Was my new boyfriend disrespectful or misplaced humour - incident during sex

[Amz98]

A bit grossed out by something my BF of about 4 months did last night. We have a really jokey relationship but I think he crossed the line.

We were being intimate and he let out a really exaggerated fart then burst out laughing. He obviously meant to do it and thought I’d find it funny. I stopped what we were doing as the mood was gone and it stunk. He said sorry after but I feel like even with a jokey relationship, that’s going too far?

If it was an accident then it would totally kill the mood and be an end to anything sexual but i would find it very funny and would make exaggerated vomming noises in his face.

Just read your update - absolutely not fucking OK! If he really couldn't hold it he should have warned you so you could escape!

Gross.

In your situation, I am sure that the shock of discovering my boyfriend had the grubby humour of a 7 year old would probably have made my jaws snap shut. I doubt that he would have been laughing long at that point. He should consider himself lucky to escape without stitches and you should be grateful you only wasted 4 months of your life on this oaf. In my experience, in the long run, nice manners count for a lot.

Reminds me of a time many year ago when I was giving DH a BJ and suddenly he lovingly cradled my face and guided me up for a kiss.
Romantic? No, he really needed to fart

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He forcibly farted in your face? That’s absolutely disgusting.

A fart accidentally slipping out at an inopportune moment is one thing, but it sounds like he very much did this on purpose.

(Also- is 69 still a thing?)

Absolutely rotten to do it at all never mind during a 69a.

69a?
Not sure I know that one, can you draw a diagram?

No. No No. Utterly disrespectful and shows a massive inability to read the room. Urg! Don't care if he's crusty the fucking clown, you can't chalk that up to humour.

I think this thread is for you OP. 😂 Men are gross.

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I thought it was funny until I read your update. If DH or I did that we would both be mortified. I'd at least give a warning to move. If not, I wouldn't be doing it again that's for sure.

I very much doubt he did it on purpose. If a fart is coming through then all you can do is release it and laugh. Farting during sex is quite common isn't it? Obviously it stank but I don't think he was doing it to upset you deliberately?!
Not saying it's not off-putting but it's the human body, people do fart!

Bore off.

During 69 is absolutely sick.
Accidentally, ok. On purpose, he literally just farted in your face.
I find fart very funny usually, but that's gross.

Yes that changes everything. I'd be appalled. And my standards are not high.

Awful. Bin him off

He done it on purpose? Who’s in the middle of sex and thinks “I’m gona let one rip, for a laugh”. Strange behaviour

Men of all ages rarely ever grow out of playground humour. But now you've said it was a 69, that's fucking gross. Also after only 4 months (as opposed to 20 years of marriage) he deserves to lose you.

I have never been able to fart on command - actually don't know if I have ever tried - so I would have assumed accidental and the laugh was embarrassment. I would definitely be turned off either way. I like a sense of humour but think anyone with an age in double figures should have moved beyond thinking a fart is hilarious.

Accidental fine. But deliberate during 69, sickening.

That would kill the mood immediately. I have such a strong sense of smell I’d find it haunting! He sounds repulsive, disrespectful and childish, would be a permanent turn off for me.

I personally wouldn’t find it funny, although know plenty of perfectly reasonable people who would. It wouldn’t be a dealbreaker though, just tell him you didn’t like it and ask him not to do it again. Obviously if once you’ve vocalised that it’s not your sense of humour he keeps doing it that would be an issue, but you’re in the early stages of the relationship and still getting to know each other there will be times one person does something that the other person finds a turn off or unfunny etc. The important thing is that once he knows you don’t like something he stops doing it.

I don’t understand people who find farts funny. That’s grim.

Irrespective of the fart, in general, a jokey relationship with a husband is normal, irritating, but normal. You have a childish husband, but you know deep down he thinks seriously of you to make the commitment (well, at least until both of your decide to get divorced, but you are financially and otherwise protected).
A jokey relationship with a bf is just that - a joke, he does not take you seriously both de jure (you are randos to each other on paper) and in this instance he is not taking you seriously de facto either. If you are unsure about this gross lack of respect in relation to yourself, imagine a man doing it to your daughter/mother - then the fog will lift and you will see that you are not even accorded the very minimum of consideration, never mind respect.

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