9 yr old DS, doesn’t let me talk to DH

[LadyGillingham]

He constant interrupts and tries to get the attention of one of us. DH and I work full time so we don’t get much time together. DS won’t let me speak to DH for 5 mins! DH doesn’t stop this behaviour - I think he quite enjoys the attn when 2 people are fighting for him.
It’s also quite sad that DH doesn’t prioritise talking to me. what should I do? Just stop talking to DH until he stands up for me?

I agree even from looking at it from another perspective (and we were at odds earlier) this is a DH issue or I think a relationship issue.

Where the current situation makes her feel like a Nanny and not a partner and resentful and it is spilling over into her relationship with her son

I’m happy to see that I made you laugh though.
At least that’s a good start.

And I didn’t say you’re not allowed your opinion (that’s your interpretation. Not what I said. So no hypocrisy on my side). I did say I disagree and think it’s a shitty take. And I stand by it.

If your DH comes in about 7.30, what time does your son go to bed? My 9 year old goes up about 7.45 for lights out about 8.15 (appreciate everyone is different) so I do wonder how much quality time DH and DS get? That time of day, as others have said, is when children of that age tend to 'offload' their day to be able to settle for the night.
What does sons bedtime routine look like? Does he get a chunk of 1 to 1 time with DH then?
I absolutely agree that children need to learn not to interrupt, but if he is usually a well mannered child, and this is not a typical behaviour, then the root cause needs to be explored to resolve it.

I meant in general, not in that specific moment.

And where’s dad in all this?

Him too