Boyfriend has just blocked me

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Oh god help please..

my boyfriend of 7 months has just blocked me and ended our relationship based on the fact that this morning he whatsapped me to go and shut the kitchen window whilst he was in the shower. The message didn’t pop up on my phone (must of been signal). He came into the room to say did you not get my message? I said no and I went onto WhatsApp and his message popped up.

he has blocked me because he thinks I turned my notifications off because I must be speaking to other men. He also gave me the silent treatment all day and night and I had no idea why until a couple of hours ago.

i do not deserve this and it’s absolutely disgusting but obviously I’m hurt and taken back and need some tough love!

Wow, you have dodged a bullet there. Enjoy your freedom to find someone who will respect you, or to have a peaceful time without someone else for a while.

I know, it’s still very upsetting but my goodness the lack of respect! The insecurity!

That was your clue (probably not the first) he's not worth any of your time. Dump him. Sounds like a twat. A controlling jealous twat.

Good riddance. Do a little dance and move on.

My ex was like this. He knew by doing this he'd leave me in despair almost.

He started doing it to punish me. Over the most smallest things. It got to the point I couldn't take anymore & managed to leave.

It did take me some time to realise my worth. I know it won't feel like it right now but he's doing you the best favour of your life. Block him back & try your hardest to move on whilst you still have your self esteem in tact.

Btw he's a cunt your boyfriend x

He sounds utterly unhinged and unstable, you're safer out of it.

Please don't waste your time crying over this dipshit.

This.

What a massive red flag.

We don't know the full picture, but based on what you said, block him back and go for the rebound.

He's done you a favour. It might feel awful right now, but he has the reddest of flags waving all over him. I suspect he'll be back. Don't let him creep his way back in. It'll only get worse.

I did always think he was abusive in his ways so I absolutely know this is for the best. This isn’t the first time he’s falsely accused me of something and quite literally made me prove myself over something I haven’t done but this is the first time he’s blocked me

im almost feeling a little sense of relief. I am hurt but I know il be ok. He was awful at communicating with me, and would often call me a cunt during minor arguments and become quite aggressive. This morning before I saw his message he said to me “are you dumb or what”

i need to write all this down to hold myself accountable for when he potentially tries to pull me back in. He’s getting the block button back

He’s not right in the head. What a deranged and damaging person.

Stay strong and ignore. He’s gross.

Sounds like you're lucky to have only wasted seven months with this guy.
Funny that it doesn't seem to bother you that he issued you an electronic order to do something while he was right there at home in the shower.

Seven months and he’s already behaved like this a lot. Your boundaries aren’t in a place where you can have a relationship. Do you know why?

I came out of an unhappy 11 year relationship. He fulfilled many needs I was missing so probably rose tinted glasses.

i think I need to take time out for myself now to know what I do and don’t want and remain firm in this for any future relationships

i know what you mean. There wasn’t anything wrong with texting me to close the window but the way he responded when I didn’t do it wasn’t ok, and then because his message didn’t flag it’s been blown out of proportion

He'll be back. This is just another punishment designed to f with your head.

Change your number and change your locks asap

Please try and imagine the relationship you want and realise that this pillock is about 3% of that.

Keep him blocked.

They do this shit and eventually they overstep. I had an ex and it was all bloody mindgames all the time. He overstepped and I left. He was stunned but I knew I was done.

Their just thick basically. They can't function as a normal human being so construct this behaviour to cover up the fact but, for the future, do not allow anyone to call you a cunt more than once.

How wonderful, the rubbish took itself out!
He will come back knocking, don’t fall for it. This should be the honeymoon period, imagine how awful he would treat you in 7 years time. You’ve not escaped one bad long term relationship to waste any more of your precious time in another. Stay strong, no matter how much he turns on the charm xxx

Make yourself a list (or tell us) of all the shitty things he's said and done, I bet it's a long list too.

Bag up his shit and leave it on the door step for him, message him that it's there then block him. He's an abusive arsehole and this is the BEST the relationship will ever be... it is only going to go downhill from here!

Pull on your big girl pants, build a life that makes YOU happy, and think very very hard before you invite anyone else in to share that with you. Get together with someone because you want to, not because you feel you need to.

Thank you everyone.

the list is endless.. I’m going to try and get some sleep now but I will post tomorrow. Let’s just say I’ve had my nights of googling narcasissm, psychopath and sociopath tendencies!

i think I’ve just come out of the love bombing phase and as I am with my children for the next few days, he’s decided to make me suffer (this is a usual occurrence but this is the worst it’s been with blocking me)

Agree, stay really strong now. You know what he’s like and this will never change…… he will try his hardest to work his way back and make it all your fault so your weak and apologize and think you need to make it up to him….. this is abuse….. don’t forget that….. it’s so hard to keep the opinion you have now…. But having written it down here this is how you will always feel with him… don’t waste your life x

Ahhhh... yep. That makes total sense, being an arse to you when he knows you've got a period of focusing on either yourself or someone else, not him. Classic twat behaviour.

As the saying goes, he's showing you who he really is when he behaves like this, so believe him.

OK so he’s served his purpose after a bad break up. He had one job. He’s done it. He can fuck off.

Your job is to heal and grow.

This man has done you the biggest favour in your life. Block him back and never, ever contact him again or respond to his messages (because he WILL contact you back).

This is a potential abuser of the worst kind. You dodged a bullet. Congratulations!

This is not the behaviour of someone I’d want in my life. You have dodged a bullet.