9 yr old DS, doesn’t let me talk to DH

[LadyGillingham]

He constant interrupts and tries to get the attention of one of us. DH and I work full time so we don’t get much time together. DS won’t let me speak to DH for 5 mins! DH doesn’t stop this behaviour - I think he quite enjoys the attn when 2 people are fighting for him.
It’s also quite sad that DH doesn’t prioritise talking to me. what should I do? Just stop talking to DH until he stands up for me?

This is quite bizarre, so neither of you tell your DS not to interrupt and to wait until you have finished speaking?

If you work full time it might be that your child needs your attention more than the adult, who can wait

Do you not stop the behavior?

I tell him. DH doesn’t back me up. Instead, he stops me mid conversation to give attention to DS!

it is quite sad the picture you paint of your son

Consequences are key her from both parents

My dc do this but I just say "excuse me, DH and I are having a conversation, please be quiet/go away and do something for 5 mins so we can finish our discussion". I also get them to write down what they want to say so they can bring it up later. They have ADHD so interrupting is a symptom but they can learn to manage it.

Errmm no. Children need to learn manners. They can’t interrupt.

DH is the issue here. He needs to back you up.

So, if I work full time, I cannot talk to another adult for 10mins?

Do you work ? I can probably guess!

Do you spend time one to one with your DS, paying him attention? If so, he should learn to wait for his turn.

If you instead spend all the time having adult conversations and ignoring DS, then he is desperate for attention

I have a signal with my daughters - I tap my fingers on their arm to show them I know they're waiting for my attention and I will turn to them as soon as I'm done. If I'm too far away I tap my own arm so they can see.

Yep freelance so pretty much every hour I have at times can be allocated out - work well into the evenings on projects sometimes and have no contact at work other than emails sending and returning projects.
it is still sad how you talk about him - not what you want but the expectation of it all.

We occasionally put our hands up at the dinner table. I have been known to tell DH to put his hand up if he wants to speak.

OP had barely talked about him, she only had 2 comments including her OP when you made your first one.

Yes, plenty. I work 7-3, so I pick him up from school and I spend time with him. DH comes at 730pm.

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My friend was doing that with her ds when he was 10. I'm afraid he still talks over people now he's 18. He's never learned to let people finish their sentence before talking over them. My friend has done him no favours as it's exasperating

I would let Dad have some 1 to 1 time with your DS when he comes in from work. Mine were always excited to see Dad and tell him about their day. Surely you can chat later when DS goes to bed?

You what?

Should I just disappear until it’s bedtime for him then? I really don’t see why I cannot have a 10 min chat with DH.

To remind everyone not to interrupt. Just as rude if it comes from DH as from the DCs.

At 9, he is perfectly capable of not interrupting for 10 minutes. It isn't going to happen as long as DH allows it though.

But it is quite sad that she feels in competition with him and they are all trying to do something at the same time

so @LadyGillingham whst happens at 7:30 and how does your husband interact with him in his time