Best friend husband unfriended me on Facebook

[Bernie54]

To be offended that my best friends husband has unfriended me on Facebook. I only noticed by chance. Best friend says don’t take it personal ? But we have been best friends since 14, we are now both 54….they now live quite remotely about 5 hours away, so I don’t see her. I just find it odd behaviour. Should I care or even be bothered ?

Lol, you don’t have to shag someone’s wife to be a shit friend. But you have him on your FB so that’s the definition of friendship, right?

So not liking everything everyone posts on Facebook makes me a shit friend?

It’s a crime, @KewTitles - the FB police will be knocking down your door! 😉😉😉

Nah. Chill. There's loads more going on in the real world to be bothered about

Depends what you are posting. I unfriend friends that get so political (either side) that they get boring. Or if anyone is a chronic moaner or Debbie Downer. 🙈 Life is too short to put up with either when I'm scrolling.

I once had someone contact me to demand to know what kind of fucking nerve I had to have unfriended her on facebook... which kind of illustrated exactly why I had unfriended.
Now I just put people on mute on social media and WhatsApp.... people are nuts!

I can only tell you my experience, if someone posts to much rubbish on Facebook I block them or pictures of their tea or just bombarding with posts, could be that.

I didn’t think people still really used Facebook. Anyway I had a few school mums add me on Facebook then remove me once our children left the school- they obviously only wanted to be nosey, but then when they want to be nosey again try to re-add me but once someone removes me that’s it I’m afraid! My husband’s work colleague tried to add me onFacebook and I just ignored it as I had never even met him.

Hi op,

but if your best friend, his wife, tells you to not take it personally?

It is Facebook, he didn’t uninvited you from your summer visit. I wouldn’t bother. 👌

I don’t do that tbf he posts more than his wife 🤣

This might be a stretch for your situation but my ex having initially friended loads of my friends on Facebook then went on to delete them all, made for some really awkward conversations as he couldn’t explain to me why he done it and I didn’t know when friends asked.

Turned out to be one of the many things he did to try and isolate me from my friends as it turned out he was a very controlling man. It was about making things awkward for me with this and other things.

My husband does this all the time. I think some men are just antisocial. It's a "Man quirk"...would not give it a second thought. It irritates me that my husband does it, but I'm wasting my breath getting on at him for it.

Of course it is. Quite a dangerous attitude to suggest that what happens on social media doesn’t have real life consequences.

If she was cagey could they be going through the process of splitting up and don’t feel ready to tell you yet?

Social media can be so fake, etc , etc ,
but how do you mean it’s not real ?
it’s not fictional either ! !

I got deleted by a family member of whom I'm fond, over some gender critical stuff. Only I'm not very attentive to SM and it took me about five years to notice. Still waiting to care .

Come to think of it, there might be zillions of people I've offended and been blissfully ignorant. FB doesn't actually tell you you've been deleted, does it? How do you notice? I just gradually realised that I hadn't seen anything from a prolific poster for ages...

Personally the only people who are on my FB are people I speak to in real life .your his wife's friend not his if your that upset ask him.

Yes this is my suspicion too, and I know they don’t see anyone and haven’t since they moved there, apart from Xmas day.

Are they ok, not seeing anyone and cutting off people they do know is worrying no? Was the wife talking with you like normal, was she cagey about anything else other than the husband and his unfriending?

I've recently unfriended loads of people. I'm not that into Facebook anymore so unfriended people I don't talk to all the time, especially the people who post everything about their lives. There was a few people I went to school with who posted things like ' bob enjoyed his football today' or 'im tired' or them people who check in at hospital. 😂 It's so annoying. Then there the people who says something fishing for likes. I just really like seeing post from close friends about their families or that.

Husband, best friend, Facebook - are you all 12?

How does he not realise how offensive that is?!

So your actual friend is still connected, it’s just her husband who’s knocked you off his FB?
He’s just not interested in your particular prattle. Don’t worry about it.

I unfriended someone recently who’s got involved in local politics. Her FB is all about schemes, campaigns and petitions. That’s fine, but I don’t need to read it! I still email or call her when required.

Lots of people who get caught cheating are made to delete all members of the opposite sex from their social media afterwards, could this be the case maybe?

Do you post things with strong opinions or maybe even over post of things like a pet or a child of yours?

My sister used to mention all the time "oh I think xyz has deleted me on FB" and she'd stew on it. She posted v v strong political opinions and when people interacted she'd argue / rant over things. A lot of people don't want to see certain stuff. I only know a couple of the people who had deleted did it over that when I'd seen them elsewhere and they'd mention how riled up she'd get on FB and they didn't like it.

She's been banned from FB now though so I don't have to keep snoozing her for 30 days at a time.

Now we can't get through a family event without politics and shouting (from her) so it isn't specific to socials, but thats a whole other thread!