Best friend husband unfriended me on Facebook

[Bernie54]

To be offended that my best friends husband has unfriended me on Facebook. I only noticed by chance. Best friend says don’t take it personal ? But we have been best friends since 14, we are now both 54….they now live quite remotely about 5 hours away, so I don’t see her. I just find it odd behaviour. Should I care or even be bothered ?

Either you and/or he use Facebook a lot but have few interests in common OR you and/or he use Facebook very little and he doesnt feel the need to communicate with you there. I imagine he has just tidied up and removed people he doesn't intrract with.

i got the the whole added on facebook and blocked without any words, i could understand if they needed a break with the friendship but i wish they would of discussed it first so i could say thank you for the chats, and all the best etc

instead it was your blocked, and its like thanks.

so unless they fell in love with me im not sure why the block as that was my other theory based on a few factors and their body language when i did see them in person.

so certainly a puzzlement

She said unfriended, not blocked. Different.

jeez, no need to make OP feel self conscious.

I'd unfriend her and forget about them both.

YABU for still using and caring about Facebook. Have some self respect

IMO there are several different types of unfrienders.

There are the ones who you never engage with, are there just in name, and who periodically cull their friend list based on the fact they never engage with these people.

Nothing wrong with that, and they’re just as likely to be in my cull as I am in theirs. And certainly I wouldn’t take offence.

Then there are the unfrienders who aren’t actually unfrienders, but who have decided to come off fb altogether but haven’t said anything.

And then there are those who actually are friends and who unfriend and you’re not sure why. And those are the ones you might think to question.

E.g. my DP’s brother was telling him recently how much they all love me, how much they really want to see me, and how we should both go and visit. And then about three weeks later I discovered he’d unfriended me on FB. I have no idea why. But in that instance it does make a statement IMO.

I have no intentions of asking why. I haven’t done anything to offend him, so it’s on him as to why. I won’t be making any effort to go and see him now or to engage with him though.

Tbh, Facebook has become nearly unusable in the last few months. I have pages there for work and promotion and it's damn near impossible to see any posts from friends because of the endless pages of ads, posts from people I've never heard of let alone friended, and general random shit. I'm over there as little as possible now and only really post when I have something to promote.

Maybe he feels the same? It's pointless if you're only seeing posts from people you know when they are a week old, and even then they are lost among 'History of Lincoln' posts (I've never even been there) and 'Horses for Sale'.

You’ve still got to actively decide to do it, though. It takes even less thought and effort not to do it.

KewTitles · Today 06:01

Only complete wankers delete people who they haven’t actively fallen out with. It’s so “Look at meeeee! I’m far too important to just scroll past an update I don’t like! My time is just sooooprecious!”

So you are calling @Eastertidings a complete wanker for deleting people they no longer have contact with? They gave genuine reasons to delete people. If you don’t have contact with someone or no longer interested in what they’re up to why do we have to remain Facebook friends?

What about my post are you struggling to understand?

Get over yourself
if you have no contact or interest just delete
says more about the deleted person if they kick off that screams attention as in how dare they

So just to respond to a few comments on here, I am probably one of the only friends my best friend has, and I’m treated like family.

I don’t post a lot, nor do I post about politics, transgender, race, cute kittens or what I’ve had for my tea.

No he doesn’t fancy me🤣 nor do I have a bikini bod…

No I’m not seeing them currently due to the distance but I will travel up in the Summer to see them.

My friend is being a bit cagey said he was going to delete his account but instead deleted some folk instead.

Yes I might be a tad dramatic, intense someone else called me? But what I am is straightforward and open. I just found it strange.

Sorry I can’t add more context it’s hard in a post.

Thanks for all the replies, including the good, the bad and the ugly 😊

I wouldn't take it personally, my husband unfriended everyone last yearbon face book apart from 3 people, including me 😂as he had some sort of social media and digital cleanse thing where he decided social media was a terrible thing and only wanted to use it to keepnin contaxt with three best friends who live on the other aide of the world.
I also have friends who won't go on facebook and never have.
If he is fine with you in real life thats all you need to know. There is no law that says you have to be on facebook.

Delete FB, instagram, twitter (x!) And tiktok. You'll feel a lot better, I promise.

The complete wankers are the ones who post:

”if you’re reading this then congratulations, you’ve survived my cull.” Followed by loads of comments from sycophants saying “oh yay, I’m so happy I’m your friend” <cringe>. Actually that’s another reason to unfriend people.

Or those who post “If you’ve been through cancer/mental health difficulties/<insert heinous disease of choice> copy and paste this to your status so that people know you care. I know only my true friends will post this, so I will be unfriending those who don’t.

I unfriend those as well…

Yeah this.

Have you recently posted something that's quite "marmite" and he's not in the same camp as your way of thinking?

I just deleted a school friend of 30yrs after she's started daily postings about Trump.

No I don’t post about politics no interest.

He is more political than me,

The complete wankers are the ones who post:
”if you’re reading this then congratulations, you’ve survived my cull.” Followed by loads of comments from sycophants saying “oh yay, I’m so happy I’m your friend” <cringe>. Actually that’s another reason to unfriend people.

Well that I definitely agree with! But it kind of proves my point, doesn’t it? People hitting the delete button are usually doing so out of self-importance.

It’s not self-important to delete people from FB, and if this seriously affects you mentally then you need help.

In your opinion

I'm honestly not sure why you are bothered. If your best friend had unfriended you, sure. But her husband? Why does it matter? I doubt you have done anything to offend him, he's maybe just had a cull and cut it down to his own close friend's.

I’d just give your friend a brief “as long as I’ve not offended him or anything that’s fine” and then just leave it at that because that opens the door for them to air any grievances and if they don’t say anything else about it you’ll just need to take it as there’s no issue and move on.

I understand you think people are wankers what I do t understand is why you think people are wankers for wanting to delete people from their own social media. We wouldn’t continue to have a relationship with someone in real life if we didn’t want to so why should we on social media?

You’ll have been liking shitty bot posts about self help or narcs or “dance like nobody’s watching” nonsense.