said sorry after but I feel like even with a jokey relationship, that’s going too far?

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Twiglets1 · 12/04/2025 11:30

That’s disgusting, I would be horrified. You should say do that again and we’re finished.

BlueTitShark · 12/04/2025 11:33

Extremely disrespectful.

And I imagine most of the people who voted YABU haven’t seen your update…..

Twiglets1 · 12/04/2025 11:34

BlueTitShark · 12/04/2025 11:33

Extremely disrespectful.

And I imagine most of the people who voted YABU haven’t seen your update…..

Hopefully not or it’s just ridiculously low standards

JimStirlingsPenisTransplant · 12/04/2025 11:36

You should have gone one further and shat on his head.

Vile pig. Dump.

Idontknowhatnametochoose · 12/04/2025 11:38

I don't like a partner farting deliberately around me, never mind during sex. It would turn me right off. An accidental slip out is forgiveable but an unintentional fart, especially during a 69, is just horrid and revolting.

viques · 12/04/2025 11:50

Yuch. Smells are particulate so he was giving you a poo facial.

Upsidedownsides · 12/04/2025 11:54

Gross. Bin him. See if he’s laughing then. Prick

Buildingthefuture · 12/04/2025 11:58

During a 69?? Christ, no way, that’s rank! Immediate mood killer at the very least.

lunaemma · 12/04/2025 11:59

BobbyBiscuits · 12/04/2025 10:59

I very much doubt he did it on purpose. If a fart is coming through then all you can do is release it and laugh. Farting during sex is quite common isn't it? Obviously it stank but I don't think he was doing it to upset you deliberately?!
Not saying it's not off-putting but it's the human body, people do fart!

Hold it! I bet if his celebrity crush was going down on him he would manage to hold it

sanityisamyth · 12/04/2025 12:01

Not great at the best of times but gross during sex.

LadyLolaRuben · 12/04/2025 12:02

Amz98 · 12/04/2025 10:42

TMI probably so apologies but we were doing 69 😑

He did it next to your head/near your face?! No, I couldn't continue with him. It was intentional too. Disrespectful

lowlight · 12/04/2025 12:03

I would find this revolting and not remotely a turn on. Ditch him.

Purpleturtle43 · 12/04/2025 12:03

Amz98 · 12/04/2025 10:42

TMI probably so apologies but we were doing 69 😑

Oh that's awful, bad enough if it was an accident and he was mortified but to do it on purpose, absolutely disgusting. Did you keep going after? I would have been out of there!

Deebee90 · 12/04/2025 12:05

Nope straight away it would be over for me. He’s a disgusting pig. Yes people fart and stuff but to do it deliberately during that act of sex is vile.

pictoosh · 12/04/2025 12:06

Yes, disrespectful, childish, smelly and deeply unsexy.
He has no respect for himself, never mind you.
Tell him to never do that again or finito.

MyKingdomForACat · 12/04/2025 12:15

😱

youlied · 12/04/2025 12:17

You aren’t dating my ex are you? He behaved like this!

BobbyBiscuits · 12/04/2025 12:20

lunaemma · 12/04/2025 11:59

Hold it! I bet if his celebrity crush was going down on him he would manage to hold it

Haha. I honestly don't think it's possible to hold it sometimes mid coitus. I guess he should've just leapt up at the exact moment and rushed to the bathroom, but his mind was probably elsewhere!

I am not excusing it as it's off-putting. But these things do happen and it's better to try and take it with humour.
If she farted she'd not want him to consider leaving her over it, surely?

Ellie56 · 12/04/2025 12:30

Ewww! Gross.

KhakiOrca · 12/04/2025 12:31

If he deliberately done it during g a sixty-niner, then that's gross 😝
But I don't do 69s anymore and haven't done since my 20s lol

lunaemma · 12/04/2025 12:39

BobbyBiscuits · 12/04/2025 12:20

Haha. I honestly don't think it's possible to hold it sometimes mid coitus. I guess he should've just leapt up at the exact moment and rushed to the bathroom, but his mind was probably elsewhere!

I am not excusing it as it's off-putting. But these things do happen and it's better to try and take it with humour.
If she farted she'd not want him to consider leaving her over it, surely?

I think you would react differently though
if I accidentally did it I would be horrified, apologising and bright red probably

BobbyBiscuits · 12/04/2025 12:42

lunaemma · 12/04/2025 12:39

I think you would react differently though
if I accidentally did it I would be horrified, apologising and bright red probably

Yeah, I think I would be a bit embarrassed but I wouldn't let it spoil the vibe, if possible? I'm not sure now...lol

StrangerThings1 · 12/04/2025 12:42

Amz98 · 12/04/2025 10:32

A bit grossed out by something my BF of about 4 months did last night. We have a really jokey relationship but I think he crossed the line.

We were being intimate and he let out a really exaggerated fart then burst out laughing. He obviously meant to do it and thought I’d find it funny. I stopped what we were doing as the mood was gone and it stunk. He said sorry after but I feel like even with a jokey relationship, that’s going too far?

I’d find that a massive turn off, It’s also a sigh of things to come, as he gets to know you better his behaviour will probably worsen.
If it had been accidental that would have been a different thing

MaleficentQueen · 12/04/2025 12:42

Amz98 · 12/04/2025 10:42

TMI probably so apologies but we were doing 69 😑

Oh that’s disgusting of him to do that, especially when your face is in the vicinity! 🤢

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 12/04/2025 12:43

Not this AGAIN.